you are definitely not taking the easy way out. You've stuck around and courteously dealt with these people long enough, and answered to their beck and call when it comes to money. They've done nothing but use you, and NO ONE should be treated that way.. especially someone as kind and caring as yourself.
You've done far too much for them, believe me, they will not stop this behavior unless you give in and you shouldn't give in. You are not their bank, and just because you and your sons received money form your husbands death doesn't mean you owe them because they didn't get any. This is simply how it works when a person is married, they usually designate everything to go to their spouse and not to their family.
Don't be so hard on yourself, get out of there and get out of there fast. Don't ever look back. You are doing the right thing for you and your boys.
Engaged: January 1, 2008 Getting Married: September 19, 2009