donations as wedding favors

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rocky5 Posts : 23 Registered: 7/16/09
donations as wedding favors
Posted: Aug 23, 2009 12:00 AM

hey everyone! so i wanted to do a donation as a wedding favor but im having some trouble deciding/finding a good cause to donate to. i was thinking something with animals, and i know that you can donate to the aspca and they'll even give you cards to put on the tables, but i was thinking maybe wildlife animals? or giving to a charity for military families because there are so many people in my life that are in the military. sooo if anyone has any suggestions on some charities that are based on these that would be great! also, is it weird to donate to more than one charity for a wedding? thanks!
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PharmToxGirl Posts : 5,446 Registered: 8/30/07
Re: donations as wedding favors
Posted: Aug 23, 2009 12:13 AM Go to message in response to: rocky5

Military - the USO is always good.

Wildlife - I'm a fan of WWF (World Wildlife Federation ).

Personally, I'm a huge fan of the SPCA and Noah's Ark.

But I think it's important to pick something close to you.

 

 

 

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consonance Posts : 11 Registered: 12/3/08
Re: donations as wedding favors
Posted: Aug 23, 2009 1:16 AM Go to message in response to: rocky5

Favors aren't necessary. If you're going to donate, do it because you want to, but there's no need to advertise it. That's rubbing it in your guest's faces that you didn't give them a favor.

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PharmToxGirl Posts : 5,446 Registered: 8/30/07
Re: donations as wedding favors
Posted: Aug 23, 2009 1:44 AM Go to message in response to: consonance

I think the point is they DO want to give a favor and I for one would NOT be offended by this. As this topic has come on these boards rather oftern - I can also say that most ladies on here would not be offended as a guest.

 

 

 

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Hollywood410 Posts : 1 Registered: 8/23/09
Re: donations as wedding favors
Posted: Aug 23, 2009 1:53 AM Go to message in response to: rocky5

I'm not offended by donations as favors, but I find it odd that you just decided you wanted to do this and are now looking for a cause to support. If you had a cause that was already really important to you/close to your heart then it would make sense and the guests would all understand why you did this as a wedding favor. But I don't know - it seems weird, and it seems like you are just doing it so people know you are charitable.

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consonance Posts : 11 Registered: 12/3/08
Re: donations as wedding favors
Posted: Aug 23, 2009 1:57 AM Go to message in response to: Hollywood410

Fair point, holly.

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MsMeghann Posts : 147 Registered: 3/4/08
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Posted: Aug 23, 2009 12:15 PM Go to message in response to: consonance

We did did 2 donations instead of favors for our wedding and it worked out really well. We picked one organization that was close to DH and one that was meaningful to me, as well. We used guidestar.org -- it was very helpful to know which charities are real (yes, some places are fronts, which is sad). Also they have all the contact information, breakdown of funds and how they are used, website info, etc. You can even search for different types of organizations.

And, just fYI to the two PPs who said it's rude/rubbing it in guests' faces/weird, I completely disagree. We wrote a very nice note to our guests to let them know what we did, saying that it was for them in their honor, instead of offering more food or something that would just be thrown away. We printed out nice tent cards with the note on it (I have pics if anyone's interested). Our guests found it to be incredibly meaningful and heartfelt -- much more so than a trinket.

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rocky5 Posts : 23 Registered: 7/16/09
Re: donations as wedding favors
Posted: Aug 23, 2009 12:44 PM Go to message in response to: rocky5

well thank you to those of you that put in good advice...and as meghan said im not doing a donation just so people will think that im charitable. i want the money to go to something more meaningful than a piece of candy or a candle thats just going to get thrown away later. and i also dont want my money going to a cause that isnt legitimate. thanks to everyone that helped!

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triciam Posts : 128 Registered: 2/19/09
Re: donations as wedding favors
Posted: Aug 23, 2009 5:28 PM Go to message in response to: rocky5

I am also doing donations in lue of favors which I think is a much better way to spend that money than on favors that most guests either leave behind or never use (depending on the favor of course). Anyways, my suggestion is do something meaningful and maybe choose a local organization. I have chosen our local humane society because they really need all the donations they can get. The other place I am considering is our local cancer home (it is where terminally ill cancer patients go to die but are in a home like setting). That is my suggestion- something meaningful to you and your fiance and local.

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auntofthebride Posts : 9,354 Registered: 4/2/06
Re: donations as wedding favors
Posted: Aug 23, 2009 9:44 PM Go to message in response to: rocky5

Dear Rocky,

There are mixed opinions on this. Many people give donations in lieu of favors, and it's certainly worthwhile, but I personally don't like the idea.

"Here's a present for you. No, I'm taking it back and will donate the money to a charity of my choice instead."

"Oh, um, thanks."

If you don't want to waste your money on stuff that you believe no one will use/consume, then just skip favors. There's no particular reason to give something out just for the sake of giving something out. Skip them.

The next issue is that there doesn't seem to be a particular cause that excites you now. It seems dumb to just pick some charity at random just because you have to find something, anything.

What are you going to tell people?

"Oh, I see you made a donation to XYZ Charity."

"Yes, I did, as I did not want to waste money on a favor for you, since you'd probably throw it away anyway."

"Well, XYZ Charity must mean a lot to you. Tell me, what do they do?"

"I dunno. They help animals, I guess, so I figured I'd send the money to them. I never heard of them until a month ago."

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FutureMrsDJLeo Posts : 615 Registered: 2/26/09
Re: donations as wedding favors
Posted: Aug 23, 2009 9:58 PM Go to message in response to: rocky5

I really like the idea of donating, it's actually something that I'm thinking of doing too for our wedding favors. You don't owe your guests wedding favors, so if someone has a problem with it that's there problem, not yours. I'm sure there are a lot of other wedding favors out there that people have recieved and didn't care for, but you wouldn't go up to the bride and groom and say "I don't like this, can you get me something else?" It's the thought that counts, and honestly, how many other favors will people actually use? Atleast this is something that goes to a good cause.

I would suggest researching the charities that appeal to you, and go from there.


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rocky5 Posts : 23 Registered: 7/16/09
Re: donations as wedding favors
Posted: Aug 23, 2009 11:25 PM Go to message in response to: rocky5

to those of you that are criticizing donations as wedding favors on this thread, that's fine and i understand your opinion, but if you'll reread my question, i didnt ask if you agreed with them or not, i asked what some good charities for the military or wildlife would be...and i dont mean to sound like a b****, but your opinions of donations aren't going to make me change my mind on doing donations as wedding favors...ANYWAY, i've decided to donate to the ASPCA and WWF for my own reasons that i dont feel i really need to validate to anyone :)

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rocky5 Posts : 23 Registered: 7/16/09
Re: donations as wedding favors
Posted: Aug 23, 2009 11:26 PM Go to message in response to: rocky5

p.s. thanks to pharmtoxgirl for suggesting WWF...that was a great idea!

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sunkissdluster Posts : 8 Registered: 2/5/07
Re: donations as wedding favors
Posted: Aug 24, 2009 2:37 AM Go to message in response to: rocky5

I agree w/ PharmTox... do something that is close to you! For example, I volunteer at the Humane Society of Utah and plan on asking my guests to donate to them instead of a bridal registry! So if wildlife or the armed forces are close to you, I suggest doing a local charity in the area of where you live or maybe a national park you used to visit.

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Stephy77 Posts : 109 Registered: 9/2/08
Re: donations as wedding favors
Posted: Aug 24, 2009 4:06 PM Go to message in response to: sunkissdluster

What we decided to do was a wedding themed donation.

There are so many causes we talked about for different reasons and then I read an article about dream foundation granting the wish of a bride with stage 4 breast cancer her dream wedding. That clicked with me so we sponsored a wedding related wish and posted a brief write up on the donation card.

We also had an inexpensive chocolates with dated thank you wrappers in a box at the place settings so people felt like the still got something.

http://www.dreamfoundation.org/

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