So FI and I made a deal when it came to picking out gifts for the WP, Parents, and Grandparent gifts. He'd choose and buy for the guys and I'd choose and buy for the gals. The only thing we picked out together was the guys in the WP were cufflinks cause I was looking on ebay for a pair for my father and found a pair that had Captain America's Sheild on it. I showed FI (hes a big Marvel Comics geek and Captain America is his fave superhero) and thus sprung the idea to get the guys cufflinks based on all the Avengers (think Captain America, Ironman, Wolverine, The Hulk, Spiderman, and Thor). Then FI will pick out a little something extra for them.
So for all the girls I decided to have necklace made custom to each of them and got them a little something extra. My cousin has 1 with her birthstone, her daughters, and her husbands. She's really into having family pictures so I found a pewter picture frame at Belks that holds 2 pictures that says then and now. I was going to get a picture of us when we were little then give her 1 of us at the wedding for it.
My SIL has 1 with hers, my nephews, and my brothers. Then I got her a rabbit from the Jim Shore collection she didn't have yet. My paternal grandma has 1 with mine, my little sisters, and our fathers. I found these cute little kitty-cat salt/pepper shakers to add to her collection. My step-paternal grandma has 1 with mine, my brothers, and our cousin christophers. She collects Fabrigee (sp?) eggs so I'm still looking for 1 that isn't like any she has. FI's grandma has 1 that's all amethyst cause her favorite color is lavender...she's obsessed with it. And we're buying her the dress she'll wear to the wedding though we may buy her something else to.
My Momma has 1 with mine my brothers and my brothers son her first grandchild. I got her a similar picture frame to my cousins except its black wrought iron and is meant to be hung on the wall. I was going to either get the 1st picture ever taken of me and her after she gave birth to me or a picture of us on HER wedding day when she married my stepdad, then give her 1 of us on MY wedding day. I didn't get my maternal grandma a necklace cause she doesn't wear jewelry other than her wedding band. But I'm going to get her a yellow or purple rose bush (the only colors she doesn't have in her garden) and I got her a rooster figurine for her kitchen and an angel to add to her angel collection.
Now for the difficult BM. I got my BFF the same necklace with the birth (or rather adoption) stone of each of her 3 cats. But I have no idea what else to get her. I was going to get her something to add to whatever collection she has...she doesn't have one. The only thing she collects is Hard Rock shotglasses from each place she travels to. So I decided to get her a book cause shes a bookworm like me. No idea what she has, what she reads, or if there's any particular books she wants. I thought about getting her a at home spa kit in her favorite scent. She still has a TON of stuff from when we worked together at Victoria's Secret 6 years ago. I went to my fall back plan of when in doubt buy liqour. She doesn't drink anymore. And there's nothing on her wish list that's in my price range right now...it's more she's starting her hanukkah list early of things for mom and dad and BF to buy her.
I honestly have no clue what to get her. FI joked that I should tell her to tell me what she wants or she's getting a teddybear with a dreidel. She's Jewish and we have a running dreidel song/supermario brothers theme joke. Plus I call her my short jew...though she calls me her dumb blonde (even though I'm brunette...I'm ditzy), you'd have had to been there to understand it. So what do I do? What do I get her? I don't want to go to all the trouble of getting everyone else an actual gift then get her a gift card. That just seems a little too much like "I cared enough about them to take time and pick something out. I don't care about you so here's cash." Least as a thank you gift. What do I do?
“In brightest day, in blackest night, No evil shall escape my sight.
Let those who worship evil’s might, Beware my power… Green Lantern’s light!“
I think the book idea is nice. The next time you are at her house, scan her bookshelf and see what she's got. Ask her what she's been reading lately. Base a guess on that. If you go to Amazon and look at one of her favorite books, below it you'll see "People who liked this book also liked...." with several different books. Try glancing through those. You could always get her a gift certificate to the local bookstore, if all else fails.
If you want to get her something else, get her a gift card/certificate to her favorite restaurant or clothing store. It may seem impersonal, but it's a great way to ensure she gets something SHE wants, (and in the right size).
If she's got a good sense of humor, you could get her a "naughty dreidel". I have seen a few of them on Etsy, and they're actually really funny!