Hey Guys!!!
Brighter - That is so funny that you are having a BBQ with Greg. We are cooking chicken cutlets marinated in balsamic vinagerette, hot dogs, hamburgers, sticky wings, stringbean salad, reg salad, coleslaw, and chips and stuff. Not really going overboard but just something we can all enjoy. We also have cupcakes for desert and I am going to make some cookies.
As far as us going out and stuff, FH is always willing to pay, but I like to take him oout sometimes. I think that it is only fair. So yesterday we played mini golf and I paid for ice cream after, stuff like that. We had a lot of fun and I kicked FH's ass, but it was just a great day in general. I had taken the day out of work yesterday to do shopping and run errands for the cookout and FH came with me so that was a lot of fun too! All in all we had a really good day yesterday and I think that we're going to have a lot of fun today too. We are going to play whiffle ball and stuff today too!
Autumn - As far as what are we doing now? LOL good question. No I am planning on going to grad school in the fall and stay at the job I currently have now. I work like 32-35 hours during school and I am going to be working 40 hours in the summer. FH hasn't decided what he is going to do with grad school yet, I hope that he goes, but that is up to him. He is going to stay at his current job right now too. He always works 40 hours a week so nothing is going to change there. FH is going to play in a softball tourney in NY in July so he wants me to go with him and we are going to be planning a vacation but we are not sure where we are going to go yet. I thought that it would be fun if we went to Vegas for the 4th of July for like 5 nights with a bunch of our friends, but we haven't actually looked into it in detail yet. Other than that FH and I just like going out in the summer, we'll go to the casino, to the beach, cookouts, out to dinner and just fun stuff like that. We have some family bday parties and graduation parties (including our own) to go to so that would be nice too.
As far as you and the move - congrats on the house!!! You must be so excited! I am excited for you lol! that is really great and I hope that you only have 5 weeks of school so you can go down there earlier. I'm crossing my fingers for you. And 3 years is great. FH and I are coming up on our 2 year anniversary (July 7th) and I am really excited for it. As far as proposals go... FH and I talked to our parents 4 months before he proposed. He had a plan and I had no idea when he was going to do it. Like you I knew it was coming, but didn't know when. All I knew was that FH wanted his own special day to do it (meaning not a bday or a holiday) and he set the whole thing up. It was great and it was in NH, we live in RI. The place was romantic and really nice and I wouldn't trade it for the world. I'm sure that it will come in Florida because that is where you guys met and where you are moving too, so that has meaning to the both of you. I can't tell you not to be disappointed at times, because I was when I thought it was happening and it didn't, but as I always say in the end everything will work out. It will be great and it is going to happen! Just think of that and smile because that alone is a great thing!
About the girl at work. I had people like that at my old job and you know what their engagement didn't last at all. She was the type of person who bragged about it too and look where she ended up. So for your co-worker as far as it's hard that she is planning her wedding and your not engaged yet ... push it aside. You have plans and you know what they are and that is what matters. I had a problem like that recently. One of the girls that I knew from school is moving in with her BF and they are planning on getting engaged this summer and married the same year FH and I are planning on and I was jealous. I was jealous because at the time FH and I were having our wedding problem and just of the fact that I was already engaged for 1 1/2 years and I had to wait to get married. They are going to be just getting done with school with no jobs lined up doing it and while that is their decision there are days where I just want to get married already. I just have to repeat to myself that it would be better for us if we were situated first. It is going to cause less problems and fights for us because FH and I are the type of people where we worry about things. We worry about financials and kids and jobs because we don't want the pressure of not having it and fighting over it. The way I see it for us is that if we got married and weren't financially ready we couldn't build our own house, or plan to have kids a couple years down the road, or travel as a married couple all over the world. So I guess my point is that in the end FH and I have our own plan just like you have yours. And while it is hard, you're better for it.
Rose - I think that us relaxing and enjoying the summer is going to take off the stress and added pressure. I can already tell that it has and honestly we are having a great time. We really are bonding and flirting and everything the way that we used to be. I know FH and I are going to get married I guess it is just the pressure of everyone asking when that bothers me. For so long I said we haven't decided and so on and now that we are 2 years away we started to tell people. But they keep pushing like where are you having it have you heard of this place and this band and this florist and whatever and that is what pushes me to want to get things done. I know that it will, but the excitement of planning gets to me too. I like that stuff and while so does FH, it is just not at the same level as me yet. He doesn't want to encounter any problems and I get that, we're different when it comes to some things. An example ... FH works outside of his normal job reffing and makes extra money on the side. He is saving up for the Big East Tourney next March so we can go. On the other hand, I bought my lap top a couple months ago and got a $50 rebate. Instead of saving it, the next day I went out and bought myself a charm for my Pandora bracelet. Mind you I had just gotten the bracelet the same day I bought myself the charm as a gift for graduation. FH said to me you just put the money right back into the economy huh? Joking around, but it is true. While I save money out of my paycheck, any extra money either gets put away or I buy myself something. Another example is that we're going shopping on Monday. There is a big sale and we want to go. FH usually doesn't buy much, although lately he has been spending more than me for some new things. I think that at the same time that he wants to make sure we are financially stable he feels that right now we have the freedom to purchase and do what we want with our money rather than paying the mortgage, or the utility bills, or car insurance, you know? Which I understand, I just believe that if we wanted something when we are married, we will find a way to work for it and get it, the same way we do now. FH is warming up to that idea as I pointed out how many games he reffed for the extra money, he didn't have to, but he wanted to, for him.
As for the bathing suit - Victoria's Secret. I know you need one now, but in the future I found that what I do is buy my bathing suit at the end of the season for the next year because it is marked down to a really good price. Something to keep on mind for next season!! I'm not sure where you are from, but we also have a Macy's around here which is good because they always have coupons for like 20% off and stuff like that.
Jewel we haven't heard from you, hope all is well! I know you were stressed out last time so I hope everything is better.
Well I'm off to get ready for the cookout, I gotta cook and clean and I haven't done anything yet!!

Edited by: Ariana1228 on May 23, 2009 12:03 PM