HELP...I'm new and very confused!

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angust87 Posts : 35 Registered: 3/24/10
HELP...I'm new and very confused!
Posted: Mar 24, 2010 3:56 PM

Hey ladies,
I'm new here, my name is Amber, I'm 23 and my BF is Evan, he is also 23. So, long story short, we have been together for a year now. We are going to Mexico in 5 weeks for vacation. Since the beginning of January Evan had been dropping hints like crazy about getting engaged and than for Valentine's day he took me to the jewelry store and i showed him the ring i liked, he got my size and everything...he actually bought me a necklace that day for my v-day gift, he also applied for the jewelry store credit card...well then his sister kept telling me the whole "i know something you don't know" thing and he was still throwing off hints left and right that he was going to do it. well, the beginning of March, so just about 3 weeks ago, he actually said to me "i was going to propose to you in Mexico, but i'm not ready now so...but don't worry about it cuz you have me hooked and you're reeling me in every day." gee thanks honey...that crushed me. he hasn't talked or hinted about it anymore and his sister has no idea what happened, she said he never told her he changed his mind. so, i'm wondering if maybe he really changed his mind cuz he got nervous, or if he knew that i was catching on to his not so subtle hints and had to derail my thoughts fast so that it'll still be a surprise...any thoughts would be great, thanks!

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FutureMrsKlein Posts : 164 Registered: 5/2/09
Re: HELP...I'm new and very confused!
Posted: Mar 24, 2010 4:19 PM Go to message in response to: angust87

I bet that he will propose soon but realized that he was dropping so many hints you wouldn't be surprised. Just enjoy being with your man, It will happen when it is going to.

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ArtBride Posts : 4,838 Registered: 5/9/07
Re: HELP...I'm new and very confused!
Posted: Mar 24, 2010 4:21 PM Go to message in response to: angust87

I would stop thinking about it. It doesn't sound like he's having second thoughts about the relationship, just that he isn't quite there yet - and there's nothing wrong with that, as you haven't been together very long. From what you've said, it sounds like he's trying to reassure you that you're moving in that direction, so I wouldn't worry or stress about it. Don't worry about what happened to make him change his mind about proposing immediately. It could be anything from nerves to changing his mind about the ring to wanting it to be more of a surprise than it would have been had he done it now. And truth be told, the reason really doesn't matter. He has assured you that the relationship is still moving in the direction of marriage, so unless you have reason to doubt him, I'd take him at his word. Stop thinking about it and enjoy the stage that your relationship is at now, because it WILL change when you get engaged and married - and even if all the changes are good, you will miss the way things used to be.

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angust87 Posts : 35 Registered: 3/24/10
Re: HELP...I'm new and very confused!
Posted: Mar 24, 2010 4:34 PM Go to message in response to: ArtBride

thank you ladies very much. i'm enjoying every second with him and love him more than anything. i guess just him actually coming out and saying that completely threw me off and i had no idea what was going on. i mean there still is 5 weeks till vacation, so, i guess i should wait to see what happens than...
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HamzicBride Posts : 178 Registered: 12/28/09
Re: HELP...I'm new and very confused!
Posted: Mar 24, 2010 10:43 PM Go to message in response to: angust87

Some really great advice given. Does you thinking about or trying to figure out what's going on, going to change the situation or what is going on? Probably not right. As posted above, try to enjoy what you have with him, as you posted you have him and that is the only thing that matters. He (from the sounds of it)adores you and you guys will very likely end up growing old and happy together.

Enjoy what you have with him :)

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angust87 Posts : 35 Registered: 3/24/10
Re: HELP...I'm new and very confused!
Posted: Mar 25, 2010 9:38 AM Go to message in response to: HamzicBride

thank you for the advice. i suppose i'm just going to wait it out at least til we get back from out vacation and go from there. he hasn't acted distant or anything since he told me that, he's actually been more attentative, like always wanting to be by me or cuddle with me...so i'm just enjoying the ride lol.
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HamzicBride Posts : 178 Registered: 12/28/09
Re: HELP...I'm new and very confused!
Posted: Mar 27, 2010 6:23 PM Go to message in response to: angust87

Oh believe me, the wait sucks-but really I think in your heart you really don't want to wreck the surprise right. I know there are a couple things I could do to get a few answers as far as my engagement is concerned, but though I absolutely HATE waiting, I don't want to wreck that special moment either.

Keep us posted though on how your trip goes :D
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LOnDZ Posts : 57 Registered: 6/10/07
Re: HELP...I'm new and very confused!
Posted: Apr 3, 2010 8:36 PM Go to message in response to: angust87

Maybe he just told you that to throw you off into thinking that he won't do it in Mexico because he realized you figured it out. Next time, if you get another inclination as to when he plans it, don't let on that you have an idea and tell his sister to stop teasing you with what she knows. LOL That will make it worse.

You may like surprises, but the anticipation is so hard to overcome.

 

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