What's so original, or 'Bridezilla', about a candy buffet? I'm having one at my reception, so the kids will have something fun to take home. Besides that, it's a nice addition to the color pallette. I'm neither bitchy, nor bridezilla-y. Everything's going very smoothly for me, as a matter of fact. I haven't yelled at anyone - yet.
Okay, I actually wrote a blog a month or two ago on my personal website about a friend who is becoming a Bridezilla (and only getting worse by the day *:-/ ). Names have been changed for privacy. I'm going to copy and paste it for you guys:
As some of you may know, one of my girlfriends from _______(insert VänTilBruden's old school's name here)_____, Alyssa, recently got engaged. If you know
that, then you also know she has been driving me up the wall as a
bride-to-be-zilla. Basic rundown of the situation:
Alyssa IMs me, asking my advice on how to ger her boyfriend to
propose to her, but let her pick out the ring. "I love him, but I don't
trust his judgement in jewelry." Okay, fair enough. Some guys are
completely on a different planet when it comes to style, and/or some
girls are incredibly picky. Said couples are probably better off going
this route anyway. So, we sit and have a little chat about it. Little
chat meaning two hours of her explaining to me why she would hate any
ring he'd pick out himself. I end up just IMing her boyfriend, Mike
(who I already knew was thinking about proposing to begin with, and had been asking me to help him pick a ring) and
saying "Just buy her a Ring Pop and propose with that. Then tell her
you want her to pick out the ring herself." Well, he does (although, to
my dismay, no Ring Pop!), and Alyssa is over the moon. End of story?
Alyssa IMs me again, a day or two later, asking me if I would mind
looking through "a few" rings online with her, and giving my critique.
I, being a girl with a passion for shopping, and a love for all things
"wedding", agree. Two hours, and 153 links, later, I'm starting to lose
my patience. I have never seen someone so picky about a ring in my
entire life! Granted, she will be wearing this ring for the rest of her
married life, but this was ridiculous. Imagine over 90 rings, all of
which look the exact same, but hearing nothing but "Oh, there
are four prongs on this ring, I only want three," or "That diamond is a
little too cloudy (does she not realize that you buy a setting and a
diamond seperately, and the pic she is looking at is just an example,
and not, in fact, the actual ring she will get?)," and "I wouldn't want
a vintage ring, I'd be afraid someone had died in it (does she also not
realize that "vintage" is a new ring inspired by an old design, and
what she is talking about is an "antique" ring?)," etc. That's how my
two hours went. So, after trying to explain a few things to her, out
comes the Bride-to-be-Zilla again. She chews me out and says I'm not
being supportive. I tell her that I want to be helpful, but I refuse to
participate until she gets an attitude check.
Alyssa ignores me for a few days, and finally IMs me last night to
apologize for her behavior. The conversation goes something like...
Alyssa apologizes. I accept. Alyssa explains that she has picked out a
ring that both she and Mike love, and shows the final product to me. I
congratulate her and tell her I think it's a lovely ring (which I do, I
just wouldn't want a ring like that for myself). She and I change the
subject briefly, only for Alyssa to abruptly ask why I hated all of the
rings the other night. I explained to her that I didn't hate any of the
rings, and that what I had a problem with was the way she nitpicked, asked for my opinion, and then
refused to take any constructive advice or corrections from me (I.E.
the entire Vintage VS. Antique debate. For the record, she is still
convinced they mean the exact same thing and will not hear otherwise,
so I just gave up). Completely overlooking what I had just said, she
asks me to pick out a few rings online that are more "my" style, so she
can compare/try to make heads or tails of my apparent hatred of her
jewelry. So, I find a few links, and send them to her. Alyssa proceeds
to tear each ring apart ("Why wouldn't you want a classic diamond?
Colored gems look so tacky, it's like something out of the 80's."
"Yellow gold? Yuck! White gold is so much cleaner looking, I just
couldn't wear a ring if it were yellow gold. This was exactly why I
worried about Mike picking my ring." etc.), and tell me I have very,
for lack of a better term, trashy taste.I tell her exactly where she
can shove that opinion, and she ignores me for a good hour or two. She
IMs me again, apologizing for being so "brash", and asks if I can
possibly help her with something more constructive (and less style
oriented): the budget. Now, that I can do. So, I talk with her about
her approximate guest list size, what kind of venue she wants, what
kind of dresses she will want for her and her bridesmaids, all that
nuptial jazz). We come up with a rough sum estimate, and I email the
budget outline to her.
This morning, before leaving for school, I get an email from Alyssa
saying she's changed her mind about something on the budget, and I need
to IM her "asap". I'm almost banging my head on the dining table as I
write this. I don't think I have the guts (let alone the patience) to
get online today! *:P
The girl, Alyssa, is normally a total sweetheart. I can't wrap my mind around why she's going this nuts. Weddings do crazy things to people...
Love me when I least deserve it, because that is when I need it the most. (Swedish proverb)
Wow, Van, that would be so frustrating!
Luckily for me all the girls I know who are getting married are being pretty level-headed about the whole thing - or at least it seems like they are.
I do think that my one friend being upset that they can't have two weddings (one in her hometown, one in his) is a little silly, since they've been broke their whole relationship! But she recovered fast and is going to have the coolest, gothic/metal inspired wedding ever! HollyElise
21. Canadian. Stay-At-Home Wife. Living in Hawaii.