Confused! A Justice of the peace ceremony now and a traditional ceremony l

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PharmToxGirl Posts : 5,446 Registered: 8/30/07
Re: Confused! A Justice of the peace ceremony now and a traditional ceremony l
Posted: Jul 29, 2009 11:21 PM Go to message in response to: soontobemrssmit...

I have no issue with a what you are proposing and I also do suggest that you head to the vow renewal thread.

BUT I also have to say - you can't post for advice with caveats in a public forum and then get upset because someone who doesn't agree with you posts a reply. You are in a public forum and opinions will be posted - like them or don't.

 

 

 

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Agape14 Posts : 201 Registered: 12/31/08
Re: Confused! A Justice of the peace ceremony now and a traditional ceremony l
Posted: Jul 30, 2009 12:03 PM Go to message in response to: soontobemrssmit...

I think it might be awkward to do an institutional religious ceremony more than a couple of weeks or a month at the most after your wedding, because what would you call it as you'll already be married and for some time? I think an anniversay party like Myra suggested might be better, and you can include a blessing during the festivities if you want to incorporate the religious element.

You can do many of the same elements as you would have at a wedding (colours, themes, favours, invitations etc etc) and wear a fancy dress, but I wouldn't have attendants or a head table or anything like that. Instead, you could have all of the guests participate in the blessing (pastor/priest/reverend can ask who supports this marriage and either everyone can stand up and say We Do). And otherwise it would be just like a wedding reception but you'd be calling it an anniversary reception (or something along those lines).

OR...And this is what I would do...Just postpone your wedding till next year when you have the funds to do it the way you want to and your family and friends can attend. This way you don't have a disjointed and long-delayed celebration, no confusion of what to call things/how to do things, you and your guests won't be confused about etiquette, and there's one coordinated event with all of your family and friends in attendance and supporting you.

 

 

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somedaysoon Posts : 32 Registered: 5/18/09
Re: Confused! A Justice of the peace ceremony now and a traditional ceremony l
Posted: Jul 30, 2009 1:38 PM Go to message in response to: Agape14

while i have no problem with a vow renewal/anniversary party (i like anniversary party better, personally), i too wonder why you wouldn't just wait to have the wedding next year. as you say, you've been in a long-term relationship and have children together, whats the rush? why not save any confusion on the matter and have a big to do (w/attendants and showers and the whole 9 yards) next year? if you do a jop ceremony now and wait to do the anniversary party, you are kind of missing out on all the extra parties and fun involved in weddings (i suppose you could still have them prior to the anniversary party, but it would seem very - sorry for the choice of words - tacky).

best of luck to you, whatever you decide to do.

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FrancieElaine Posts : 654 Registered: 6/26/09
Re: Confused! A Justice of the peace ceremony now and a traditional ceremony l
Posted: Jul 30, 2009 8:37 PM Go to message in response to: soontobemrssmit...

Hello,
I wish you the very best in the planning of the celebration of your marriage. In the end, it is your special day and it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. I am glad your family is so supportive and will be there to celebrate your special day.

Francie Elaine, The Bride Whisperer

http://twitter.com/BrideWhispering

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SillyGirl Posts : 63 Registered: 11/22/07
Re: Confused! A Justice of the peace ceremony now and a traditional ceremony l
Posted: Jul 30, 2009 10:45 PM Go to message in response to: FrancieElaine

Post everywhere here,
YOU are having YOUR wedding next year. This is a wedding site go nutz IMO.

Yeah you can call it your anniversary party, your vow renewal thingy but to YOU its YOUR wedding. Don't let word play or antiquated use of the word wedding or nit picky busybodies get you down.

To avoid drama in your posts and making AOTB tsk tsk excessively I'd avoid mentioning the JOP paperwork/ceremony if you don't care post away

Oh, Crongadulations on your up coming wedding, both of them

A funny blurb on the overuse of the word "tacky"
http://offbeatbride.com/2008/07/tacky

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soontobemrssmit... Posts : 7 Registered: 7/29/09
Re: Confused! A Justice of the peace ceremony now and a traditional ceremony l
Posted: Aug 11, 2009 10:01 PM Go to message in response to: PharmToxGirl

Well whatever they can all go somewhere with their judgmental behinds, but anywho I'm excited because MY PLNNING IS COMING OUT SO WELL!!!

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