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Would you get married on the same date as your fiance's first marriage?

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Beeble Posts : 307 Registered: 11/19/09
Would you get married on the same date as your fiance's first marriage?
Posted: Feb 2, 2011 6:00 PM

Would you get married on the same date as your fiance's first marriage?

We said DEFINATELY NOT, that would be too weird.

Unfortunately that might be the best date available for the venue we are looking at.

I still think that is a NO and I'm not a very superstitious person.

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PharmToxGirl Posts : 5,462 Registered: 8/30/07
Re: Would you get married on the same date as your fiance's first marriage?
Posted: Feb 2, 2011 6:05 PM Go to message in response to: Beeble

I would lean towards no. I guess if it's the only date available - maybe, but I would prefer a stand alone date.

 

 

 

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WellWisher Posts : 175 Registered: 1/2/10
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Posted: Feb 2, 2011 7:09 PM Go to message in response to: PharmToxGirl

I agree with Pharmtoxgirl. Nope! And I'm not superstitious either! Imagine how weird it would be when the ex eventually finds out... And his parents thinking back to X number of years ago...

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CatStandish Posts : 2,767 Registered: 6/20/08
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Posted: Feb 2, 2011 8:20 PM Go to message in response to: Beeble

I'm going with the rest... that's a solid NO. (I even went so far as to avoid the same day number.. For example: First marriage: June 10. Second marriage was not going to be on the 10th....period.)

Misty

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Aunt Posts : 796 Registered: 12/31/10
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Posted: Feb 2, 2011 8:44 PM Go to message in response to: Beeble

Ladies,

I would if it was a really good day and alternatives were not available.

After all, there are only 365 days in a year and every day has SOMETHING associated with it.

"Oh, wow, you are getting married on the anniversary of Napoleon's invasion of Russia?"

If there were alternatives available, I'd probably go with an alternative.

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BrighterThanSun... Posts : 854 Registered: 10/17/08
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Posted: Feb 2, 2011 10:30 PM Go to message in response to: Beeble

I mean I would choose the other 364 days of the year before that one--but if it was the only option than maybe...

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Bride2008 Posts : 3,059 Registered: 3/28/06
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Posted: Feb 3, 2011 9:37 AM Go to message in response to: Beeble

I can see both sides of it, but I wouldn't mind personally. She is his ex for a reason. There life together is over. Why not give him a reason to celebrate the date with his new wife?

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WoodlandBride Posts : 52 Registered: 1/6/11
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Posted: Feb 3, 2011 9:54 AM Go to message in response to: Bride2008

That would have to be a "no" for me. I am not superstitous, but that is just too creepy.
I'm just glad to be in the 'does not apply' category. We are in our 40's and first (only) for both of us.

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Beeble Posts : 307 Registered: 11/19/09
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Posted: Feb 3, 2011 10:19 AM Go to message in response to: WoodlandBride

I'm even trying to avoid the same MONTH if we can. lol.

So it looks like we worked it all out last night and we are going to go with the less favorable venue wise but non anniversary date of July 30th! The plus side is our anniversary will occasionally fall on a long weekend! That will be nice.

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AnnaKay12 Posts : 17 Registered: 12/20/10
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Posted: Feb 3, 2011 7:34 PM Go to message in response to: Beeble

I wouldn't particularly want to get married on the same date, but I don't think I'd sacrifice my venue choice because of it. But as long as you're still happy with the second-choice venue, that's all that matters!

Good luck with all the rest of your planning!

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jbear Posts : 73 Registered: 9/18/06
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Posted: Feb 4, 2011 5:52 PM Go to message in response to: AnnaKay12

no way. i just couldn't do it.

i'm glad you got it worked out and are happy about the new venue :)

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Jaymee Posts : 143 Registered: 10/6/10
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Posted: Feb 5, 2011 9:51 AM Go to message in response to: jbear

Glad that you worked it out!

My wedding date is June 2nd and that happens to be the birthday of one of my FH's ex-girlfriends. We picked the date around when our venue is available and I liked the sound of 6-2-12. My FMIL brought it up awhile after we had told her the date. She wasn't being mean or anything I think that it just dawned on her that it happened to be the ex-girlfriend's birhtday and she just wanted to let me know. Probably so that I could change the date if I wanted to. I brought it up to my FH and he was so surprised. He was like oh yeah that was her birthday. He forgot all about it until I brought it up.

I would probably go with the same anniversary date to get the venue that I really wanted.

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MrsLaff5 Posts : 6 Registered: 2/5/11
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Posted: Feb 5, 2011 8:23 PM Go to message in response to: Jaymee

I wouldn't if I could help it. But, if it came down to that date or waiting X number of months, I'd probably go with that date.

Good luck!

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Beeble Posts : 307 Registered: 11/19/09
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Posted: Feb 7, 2011 11:14 AM Go to message in response to: MrsLaff5

Well we got July 30. Same venue that we wanted but it means my aunt that probably would have taken our pictures as she is a fantastic photographer won't be able to come so we will have to hire someone for pictures. A couple other guests wont be able to make it either, but then we are not going to be on the anniversary date which is great!

I don't think I would care so much if it was a birthday.

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Uberoom1 Posts : 33 Registered: 12/10/12
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Posted: Mar 4, 2013 11:02 AM Go to message in response to: Beeble

With that type of issues, the first answer is a No, No.

Yes, there is 364 days left in the calendar, the question is How desperate are you to marry on that specific date.

If you really want to do it, ask him first if is OK. If you are ready to take all the yapping about it, because it will be a lot of it from everyone that knows him, then go ahead!

Regardless of the date, this is you day, and if he is OK, go for it and enjoy the ride!

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