I am in need of a little help regarding one of my future sis-in-laws. I cannot figure out if she likes me or not. She is sending very mixed messages. I have only met her a few times since we live MO & she lives in OH. Most of our communication is via Facebook & Skype, though we did spend a week together w/ the rest of fiance's family in Florida. She seems to be fairly pleasant in person, but is not very nice when we're away from each other. She often posts seemingly mean comments on my posts on FB (Granted, it is hard to read tone & attitude via the Internet, so I could be mistaking her comments, but most seem rather rude). During Skype sessions, she talks mostly to my fiance and says no more than an "mm-hmm," when he or I mentions an accomplishment of mine or something fun we did with my family.
Should I try to figure out her behavior? I'm not mad, just perplexed. Perhaps she feels she is losing her little brother. She has always been very protective of my fiance. When they were kids, she literally spoke for him until he was almost 7; she even told him what to eat & drink. Or the only other thing I can think of is that she thinks she will lose her role as "favorite aunt." She lives with an older brother who has two kids, and she has developed a much stronger relationship with them than my fiance and the other sister have, just for the fact that she's there every day. The two kids are very excited that they are gaining me as an aunt, which gives me much joy, but I did not think I was "replacing" her special place.
Do you have any suggestions on how to build our relationship?