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Is this considered impolite?! I need help. =/

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GothicElegance Posts : 5 Registered: 12/27/10
Is this considered impolite?! I need help. =/
Posted: Dec 31, 2010 11:24 PM

Hey everyone,

I have a question. Is it considered rude to have a church ceremony in one city and then a reception several hours later in another city?

And, on that note, is it considered rude to only invite immediate family and wedding party to the church ceremony and then everyone else to the reception?

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Aunt Posts : 796 Registered: 12/31/10
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Posted: Jan 1, 2011 7:33 AM Go to message in response to: GothicElegance

Dear GE,

Totally OK on both counts.

Be aware that many churches have an "open door" policy. My church, for example, welcomes anyone and everyone to any worship service, including a wedding. A stranger off the street could walk in and witness a wedding ceremony.

If you want to keep your wedding truly limited to your family and attendants, I suggest you talk to the church personnel about their policies regarding walk-ins.

In other words, are you prepared to have a bouncer at the door in the event that some of your reception guests want to be there for the ceremony?

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GothicElegance Posts : 5 Registered: 12/27/10
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Posted: Jan 1, 2011 5:24 PM Go to message in response to: Aunt

Dear Aunt,

Thanks for the advice! I appreciate it.

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myras Posts : 396 Registered: 2/26/10
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Posted: Jan 2, 2011 6:51 PM Go to message in response to: GothicElegance

It's totally OK to invite a small, intimate group to the ceremony and a larger group to a reception. What's NOT OK is just the opposite--inviting people to the church and then not to the reception.

That being said, many people resent being made to wait for hours or to travel long distances between a ceremony and a reception. So, except for immediate family and various closest friends, I would not ask people to do this. If you want a distant reception (distant enough to require a hotel?) you might even consider having the two events on different days, to give people time to travel, rest, and refresh.

myra@classysassyweddings.com

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