How many and who should be invited to the engagement party?
Posted: Jan 17, 2011 7:06 AM
My parents are planning an engagement party for us for this June but she has asked me to put together a guest list. Just wondering who should be invited. I did a basic list of parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, and close friends and I am up to over 50! We have really large families but that seems a bit excessive. Also, am I supposed to include my aunt and uncles children? Some of my cousins are over 18 and would like them to be there because we are close but a lot are younger.
It's your engagement party, the people in attendance should be the people who you want to share this wonderful occasion with.
That being said, there is always the possibility of hurt feelings from people who don't get invited. Some respect should be paid to that, without compromising your event. I like to think of engagement parties as similar to any other family celebration and invite accordingly. The people who you would invite to your baby shower, coming of age event (bar/bot mitzvah, confirmation) and thanksgiving should also be on this guest list.
Every family is different, so take a cue from events past and feel free to personalize it to yourself.
Two human loves make one divine.
- Elizabeth Barrett Browning
Our engagement party consisted of us inviting his mom and dad and my mom and dad out for a nice dinner to celebrate. So, go as big or as small as you want. But as you said your parents are throwing it, so why not ask them how much extended family you should invite.