Hello Ladies,
I need some impartial opinions. I finally received a ring from this man after almost 6 years. I've been wearing it for almost 2 months. He sent me an email, telling me that he cant afford to make the next payment on it, so he wants to return it. Now, my mother raised a child who is everything except a fool and I dont want to be mean, but the land below this Earth will freeze over, thaw and refreeze before I give this up.
Let me give you some background. I met this man and in the course of 5 1/2 years, he has lied, cheated, disrespected me and finally gave me the 4 cttw ring that I picked out because miraculously he claims he loves me after putting me through heck. Sure, I could have left a long time ago and should have, but after a few years went by, my time was something I couldnt get back and in my view, walking out would have just been a waste of my precious years. Anyhow, the reason I believe I got the ring--even though I told him in January, he was merely someone I was going to date along with everyone and we have no exclusiveness nor commitment because my goal is to find a man just for me, was because he saw my lips wrapped around another man and realized I wasnt just talking, I was serious. Two days after seeing me with another man, all of a sudden he was telling me he had an engagement ring. He ran out and bought anything because when he sent me the pictures of it, I would not have worn that ring. It didnt fit my personal tastes or my style. To make a long story short, I took him to the jeweler, showed him the ring I wanted and I guess he opened a charge account to get the ring. Oh, forgot to mention, he was laid off the end of January, he saw me with this other man on February 5th, and purchased the ring I have on my finger February 28th. So, he didnt have a job before he decided to start buying these rings and I told him January 1st that I wasnt interested in wasting anymore of my time on him. Oh---before you ask--no, he did not propose to me. He dropped the ring off at the jeweler to have it sized because after all this time, he didnt know my ring size. I went to the jeweler, the ring was the right size already and the jeweler put it on my finger and I walked out of the store. I believe that makes this merely a gift, which is in my possession and he shouldnt have given me something that he hadnt paid for.
So my question is who thinks I should return it? If you think that, why? Keep in mind, although I ended up with the ring, along the way when he was lying & cheating, he told the other woman his marriage plans for her/their life, they went on a trip to the Bahamas (which I dont care because the Caribbean doesnt excite me---I travel to more exciting places, but the gesture would have) was rude to me, etc., etc. and came running back to me because the grass on the other side turned out to be burnt and not greener. I personally think the misfortune he is having right now is just him reaping those horrible seeds that he chose to sow.
My plans for the ring: sell it to go towards my new house down payment fund. 
