Hopefully my FW and I can get a little insight on wedding announcement etiquette. Obviously we are doing a destination wedding (thank you Tammy) and are only inviting about 40-50 people. Meanwhile there are certainly more folks we would love to invite, but can't for obvious reasons.
Are wedding announcements supposed to go out after the wedding has taken place? I'm assuming it would be bad form to mention where you are registered as then the announcement only would seem like we are gift hunting.
BTW: We got a great deal on our invitations, they are understated yet elegant and less then $150 for 75 fully customized.
The best time to send out announcements is the day of or the day after the wedding. You don't want to send them out before the wedding. Sending them out too early might result in unexpected guests who mistook your announcement for an invitation. You can assign the BM, MOH, or a parent to be in charge of putting the announcements in the mail on the designated day.
And you are right. You don't want to put your registry info on the announcements, just as you don't want to include that info with your invitations. Instead, include the address to your wedding website so that your friends and loved ones whom you couldn't invite can view the details and some photos of your wedding, as well as your registry information. Otherwise, those interested in buying you a gift will contact you or your family to find out where you are registered.
Hope that helps!
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"Are wedding announcements supposed to go out after the wedding has taken place? I'm assuming it would be bad form to mention where you are registered as then the announcement only would seem like we are gift hunting"
Wedding announcements are totally OK for a situation like yours. You get married, then announce the happy news after the ceremony.
You can get the annoucements printed, addressed, stuffed and stamped before the ceremony. Do not put them in the mail until the ceremony is completed. Announcements say the wedding has taken place (past tense), not that a ceremony will take place (future tense). Because weddings have been known to be called off at the last minute, you don't announce the marriage until it's a done deal.
If the announcements are to be mailed from the US, with US stamps, you might give the bundle to a super-trustworthy friend who will stay at home. Just call that person after the ceremony is over and say "We're hitched. Mail 'em". Otherwise, buy stamps in Jamaica and mail them yourself.
No, you do not put any kind of gift registry in the announcement, nor for that matter, in an invitation. If someone asks where you are registered, you can respond with the info, but do not offer that information without being asked. It's insulting to say "We just got married, and here is where you can buy us a gift.".
The announcement can take any form, just like an invitation.
Formal: Mr and Mrs Homer Simpson / announce the marriage of their daughter/ etc
Informal: We tied the knot! Grampa got his shotgun and we made it legal... etc.
You need to include the date and city of the ceremony, for sure.