Will he propose at Christmas?

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Dizzygirl Posts : 2 Registered: 12/9/10
Will he propose at Christmas?
Posted: Dec 10, 2010 12:23 AM

I cant eat and i cant sleep - LOL! So here is the deal. I know that no one can answer my question but its more to get this off my chest and ask peoples opinion of my situation. I am going to explode!
I found out the other day that my boyfriend went on a secret shopping trip with his sister one week ago instead of going to his friends house (where he said he was going)I found a business card for a jewellers that specialises in engagement rings (already made and custom made). Also i came across a drawing of the exact size of my ring finger. (i was snooping a little - sorry)
When he got home "from his friends house" he told me he may have also gone to the shops for my xmas present. I think he said this as he cant lie to me so telling me a half truth he may not have felt guilty about lying about being with his friend. Just more of a white lie.
Its Christmas in two weeks.....Whats everyone thoughts? Should i trust my gut instinct or am i setting myself up for disappoinment. We live together and have been together for 3 years and have spoken of marriage. He is also not giving me any hints or acting any different....its killing me!!!!


auntofthebride Posts : 9,354 Registered: 4/2/06
Re: Will he propose at Christmas?
Posted: Dec 10, 2010 10:29 AM Go to message in response to: Dizzygirl

Dear DG,

Do everything possible to put this out of your mind. If he's sneaking around like that, any hint that you are on to him will just give him cold feet.

Here's a mind game that I use. When I think of something "forbidden", I take that thought and mentally put in a trunk, then lock the trunk shut.

Then, I try to think of something else, something pleasant in my present life. My dog. My job (I love my job). My car.

Here's another thing to keep you sane. What if Christmas comes and goes without any talk of marriage? Ask yourself, privately and sincerely, how long are you willing to wait? Give yourself a private known-to-you deadline and focus on that.

If your private deadline comes and goes without an engagement, then that is when you have an appointment with yourself to reevaluate the relationship. If your personal goal is to get married, and by the time your personal deadline rolls around there's no talk of marriage, give some serious consideration to breaking up and moving on to meet other marriage-minded men.

Rather than sitting around driving yourself crazy with "Will he or won't he?", make concrete plans for yourself.

"By Jan 1, 2012, I will be either engaged or married to this guy, or I will walk."


PrincessEnglish Posts : 13 Registered: 9/24/10
Re: Will he propose at Christmas?
Posted: Dec 10, 2010 8:00 PM Go to message in response to: auntofthebride


Edited by: PrincessEnglish on Dec 10, 2010 8:06 PM


Dizzygirl Posts : 2 Registered: 12/9/10
Re: Will he propose at Christmas?
Posted: Dec 12, 2010 5:24 PM Go to message in response to: PrincessEnglish



Mrs_Orto Posts : 14 Registered: 7/19/10
Re: Will he propose at Christmas?
Posted: Dec 13, 2010 1:09 PM Go to message in response to: Dizzygirl

I agree with AOTB, stop thinking about it. And for goodness sake, girl, stop snooping! I understand the curiosity driving you crazy but by snooping, you're taking away the surprise and ruining the fun for you both. And also as AOTB said, if he finds out you're on to him, he may not end up doing it. Or he will simply because you found out but the excitement of it is gone. So, just put it out of your mind and let things happen as they will. Thinking about it is only gonna drive you crazy and completely devestate you if you're wrong (I say this from personal experience. I thought my husband was gonna propose at a bonfire I had because of the "hints" I thought I was getting but I ended up being wrong and it sucked sooo bad! But when he did propose, it was so perfect because I didn't know he was gonna do it then). But above all else, I beg you to stop snooping, please! Surprises are always better for all parties when the person being surprised doesn't already know about it. :-)

Mrs. Orto
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ginarook Posts : 15 Registered: 11/30/10
Re: Will he propose at Christmas?
Posted: Dec 13, 2010 6:23 PM Go to message in response to: Dizzygirl

You'll be fine.


HamzicBride Posts : 178 Registered: 12/28/09
Re: Will he propose at Christmas?
Posted: Dec 14, 2010 1:51 PM Go to message in response to: Dizzygirl

Isn't that a question we all have about your beau's?

I wouldn't be keeping your mind on it. Its the same revolving question people post about all the time. The more you think about it, the more you are going to wreck it for yourself or him. I would let it be. Maybe he will, maybe he won't. Either way it will be the most amazing thing you've ever been through-so give it a rest.


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