wanting to plan a party for my husband

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mazzy26 Posts : 21 Registered: 4/28/09
wanting to plan a party for my husband
Posted: Jun 10, 2009 4:18 PM

Ok. So first off I'll fill you in. We got married last July 2008. in the courthouse. My mom wants (well of course i do too) us to have a beautiful wedding still so that is planned for Sept. 6 2009. So. with that being said. I was thinking of planning a party for my husband (groom). Now. here is what im stuck on. The party would also be for me. Since we are not bachelors/bacholerettes anymore. I would be kind weird to call this one. Myself, I dont have many friends who would plan that sorta thing for me. So that is why I am doing this myself. But i dont want my husband to know about it. I duno how to go about calling this party, or how to invite people/friends/family to this party. That is what im stuck about. I am in some need of advice if anyone has been in this situation before or been to such a party.
I dont wanna sound greedy putting on this party, its not for presents or anything of that sort. Its just we never had a party for us, for getting married in the first place, or being engaged or anything like that. I just wanted to make something special for my husband yano?
Wel thanks in advance for those who can help!

Kayla



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TanisJ Posts : 2,669 Registered: 4/25/07
Re: wanting to plan a party for my husband
Posted: Jun 10, 2009 6:11 PM Go to message in response to: mazzy26

hmm this is a different kind of situation. I understand because we also didn't have any pre-wedding celebrations because I was in Canada and he was in USA. We didn't do anything like this but if we were too this is probably what I would do. I would avoid calling it an engagement party or bachelor/bachelorette party because you are already married. Why not just have a "Celebration of love party?" You could somehow let him know all the things you love about him. Maybe a big poster? Of course you could serve food he loves. I'd also scan through Valentine's Day ideas because I bet theres a lot of ideas you could borrow for your celebration of love.

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somedaysoon Posts : 32 Registered: 5/18/09
Re: wanting to plan a party for my husband
Posted: Jun 10, 2009 6:29 PM Go to message in response to: TanisJ

i guess im a little confused about the purpose of this party... if it were pre-wedding, would you consider it more of an engagement party, bachelor/ette party, or co-ed bridal shower? it sounds more like an engagement party, in which case, it would be weird for you to host it. any of these events should be thrown for you by a friend/family member.

i guess you could treat this like the rehearsal dinner, if there is not one already planned. you could probably even call it that and just open up the invites beyond wedding party members.

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auntofthebride Posts : 9,354 Registered: 4/2/06
Re: wanting to plan a party for my husband
Posted: Jun 10, 2009 6:45 PM Go to message in response to: mazzy26

Dear Kayla,

Have an anniversary party. The ship has sailed on bachelorettes, showers, etc.

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kennysoldwife Posts : 3,859 Registered: 4/28/07
Re: wanting to plan a party for my husband
Posted: Jun 10, 2009 7:03 PM Go to message in response to: mazzy26

I like Tanis' idea go with that.

 

 

 

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myra Posts : 5,550 Registered: 3/28/06
Re: wanting to plan a party for my husband
Posted: Jun 10, 2009 7:23 PM Go to message in response to: mazzy26

What are your intentions for the party? Is this supposed to substitute for the bachelor party? Is it coed or just for the guys? With your wedding reception coming up in just a couple of months (and with you already married), I'd probably skip anything that could be seen as a gift grab (like a co-ed shower) and put any money and planning into the wedding or, as Tanis suggested, a rehearsal dinner. And, since all of your friends will be gathered, you could extend your RD into a guys' night out (while you hang out with your girlfriends) or co-ed barhop, dance party, etc.
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mazzy26 Posts : 21 Registered: 4/28/09
Re: wanting to plan a party for my husband
Posted: Jun 11, 2009 10:15 AM Go to message in response to: myra

My intentions for this party is that. We dont have anyone who would put on a party for us. If we did we prolly would have had one already. When we got married last year. I dont want it to be a party for gifts or money or whatever. So with that. I am pretty much leaning on the anniversary thing. But knowing we are having our wedding in Sept. I want to include that as well. We dont have many friends, he has coworkers and a few friends who live outta state. And myself i have like 2 friends. We like to spend our time together. But I would love to throw something for it. I know people who would come. Im just stuck on what to do. I was thinking about it. We could just have a theme summer party....i was thinking casino nite...maybe hit a casino or something. i really like the the first one...about the love celebration and maybe i'll do something like that. i just dont want people to think its something im trying to do to get them to buy us stuff. yano. my mom is actually throwing a bridal shower for me. because we didnt have one. when we got married, i was 6 months pregnant and just went to the courthouse and basically just told people we were married yano? i know its a confusing situtuation.



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auntofthebride Posts : 9,354 Registered: 4/2/06
Re: wanting to plan a party for my husband
Posted: Jun 11, 2009 11:54 AM Go to message in response to: mazzy26

Dear Mazzy,

"my mom is actually throwing a bridal shower for me."

Your mother is throwing a bridal shower for an already-married woman and you're not concerned about looking gift-grabby?

Then, you are having a fake wedding, which is yet another gift-giving opportunity for your friends and family? And you still don't think it looks gift-grabby?

BTW, lose the blue font. It's very difficult to read.

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MsDenuninani Posts : 3,962 Registered: 3/16/07
Re: wanting to plan a party for my husband
Posted: Jun 11, 2009 1:16 PM Go to message in response to: mazzy26

I'm with Aunt on losing the blue font. It hurts my head.

To be honest, I really think the ship has sailed on having a wedding-oriented party since you're already married and planning a wedding. I think you can really only expect so much of people when it comes to celebrating your union, so I would save all the juice for the wedding itself.

So just throw a party to throw a party. Everyone loves a party. As for an "I love my husband" party, there will be plenty of time to do that -- you're spending the rest of your life with him, after all.

But regarding throwing yourself or the groom a wedding-oriented party. . .I really don't think that's going to work all that well. Unless you do it as a rehearsal dinner the night before, and even then that's more for the people in the wedding than it is about you two. Even for the people who you believe will come, I can't help but think they might be thinking "Um, exactly how time am I expected to celebrate this marriage that has already happened?" Especially since you're hosting all of the events.

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His4life Posts : 117 Registered: 4/7/09
Re: wanting to plan a party for my husband
Posted: Jun 11, 2009 1:25 PM Go to message in response to: mazzy26

If you want to throw a party make it very casual. No invitations (word of mouth, email) and no gift registries. Maybe have a backyard bbq or a dinner out with the friends and a few drinks. You can call it a pre-wedding party maybe? I don't think it really matters what it's called as long as you make it casual and don't expect people to give you gifts and pay for you and husband.

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SteffMay2009 Posts : 383 Registered: 10/22/08
Re: wanting to plan a party for my husband
Posted: Jun 11, 2009 2:16 PM Go to message in response to: His4life

Yes, this is a little weird. If I got invited to a shower, a random other party, and a wedding for someone I knew was already married, I'd be a little confused. Once you are already married, there are no "do overs". If you want a fun party with all your friends, just make your wedding/vow renewal a big party. Do your husband celebration at the wedding, that would make more sense to me.. Sort of like a vow renewal/anniversary. Celebrate with friends after.. Nothing says you can't go out with friends once you are married. Again.


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SweetSurrender Posts : 130 Registered: 5/14/09
Re: wanting to plan a party for my husband
Posted: Jun 11, 2009 3:34 PM Go to message in response to: mazzy26

I like His4life's idea of a backyard BBQ. Invite the family & close friends over and keep it simple, yet fun. I would try to stick to a totally casual/NWR theme, especially since you'll be having a (wedding?)/vow renewal in Spetember.

All the best!

 

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Love is what makes the ride worthwhile."

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mazzy26 Posts : 21 Registered: 4/28/09
Re: wanting to plan a party for my husband
Posted: Jun 11, 2009 5:42 PM Go to message in response to: SweetSurrender

NO. I WONT CHANGE MY BLUE FONT. MY MOM IS THROWING A BRIDAL SHOWER FOR ME BECAUSE WE DIDNT HAVE ONE IN THE FIRST PLACE. PEOPLE HAVE DIFFERENT SITUATIONS THAN OTHERS. AND I REALLY DONT THINK ITS RIGHT OF YOU TO SAY IM HAVING A FAKE WEDDING. WTF BULLCRAP IS THAT? I GOT MARRIED LAST JULY. I WAS 6 MONTHS PREGNANT AND AT THAT TIME FELT IT WAS THE RIGHT MOMENT. WE WERE PLANNING OUR WEDDING ALREADY BUT JUST WENT TO THE COURTHOUSE.

IF YOUR JUST GONNA TO BE FLAT OUT RUDE MAKING REPLIES ON HERE DONT BOTHER THAN. I FIGURED THIS SITE WAS SUPPOSE TO BE HELPFUL. WHEN I READ YOUR WORDS I WAS HURT BY SOMEONE I DONT EVEN KNOW. ALL I WANT TO DO IS DO SOMETHING NICE FOR THE PERSON I LOVE AND CARE ABOUT AND FIGURED I COULD GET ADVICE ON HERE. BUT SO MUCH FOR THAT.

BUT INSTEAD IM HAVING A 'FAKE WEDDING' WHERE YOU GOTTA COME AND REPLY AND MAKE SOMEONE FEEL MISERABLE THANK YOU SOOOO MUCH FOR RUINING MY DAY .



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mazzy26 Posts : 21 Registered: 4/28/09
Re: wanting to plan a party for my husband
Posted: Jun 11, 2009 5:48 PM Go to message in response to: mazzy26

im sorry for the way i put that. what you guys dont understand is. we didnt have anything to celebrate our wedding. it was a courthouse deal which noone even knew about. so my mom wanted me to have all that....ceremony....reception....wearing a wedding dress...everything a girl has wanted. because we didnt do that. yano and even after people found out ya we did get married nothing was said about it. my mom is just throwing a shower for me because my family has asked about it. yano. im not the one decided all this she is. but i want to do something special for him because noone has and noone will. if you guys dont understand that. then nevermind this post and dont respond. all i wanted was ideas...all i wanted was advice of party things. not to be judged and be in a situation.
that is all im saying.



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kennysoldwife Posts : 3,859 Registered: 4/28/07
Re: wanting to plan a party for my husband
Posted: Jun 11, 2009 6:15 PM Go to message in response to: mazzy26

Mazzy please change the ink color. I maybe able to help you but I can not read what you are saying.

 

 

 

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