The unofficial engagement

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auntofthebride Posts : 9,354 Registered: 4/2/06
The unofficial engagement
Posted: Jul 1, 2010 12:07 AM

Ladies,

The other thread on unofficial engagements is really old, so I thought I'd start a new one.

The messages back and forth about "do you have a ring?" and "has he officially proposed" reminded me of junior high and high school where we first tried to define the many different types of relationships.

We had as many different words for it as Eskimos have for snow:

Seeing each other
Dating
Dating steadily
Having an understanding
Going steadily
Going steady (usually meant a class ring was involved)
Promised
Serious BF/GF
Engaged to be engaged
Exclusive

Now, we can add a few others that have come up in the past couple of years:

Friends with benefits
Live-ins
POSSLQs
Sig Others

And then there was the wide variety of labels for varying sexual experience:

Pure as driven snow
Technically a virgin
Anything-but-that
First, Second, Third Base
Missionary Only
etc.

The fact is that there is a whole range of increasing intimacy between two people who meet, one day, as strangers, then eventually marry. The only reason you need to put a label on it is for public consumption.

People need to know if you are engaged or not engaged so they will know if they need to invite you to a social event together as a couple. (See No Ring No Bring discussions.)

Other than that, you and your guy can come to your own mutual understanding as to the status of your relationship.

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mainstdancer08 Posts : 140 Registered: 3/27/08
Re: The unofficial engagement
Posted: Jul 5, 2010 2:24 PM Go to message in response to: auntofthebride

Me and my bf are no longer unofficially engaged, we are thinking seriously about engagement lately and have some rings in mind but I doubt a engagement is going to happen anytime soon even though we both have jobs now.

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Belwet Posts : 2 Registered: 7/29/10
Re: The unofficial engagement
Posted: Jul 29, 2010 3:30 AM Go to message in response to: auntofthebride

Earlier I was also unofficial engaged but now we are going to marry in December this year.

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KellyAmiri Posts : 29 Registered: 7/25/10
Re: The unofficial engagement
Posted: Jul 30, 2010 7:22 PM Go to message in response to: auntofthebride

lol! Love that list!

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Re: The unofficial engagement
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