DO I HAVE TO GET MARRIED BY CITY HALL 1ST TO HAVE A CHURCH WEDDING?

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SexyNegra Posts : 8 Registered: 9/8/09
DO I HAVE TO GET MARRIED BY CITY HALL 1ST TO HAVE A CHURCH WEDDING?
Posted: Nov 5, 2009 12:55 PM

Hi i'm from northern NJ, and I dont know if I have to get married by city hall 1st to get married by a church? or do I just get my marriage lincense and get married where ever I want? We want to get married 7/7/11 it lands on a thurs, my fiance is worried about the date being an inconvience for people if we get married on a thurs. So what do you girls suggest? we get married by city hall 7/7/11 and have the formal wedding dat wkend or later in the summer? and which wedding date do you consider your offical anniversary? the city hall wedding or church? Please help!

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auntofthebride Posts : 9,354 Registered: 4/2/06
Re: DO I HAVE TO GET MARRIED BY CITY HALL 1ST TO HAVE A CHURCH WEDDING?
Posted: Nov 5, 2009 1:57 PM Go to message in response to: SexyNegra

Dear SN,

In the United States, the civil ceremony and religious ceremony are one and the same. The clergy member who officiates at the religious ceremony is also authorized to sign the marriage license and submit it to the state.

You have to choose between two options:

1. Get married on 7/7/11 in the church, thus your church wedding, civil wedding are one and the same. Those who can attend, will attend. Those who can't, won't.

2. Get married on 7/7/11 in the courthouse then have a fake wedding some time later. Those who can attend, will attend. Those who can't, won't. Be prepared for some to not be terribly interested in a fake wedding.

3. Get married 7/7/11 in the courthouse, then throw a delayed reception later. Again, you might have some who aren't all that interested in a reception-only event.

Personally, I think you're nuts to insist on 7/7/11 if it means many of your friends and loved one won't be able to come because it's during the work day. Having my friends and loved ones around me as I said my REAL vows meant a lot more to me than some date.

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Bride2008 Posts : 3,058 Registered: 3/28/06
Re: DO I HAVE TO GET MARRIED BY CITY HALL 1ST TO HAVE A CHURCH WEDDING?
Posted: Nov 5, 2009 2:47 PM Go to message in response to: SexyNegra

What's so important about 7-7-11?

 

 

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SexyNegra Posts : 8 Registered: 9/8/09
Re: DO I HAVE TO GET MARRIED BY CITY HALL 1ST TO HAVE A CHURCH WEDDING?
Posted: Nov 5, 2009 3:02 PM Go to message in response to: Bride2008

7/7/11 is the day we want to get married offically, we're leaning towards getting married in city hall and that weekend do a more formal wedding for our guests and family

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Bride2008 Posts : 3,058 Registered: 3/28/06
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Posted: Nov 5, 2009 3:05 PM Go to message in response to: SexyNegra

Yes, I get that you want to get married that date. What I am asking is WHY that date?

 

 

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SexyNegra Posts : 8 Registered: 9/8/09
Re: DO I HAVE TO GET MARRIED BY CITY HALL 1ST TO HAVE A CHURCH WEDDING?
Posted: Nov 5, 2009 3:26 PM Go to message in response to: Bride2008

We agreed on that date

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Bride2008 Posts : 3,058 Registered: 3/28/06
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Posted: Nov 5, 2009 3:27 PM Go to message in response to: SexyNegra

Fair enough - maybe you can tell me who's on first then.

 

 

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SexyNegra Posts : 8 Registered: 9/8/09
Re: DO I HAVE TO GET MARRIED BY CITY HALL 1ST TO HAVE A CHURCH WEDDING?
Posted: Nov 5, 2009 3:28 PM Go to message in response to: Bride2008

i'm sorry what do you mean who's on 1st?

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NJ4Life Posts : 3,358 Registered: 8/10/07
Re: DO I HAVE TO GET MARRIED BY CITY HALL 1ST TO HAVE A CHURCH WEDDING?
Posted: Nov 5, 2009 3:29 PM Go to message in response to: SexyNegra

Well if you are so concerned with having to go to city hall first, which you do NOT have to, then why wouldnt you pick a weekend day? It doesnt really sound like there is a significance to this date, which Bride2008 is asking you. It will be easier on everyone involved, no?

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SexyNegra Posts : 8 Registered: 9/8/09
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Posted: Nov 5, 2009 3:30 PM Go to message in response to: NJ4Life

Yes a weekend would be easier

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Ebby102310 Posts : 57 Registered: 2/3/09
Re: DO I HAVE TO GET MARRIED BY CITY HALL 1ST TO HAVE A CHURCH WEDDING?
Posted: Nov 5, 2009 3:31 PM Go to message in response to: Bride2008

Classic..lol. Gotta love it.

After the wedding comes the real funSmile

 

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auntofthebride Posts : 9,354 Registered: 4/2/06
Re: DO I HAVE TO GET MARRIED BY CITY HALL 1ST TO HAVE A CHURCH WEDDING?
Posted: Nov 5, 2009 3:58 PM Go to message in response to: Bride2008

Dear B2008,

They picked a date that will be inconvenient for their family and friends, so now they want a fake wedding that is convenient for their family and friends.

Makes no sense to me, but go figure.

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LieneVargo Posts : 10 Registered: 10/27/09
Re: DO I HAVE TO GET MARRIED BY CITY HALL 1ST TO HAVE A CHURCH WEDDING?
Posted: Nov 6, 2009 12:28 AM Go to message in response to: SexyNegra

It is more than ok to get married on thursday. Just do you event later in the day. In that way more guests will be able to attend your special celebration and you will get your special date.

You can create a beautifulul afternoon ceremony/reception, add some candles and lanterns to create more romantic feel.

Let me know if you need some ideas, would love to help you.

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PharmToxGirl Posts : 5,446 Registered: 8/30/07
Re: DO I HAVE TO GET MARRIED BY CITY HALL 1ST TO HAVE A CHURCH WEDDING?
Posted: Nov 6, 2009 8:20 AM Go to message in response to: SexyNegra

Obviously you can do what you want to do and have your wedding on a Thursday - although why you would is beyond me when you have time to plan it on a weekend.

That said, even with MONTHS advance warning - I personally would probably NOT be able to take off 2 days from work when I have other large vacations planned. So you DO have to be prepared for people to not come - which is THEIR right.

So no being pissy when most people RSVP No.

 

 

 

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SexyNegra Posts : 8 Registered: 9/8/09
Re: DO I HAVE TO GET MARRIED BY CITY HALL 1ST TO HAVE A CHURCH WEDDING?
Posted: Nov 6, 2009 10:26 AM Go to message in response to: LieneVargo

Thanx! We're talked to our families and they are completely fine w/ it, we're going to get married at city hall on 7/7/11 and that sat have a wedding at the church.

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