Raise your hand if you hate bridal showers! I have the big family shower tomorrow and I'm totally dreading it. One grandma ALWAYS has to out do everyone and then feelings get hurt. It's not that I don't appreciate the gifts, but I just feel completely awkward about the whole tradition.
I never could stand the idea of a shower. I simply announced firmly, to anyone who raised the idea of one, that I would decline to attend if there were a shower. It sounds like it's a little too late for you to take that approach, though. You have my sympathy!