How long did you date before becoming engaged?

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ObjetTrouve Posts : 10 Registered: 7/15/08
Re: How long did you date before becoming engaged?
Posted: May 11, 2009 9:12 AM Go to message in response to: Dessy

After about one week of dating, I told Scott that the ex before him said he loved me, moved me all the way from New Mexico to Mississippi, ran out of money and moved in with my parents. After all of this, at month 3 of our relationship, he broke up with me claiming he thought it was bad for a relationship to go past 3 months, so he breaks up with girls at 3 months regardless of how it's going. Then he lived at my parents house and convinced my parents that he was a saint and I was insane (I have bipolar disorder. He was hitting me and claiming I was hitting myself because I was manic). He dated all these other girls and tried to sleep with me. Finally, I ran away from home to my home town, where I stayed with a long time frien until I could and convince my parents to kick him out by showing them abusive chat logs and proving to them that he was looking at bestiality porn on their computer (he was a true sicko). They kicked him out and apologized to me, and I spent the next three months cleaning up the mess he left in my room.

This does have a point and I think you'll like it.

So I told Scott this story and told him I would never get truly serious with someone until the 3 month point, but that I expect engagement at one year, because I won't be led on either.

So around month 3, I told him I that I loved him, and I made plans to visit with the guy I stayed with when kicking out my ex. Taking my lover to my hometown is pretty much how I get serious with someone. I took him to the parking garage I got stoned at, and the IHOP where I spent every night of my life for 7 years. I showed him my favorite coffee shop, where I spent every day for 7 years, but it was closed. I showed him my old apartment, my apartment I had with my ex fiance, the church my parents used to drag me to (he peed on the 50 foot cross in the parking lot like a good little atheist), my parents old house, and the forever empty mansion every young abilenian dreams of living in. Most important, he met Lonnie, one of my best and oldest friends, who has been more family to me than, well, my family.

At month 11, I got nervous, knowing I would have to leave him if he didn't say something soon. Then we went to his sister's wedding. I noticed him talking to his parents at one point, and he had me talk to them too. They asked me about my sexuality and religion, which was totally awkward and scary, and then we went back to his hotel room.

He proposed half asleep, and we laid there crying until he did in fact pass the hell out.

So in short, one year dating, about one year engagement. It's not too short and not forever long. Let's you truly get to know someone. Some people work out at three months (my sister and her husband dated for three months and the engagement was one month), but some people would marry people who sleep with animals if they get hitched at three months, like I could have.

That's the point of my story I guess. I need a nap.




 

 

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katrogen Posts : 1 Registered: 5/11/09
Re: How long did you date before becoming engaged?
Posted: May 11, 2009 4:51 PM Go to message in response to: JulianneC

I probably have the shortest one on here. I'm not sure as I only read about half but at 2 months we had promise rings and two weeks later he proposed with the engagement ring. Hoping to get married sometime in December, depends on money and what is going to sound right! We decide tomorrow night with the priest. :)

You never know until you know, and I couldn't say no! :)

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ClayandKesh2010 Posts : 3 Registered: 2/24/09
Re: How long did you date before becoming engaged?
Posted: Jun 7, 2009 6:22 PM Go to message in response to: Dessy

My fiance and I have actually known each other for about 17 years (we started kindergarten together). I told my mom the first week of school that I was gonna marry that boy one day. LOL! We went to a small school (K-12), so everyone was pretty much friends. We started hanging out in Jr. High and even more in High School. I dated a friend of ours throughout high school pretty much. We graduated in 2005 and started at the same college. We had a class together and ended up studying together alot. That pretty much led to us being together. We've been dating for 3 1/2 years now. He finally proposed in January 2009! We will have been dating for 5 years by time our wedding gets here!

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Renee86 Posts : 159 Registered: 5/30/08
Re: How long did you date before becoming engaged?
Posted: Jun 7, 2009 8:29 PM Go to message in response to: Dessy

He proposed to me after about 2 1/2 months of dating.

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jeaniebelle87 Posts : 137 Registered: 11/23/07
Re: How long did you date before becoming engaged?
Posted: Jun 8, 2009 12:04 AM Go to message in response to: ClayandKesh2010

My FH and I also met in kindergarten! :) We've been dating since the eighth grade, so I guess that would be over nine years. By the time we get married next May, it will be ten years!

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Hisfiancee Posts : 3 Registered: 6/16/09
Re: How long did you date before becoming engaged?
Posted: Jun 16, 2009 3:22 PM Go to message in response to: Dessy

..together for 10 years before we got engaged and it will be 12 when we're married...started dating right after high school and glad we waited...





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allisonfoster2B Posts : 65 Registered: 5/9/09
Re: How long did you date before becoming engaged?
Posted: Jun 16, 2009 7:36 PM Go to message in response to: Dessy

We were dating for frour months. We got together the first day we met pretty much. But we were livng together pretty much from the second month, and have been ever since. I know it sound like we rushed things dramatically, but it just feels right. Both our families can see how happy we are, and are glad we are waiting a little while before gettig married, but they dont have a problem with it.

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minobotbride Posts : 37 Registered: 5/21/09
Re: How long did you date before becoming engaged?
Posted: Jun 16, 2009 10:06 PM Go to message in response to: allisonfoster2B

my FH and i met online 3 years ago, on a messageboard discussing the works of our favourite sci-fi author.
2 years later, he came north to Vancouver (from Hawaii) for a visit, and we met in person.
one month later, we were officially dating.
10 months later, we decided we are going to get married.
we are now in the awkward "unofficially engaged" phase - he wants to formally propose with the ring and everything, but can't until he's here again.
so we will have been dating for 1 year, 2 months, and about 10 days to two weeks by the time we get engaged.
we'll have been together for two years and two months when we get married

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BlissfullyContent Posts : 73 Registered: 1/28/07
Re: How long did you date before becoming engaged?
Posted: Jun 16, 2009 10:22 PM Go to message in response to: allisonfoster2B

Started dating January 5 02
He proposed January 5 of 07 (told me to start looking for rings after about a year and 1/2 but I was in college and wanted to wait)
Moved in officially May of 07 after I graduated
Married May 9 2009


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Tofu Posts : 66 Registered: 4/2/09
Re: How long did you date before becoming engaged?
Posted: Jun 16, 2009 11:26 PM Go to message in response to: jeaniebelle87

Since the 8th grade? Wow that is too cute. I'm the same age as you (give or take a year) and we got together in 10th grade and have been together ever since. :)

It will be 9+ years when we get married (and 7+ when we get engaged, which has yet to happen but will be very soon!).

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BoysMissLady Posts : 932 Registered: 1/18/07
Re: How long did you date before becoming engaged?
Posted: Jun 17, 2009 12:32 AM Go to message in response to: Tofu

Met Feb 04
Became "official" Jan 05
Proposed Oct 08
Married Oct 09

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headoverheels8 Posts : 80 Registered: 11/17/07
Re: How long did you date before becoming engaged?
Posted: Jun 17, 2009 2:24 AM Go to message in response to: Dessy

over 3 years not counting when we dated in highschool getting married next summer.

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headoverheels8 Posts : 80 Registered: 11/17/07
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Posted: Jun 17, 2009 2:33 AM Go to message in response to: Aria24

When my parents met my dad was engaged to another girl. my dad dumped her a week after he met my mom because he knew my mom and not the other girl was the right now. my parents started dating shortly after they met and got engaged 3 months later. they have been married 31 years this year and soooooo happy. When it is right its right.

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Autumnalis2010 Posts : 133 Registered: 1/12/09
Re: How long did you date before becoming engaged?
Posted: Jun 17, 2009 7:54 PM Go to message in response to: headoverheels8

We got engaged 3 days after our 3 year anniversary. We will have been together a little over 4 years when we marry and will have known each other for about 5.
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FutureMrsWood Posts : 1 Registered: 6/16/09
Re: How long did you date before becoming engaged?
Posted: Jun 23, 2009 9:29 PM Go to message in response to: Dessy

My Fiance' and i have been dating 5 years before he proposed to me. But we knew after the first year we were meant to be.


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