Thanks for all the replys. Things were alot more clear for me after a long nap. I worked 2 24-hour shifts in a row with only 3 hours sleep in between, so everything kinda got to me.
I talked to her about calling my work phone over a non emergency, as that could get me in huge trouble. Otherwise, I just gotta get on FH to pick up our messes before I pick him up. The agreement is that if I'm working so damn hard, he's gotta keep the house up. I have fibromyalgia and simply can't do it right now. Being so sleep deprived kinda blurred who I was suppossed to be frustrated with.
Again, thanks everyone for your input. I do appreciate it.