I guess I can agree with that, also. But I wouldn't tolerate it from a friendship as she describes, where we all do things as a couple. I just have a very low tolerance for pigs, as I was previously married to a huge one. So I'm sure that plays in to it.
Anyway, I think you hit on what is bothering me now. The OP seems to want to be confused, and that is a very dangerous game to play, imo. OP, it's pretty clear what he was trying to do. Once you admit that, then deal with it however you deem best, but it is not unclear what he was trying.
Many men are pigs, but I am very happy to be married to one who is not. I deserve that sort of respect, as does OP. I also require it from people who we are friends with.
I will say that, long ago, we had a couple we were friends with. Her husband and my husband wanted to do a swap. I ended the friendship. And, a couple years later finally ended the marriage. This has most definitely influenced my tolerance for piggish behavior. I have none.
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