Okay so i read the advice given on one of the other deceased parents forum but my situation is alittle different . What if its the grooms father, especially if his death was tragic. IT would be 7 years and 2mths since his death on our wedding date. Like i know he loves his father no matter what happened, and it really sucks that he wont be there to see his only son get married. What kind of special thing should i do for him? "REAL LOVE COMES TO THOSE WHO ARE PATIENT" Edited by: BURNETT1 on May 13, 2009 5:11 PM "REAL LOVE COMES TO THOSE WHO ARE PATIENT"
My FH's father died when he was 13 from cancer. We are going to be donating to the American Cancer Society in his name in place of favors (there will be cards on the tables letting our guests know this). We will also have a memory candle for him at the church. Our invitations say 'son of Mrs. _________ and the late Dr. _________' so he is also included. I know this doesn't seem like much, but it is the best we could come up with. Ask your FH if there is anything he would like to have included as a memento to his father. He may have a special song or saying that meant a lot to both of them that he would like to have included. Nearly Mrs. Nierling
" We are going to be donating to the American Cancer Society in his name in place of favors (there will be cards on the tables letting our guests know this)."
I lost my mother to cancer, and can sympathize very much with anyone who has lost someone they love to that cruel and vicious disease.
I have an alternate suggestion for the favors. I, personally, do not like the "We are donating money instead of giving you a gift" idea. It's like "Here's your gift, no wait, I take it back. I'll give money to a good cause instead."
The guest says "Oh, gee, thanks (for nothing)."
If you want to make a donation, by all means make a donation. Please do. But don't get your guests to donate for you by taking away their favors.
Here is an alternative. Many fund-raising organizations sell things like colored bracelets or stuffed toys as fund raisers. I have seen pink for breast cancer, blue for prostate cancer, etc. Look around and see if you can find something like that connected to the type of cancer that took you FH's father.
Then, buy enough of those to go around and give those as favors, in memory of his late father. That way your guest guest a tangible little gift from you and the money still goes to a good cause.