I'm just wondering how many other brides will become stepmoms after the wedding?
FH has two sons ages 23 and 22. I'm 31 and FH is 43. It's kind of weird sometimes because I'm closer to the "kids" ages than his. I have a good relationship with them except that they are horribly messy! I guess that might just be their age and being own their own for the first time since they weren't slobs when they lived with FH and me.
We both became stepparents. Mine are (now) 24, 21 and 19. His are (now) 11, 16 and 18. Also, my two oldest just had babies and I can tell you it felt much less "step" for him with the babies. WIth them, it's just grandpa.
But it can be quite trying sometimes, it's definitely an adjustment, might not be so much though since yours are much older initially and you get along well. We had to deal with, for quite some time, a VERY angry, bitter and interfering ex wife. DH had to work hard to create boundaries and enforce them, and after that things got much better.
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