My dad refuses to walk me down the aisle... now what??

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LaJoieAuMonde Posts : 17 Registered: 7/8/09
Re: My dad refuses to walk me down the aisle... now what??
Posted: Jul 16, 2009 11:01 AM Go to message in response to: MagicalMomentsP...

When people ask me what my religion is i tell them a non denominational christian. Mainly because of what you said, I am not opposed to any other form of chrisitanity, but I choose to to dedicate myself to a denomination. I've been members of several different denominated churches such as christian reform, non denominational, traditional christian, and i've been to a few catholic services. Each have their own unique way of showing their commitment to christ. I have even met catholics who have no problems with relationships and marriages between catholic and other christian denominations. We all believe in the same God. Why do we have to seperate ourselves in a negative way. I am fine with the way you choose to worship, and i would hope you are fine with the way i choose to worship. We shouldn't let all that little stuff get in the way of something like a family being their for their daughter.

Glad you are a strong woman.

I'll have to say even though i don't have this exact problem i do have some issues with my side of the family and my wedding...it had made me consider taking a different aproach to walking down the isle. Thank you eveyone for some great ideas!

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AmandaJ0 Posts : 34 Registered: 3/1/09
Re: My dad refuses to walk me down the aisle... now what??
Posted: Jul 16, 2009 11:31 AM Go to message in response to: TheresalovesSte...

I am glad I am not the only bride who is having a bit of trouble with being escorted down the aisle! My father died when I was three and my stepdad and I aren't close. However, I am very close to my baby brother and my grandfather. I don't want to hurt either of their feelings so I too am thinking of walking down by myself. I figure that in time the answer will come to me. I have enough other things to stress about and it sounds like you do too. I believe the correct answer will reveal itself in time. Hope this helps!

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auntofthebride Posts : 9,354 Registered: 4/2/06
Re: My dad refuses to walk me down the aisle... now what??
Posted: Jul 16, 2009 12:54 PM Go to message in response to: AmandaJ0

Dear Amanda Jo,

""My father died when I was three"

Here's an idea. Walk by yourself, but imagine your father there with you. His love for you continues,even after death. Another option would be to walk with your mother.

My niece lost both her parents at a young age. When she got married, she wanted to walk alone, but symbolically with her mother and father on either side. I could totally see both of them as she came down the aisle. (I was a sobbing mush by then.)

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AmandaJ0 Posts : 34 Registered: 3/1/09
Re: My dad refuses to walk me down the aisle... now what??
Posted: Jul 17, 2009 10:15 AM Go to message in response to: auntofthebride

Aunt, I will probably (99% sure) walk by myself but your right my dad is always with me! Thanks!

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jpersing Posts : 21 Registered: 7/12/09
Re: My dad refuses to walk me down the aisle... now what??
Posted: Jul 18, 2009 11:28 AM Go to message in response to: AmandaJ0

I hope your parents would not let religion stand in the way of not seeing their daughter get married, it's a once-in-a-lifetime occasion.My husband can commiserate with you because he had to undergo 6 months of adult religious education to convert from Protestant to Catholic. In the end, love conquers all!

The church where our wedding was held made me walk halfway down the aisle alone and then halfway down to the altar, my parents walked with me.

Here are pictures to my wedding
http://www.ehow.com/how_4863199_become-own-wedding-planner.html


Love conquers all fears.

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Knoxvegas Posts : 951 Registered: 9/12/07
Re: My dad refuses to walk me down the aisle... now what??
Posted: Jul 18, 2009 7:45 PM Go to message in response to: jpersing

I think you have gotten a lot of good advice. I think walking by yourself is a good idea.

I'm sorry to hear about your family religion issues. I hope that they can come around soon, ideally before you and FH have kids (if you plan on them). My DH is Catholic and I am Protestant (for now- we have considered being Episcopalian because it is in between) and I can't imagine our wedding without his family. I am the only non-Catholic in the whole DH family.

Be strong and know that we are here for you.

 

"Love is not a matter of counting the years -- it's making the years count."

-Wolfman Jack Smith

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EmyEmz Posts : 21 Registered: 7/9/09
Re: My dad refuses to walk me down the aisle... now what??
Posted: Jul 20, 2009 1:09 PM Go to message in response to: TheresalovesSte...

I agree, if your parents are not going to be there to support you, then yes you can walk yourself down the isle, but also you can ask a best friend, and if you are close to your future in laws, you can even ask your fiance's father to do the honor. Remember, family extends to alot of different meanings now a days, so do what will make you happy.

"We may not have it all together....But together we have it all!"

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JayKayinlove Posts : 33 Registered: 1/22/09
Re: My dad refuses to walk me down the aisle... now what??
Posted: Jul 28, 2009 8:37 PM Go to message in response to: TheresalovesSte...

i walked down the aisle by myself. I also had a cross in my hand along with my bouquet so i had my savior with me too. I'm sorry your family is being deffult. bless you for staying strong to your beliefs.

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GollumsGirl Posts : 57 Registered: 7/7/09
Re: My dad refuses to walk me down the aisle... now what??
Posted: Jul 28, 2009 10:45 PM Go to message in response to: TheresalovesSte...

A friend of mine had the entire congregation give her away. Because everyone at the wedding was such a huge part of her life, not just her dad, and because we were all there as witnesses to their union, to hold them to their vows, etc. So when the pastor asked who gives this bride, there was a loud "WE DO!!"
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CatStandish Posts : 2,766 Registered: 6/20/08
Re: My dad refuses to walk me down the aisle... now what??
Posted: Jul 29, 2009 12:16 AM Go to message in response to: GollumsGirl

AWESOME!

My minister will be asking who blesses the union instead of who gives this bride away. That's another way to not have someone give you away, but ask who will support and bless your marriage.

Misty

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FunkyBride Posts : 17 Registered: 7/28/09
Re: My dad refuses to walk me down the aisle... now what??
Posted: Jul 29, 2009 9:11 AM Go to message in response to: TheresalovesSte...

Hi Theresa... I'm very sorry to hear what your going through right now. It's very disheartening and hypocritical of them. But regardless... its is perfectly fine for you to walk down the aisle by yourself. If you are nervous about that or don't want to... how about the best man? What better guy to bring you up to your new husband than the "best" one. Also I have seen where Hubby's walk down and meet you in the middle and you finish the last half together. Very symbolic. One last thing... is your mother going? It is also normal now a days to be given away by a female family member. Just some thoughts. Good luck!
....Smells like Teen Spirit....

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Sharkgirllovesc... Posts : 39 Registered: 12/5/08
Re: My dad refuses to walk me down the aisle... now what??
Posted: Aug 5, 2009 1:59 AM Go to message in response to: FunkyBride

My mom had the same issue. My father said he was Catholic, my mother Baptist. My father loved my mother so he got married in a Baptist Church. But his family refused to attend. So a week later, they had another ceremony in the Catholic Church.

The upside? She got to celebrate two anniversaries AND got to split them between family with no problems =)

Many many years later, my aunt on my father's side converted to Baptist grins

When I asked my grandfather to walk me, as my father has been gone for 6 years now, his first question was "Are you getting married in a church?" I flat out told him no because 1-The congregation is a mixture of religions, 2-The groom isn't very religious and 3-It was waaaaay cheaper to have it in my MIL's back yard!!

Also, I'm sorry but I am a Christian and even I can understand that there ARE issues with "religious organizations" That's one of the reasons I don't attend a church. But I still pray every day and do the best I can in my life. I'm saved and that's all that really matters in the end, well to me that is.

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