Well DH just called and told me that he could get a transfer to Denver, and all he has to do is make a phone call. He also told me that he talked to his mom, and she agreed that we need to leave because in the long run all we would end up doing is emotionally scarring the boys.
So I guess the best thing to do in this situation is move. Kinda seems like I am taking the easy way out. Guess DH and I are going to have to have a long talk about things tonight.