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PrincessAurora Posts : 89 Registered: 11/16/07
Mom's New Ring
Posted: May 5, 2009 5:08 AM

I've been engaged since Nov 2007 and I'm getting married on June 6th but this seems like the ring area.
I'm 22 and graduating from college this weekend, FH is 27 and just finished his MFA. The ring he proposed with reflects where we were at 20 and 25, and where we still are today (begining our lives, etc.) it's a very pretty ring, with a .45 center stone and .30 of side stones, and I love it. FH also bought a GORGEOUS eternity band this year for my wedding band that reflects his new job/salary.
the problem is mom's new ring. My stepdad recently gave mom the go ahead for her upgrade, and they settled on a Tacori set with a 2.12 center stone and 2 carats of side stones in the e-ring and wedding band. It's very pretty as you can imagine and mom spent a lot of christmas (which FH celebrates with us) showing it off. Mom also declared that when I am 50 (her age now) that the set will be mine.
2 problems here:
1. FH is feeling extremely insecure.
2. I have an older sister (!)
My mom has really enjoyed flaunting her new set (and her old set, which is now a necklace) and I'm happy for her, but how do I reassure FH that my set is perfect for me and us? and what do I say next time mom brings up my ring inheritance?
thanks!

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BlissfullBride Posts : 32 Registered: 12/29/08
Re: Mom's New Ring
Posted: May 5, 2009 2:51 PM Go to message in response to: PrincessAurora

I believe that you should let your mom know abt how you feel so she WON'T bring it up again. Let her know that it isn't because you don't appreciate the gesture but you want to be considerate of your FH and even your older sister. You probably don't want to tell her you don't WANT the ring cause that would just hurt her feelings. Let the happiness of her new ring die down and deal with that tidbit later.

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DoesntPlayNice Posts : 809 Registered: 12/17/08
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Posted: May 5, 2009 3:18 PM Go to message in response to: BlissfullBride

let him know that you don't intend on replacing YOUR band with HERS. You could hold it for your future children and it could be your daugher/daughter in law's Ering

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myra Posts : 5,555 Registered: 3/28/06
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Posted: May 5, 2009 4:43 PM Go to message in response to: PrincessAurora

I'm puzzled as to why your FH would be insecure about your mother's ring. This is not a competition. I don't care if he gave you a ten-carat rock--there will always be someone who has one that's bigger, brighter, more expensive. Same with houses, cars, etc. So, tell him to relax and enjoy what he has been able to provide. You're happy and you love it.
myra at www.classysassyweddings.com

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Lola44 Posts : 11 Registered: 12/16/08
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Posted: May 9, 2009 11:41 PM Go to message in response to: PrincessAurora

My Fh and i are really conformable with my small ring, and if you believe that having a smaller stone is best for you guys than who cares about your mothers ring. And besides, will having your mothers ring be as sentimental as having your very first ring with your fiance? Maybe when your 50 your Fh will give you a bigger stone but for right now I'm sure that that stone is perfect for you, and I'm sure its beautiful.

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