May 2009 Brides (or any 2009!!)

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MichelleandRob Posts : 194 Registered: 5/12/08
Re: May 2009 Brides (or any 2009!!)
Posted: Jan 9, 2009 9:47 AM Go to message in response to: Brooke051609

Have you thought about renting a photo booth? You know the kind in the mall and at the fair? You sit inside it and pull the curtain and it takes 3-4 photos in a strip? I got information about it at a bridal fair. The company's website for here in AZ is www.photofunbooth.com I am not sure if they have something like this in your area but it might be worth checking out.

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Brooke051609 Posts : 723 Registered: 12/31/07
Re: May 2009 Brides (or any 2009!!)
Posted: Jan 9, 2009 9:53 AM Go to message in response to: MichelleandRob

Hey Michelle, thanks for the tip! Yeah, my MOH and I went to a bridal show and found one- it was really neat! But it was VERY expensive..... just no fun when things are SO expensive!!! But thanks for the idea!!

 

                             "Come What May... "

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DAS824 Posts : 509 Registered: 8/24/07
Re: May 2009 Brides (or any 2009!!)
Posted: Jan 9, 2009 11:47 AM Go to message in response to: Brooke051609

I hear ya about all the fun stuff. To have other things besides dancing and mingling is to pay tooooons of money. Hopefully you can find something to add your own little touch to the wedding/reception :)

I have a question for anyone who's interested. I'm having a terrible time deciding the rest of my/our wedding party. Long story short, early in planning FH and I had decided to have only 2 or 3 GMs and BMs. Well, when we went to NY to visit his family and friends over Thanksgiving he upped the number to 5!!!!!!! He told his friends that the first 5 of them that call him get to be in the wedding. FANTASTIC...ass! I only have asked 2 (technically 3) people. The first was my sister for MOH, though I'd rather not, but what's done is done. The second is a good friend from high school, however, she just had a baby and is experiencing money problems and I'd rather she have money for her family than the wedding, so she's not sure if she can do it. Then I asked my SIL, but she'll be having baby #2 in February and she'll need to look after her kids during the wedding so that my mom doesn't do it....

In all actuality that means I only have 1 definite BM (MOH) for the wedding. I wasn't worried about having an uneven party with 2 girls, but I'm thinking 5 on one side and 1 on the other just is goofy. So....how the hell do we deal with all the politics that come with asking other people!??! It's kinda silly, but I don't want to hurt feelings but I also don't want people up there with me that 1) I don't want and 2) that will just be bodies. I have a few to choose from, I just don't know what to do!

I have a cousin who I used to do tons of stuff with (think 12-14 years old), but we've grown apart. I was thinking asking her might bring us together....but would it be awkward? Then if I ask her, I'm sure I have to ask her sister, who is 19, just because and I really don't want to. I can ask FH's sister, but it'd only be because she's bugged me about it before. I also have 3 newer college friends, whom I've known about a year, and though I'd like to ask only 2 of them, the third one should be included! AHHHHH!!! This is alll FH's fault. I'm gonna punch him!

Advice, ideas, opinions...you can tell me if I'm crazy/annoying/anal, whatever!

Shauna C...I can't wait!!

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DAS824 Posts : 509 Registered: 8/24/07
Re: May 2009 Brides (or any 2009!!)
Posted: Jan 9, 2009 12:24 PM Go to message in response to: DAS824

As if my post needed to be any longer (sorry!) I forgot to mention that my mom would be interested/willing to be in the wedding party. Is this a no-no? Or something that people have done before...kinda strange?

Shauna C...I can't wait!!

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MichelleandRob Posts : 194 Registered: 5/12/08
Re: May 2009 Brides (or any 2009!!)
Posted: Jan 9, 2009 12:57 PM Go to message in response to: DAS824

I have two BM's that I wish I had never asked but they have bought their dresses already and I would feel horrible for telling them to step down now and it would ruin our friendship for sure. So I am just dealing with it (and their drama). So KUDOS to you for not bowing just yet and asking anyone just to have bodies.

As for all the men, can they all afford to get their tux? Maybe that will chase a couple away and if you still have too many, maybe you can make a couple ushers... you know, escort all the pretty girls/women to their chairs and tables? If you are having candles, you can give them the special task of making sure they all stay lit during the reception (provide each one with a lighter).

If you only end up with one or two extra men, have two men escort one of your girls... that wouldn't look bad at all!

Good luck.

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DAS824 Posts : 509 Registered: 8/24/07
Re: May 2009 Brides (or any 2009!!)
Posted: Jan 9, 2009 1:50 PM Go to message in response to: MichelleandRob

Thanks for the advice, Michelle. I really do appreciate it...these decisions are just so tough! I'm not sure exactly why, but hurt feelings and relationships have to do with it. We'll see what happens but whatever it is, I gotta pick them by next week so we can get dresses ordered!! I'm going to bug FH to find out about the guys ASAP. I might even just call them myself :)

Thanks again!

Shauna C...I can't wait!!

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nightowl89 Posts : 44 Registered: 7/23/08
Re: May 2009 Brides (or any 2009!!)
Posted: Jan 9, 2009 8:05 PM Go to message in response to: DAS824

At least your FH has people to spare... I kind of wish mine had that many for sure. He only has 2 GMs for sure and that's only because I asked one of MY friends to help out. It wouldn't be that much of a problem except for the fact that I have 5 BMs...and unless FH comes up with at least 2 more GMs we're going to have issues.

But I think this warrants a little outburst no matter which side of the line we're standing on. MEN!

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Charlotte09 Posts : 1,021 Registered: 2/22/08
Re: May 2009 Brides (or any 2009!!)
Posted: Jan 9, 2009 11:47 PM Go to message in response to: DAS824

I think since your FH created the issue without discussing it with you he should have to disappoint some friends. There is no reason for you to ask people to be in your wedding just to fill up space, you want to be surrounded by closest friends. I think you should have a maid of honor and your FH should have a best man. Then the other 4 guys being left out can be ushers. That way they are still apart of the wedding party. Of corse double check with your friend with the money issues. Maybe you could buy her dress for her or something. But I don't think it is right to have people as your bridesmaids who you dont even want.

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DAS824 Posts : 509 Registered: 8/24/07
Re: May 2009 Brides (or any 2009!!)
Posted: Jan 10, 2009 12:34 AM Go to message in response to: Charlotte09

I agree with everything!

Men are just difficult! It bothers me that I kept trying to get a number out of him and when we finally agreed on one he just went and said ok, now 5! But when I brought it up with him again today, he said that we could each just have 1...I mean, yea, that works, but it also sucks for his friends. Even if we could each just have 3 that'd be fine with me. My problem is more that I have people to ask, I just don't know who to ask. I'll be the first to admit that I'm probably making this much harder than necessary. When we first started planning, I did just say we could each have one person (just MOH and BM) but then we said ok 2 or 3 so I've been along those lines when thinking of the wedding. Now cutting it down to just 1 might seem a little crappy (especially cuz I want girls there the day of the wedding that'll be fun and happy for me! and my sister is lacking in that department right now). I don't know!!

I'll decide by tomorrow. That's my own deadline because those dresses need to be ordered NOW! Thanks again for all the advice. Damn my undecisive ways...

Shauna C...I can't wait!!

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Charlotte09 Posts : 1,021 Registered: 2/22/08
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Posted: Jan 12, 2009 12:12 AM Go to message in response to: DAS824

When are you ladies booking your honeymoons? My wedding is June 14th, so after most of you in May. And we are wanting to take a cruise at the end of July. Does anyone have advice as to when we should book this?

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mobride09 Posts : 519 Registered: 3/5/08
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Posted: Jan 12, 2009 2:33 AM Go to message in response to: Charlotte09

I don't know much about travelling or when you should book these things. I can tell you that we booked our honeymoon last September because I wanted to get it out of the way :) I would assume that you should do it soon, but like I said, I don't really know much.

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Brooke051609 Posts : 723 Registered: 12/31/07
Re: May 2009 Brides (or any 2009!!)
Posted: Jan 12, 2009 9:23 AM Go to message in response to: mobride09

Hey Charlotte- FH and I are taking a cruise, we actually booked a year in advance. You don't NEED to do this, we just wanted to make sure we got exactly what we wanted, plus we took advantage of some cheaper rates. I know with Carnival you have up to 3 months before the sail date to cancel, no harm no foul. So you can always book, and if you decided to change your plans within the time alottment you won't lose your money. Plus if you want to do excursions, the earlier you book the better opportunity you have to go on the excursions you want! Where do you want to go?

 

                             "Come What May... "

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MoreThanExpected Posts : 158 Registered: 2/13/07
Re: May 2009 Brides (or any 2009!!)
Posted: Jan 12, 2009 11:16 AM Go to message in response to: Brooke051609

Hi ladies, I haven't been on in a while and need a little help with something. For a May 16 wedding they say to have your final fitting by April 15, but when do you have the first one? I just need a bustle and maybe a little hemming done, when should I get in for the first fitting??


“Marriage is an expression of love and respect and trust and faith in the future, but the union of husband and wife is also an alliance against the challenges and tradgedies of life a promise that with me in your corner, you will never stand alone.”

-Dean Koontz,from the corner of his eye

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MoreThanExpected Posts : 158 Registered: 2/13/07
Re: May 2009 Brides (or any 2009!!)
Posted: Jan 12, 2009 12:56 PM Go to message in response to: MoreThanExpected

Never mind, I knew as soon as I posted the question I would find the answer

So how goes the planning everyone? What does everyone have left to get done?

“Marriage is an expression of love and respect and trust and faith in the future, but the union of husband and wife is also an alliance against the challenges and tradgedies of life a promise that with me in your corner, you will never stand alone.”

-Dean Koontz,from the corner of his eye 

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DAS824 Posts : 509 Registered: 8/24/07
Re: May 2009 Brides (or any 2009!!)
Posted: Jan 12, 2009 1:07 PM Go to message in response to: MoreThanExpected

A cruise would be great...I'm sorry I don't have any information about them, but where is it you'd like to go??

Right now I'm still working on bridesmaid stuff...grrr...somewhat frustrating but of course needs to be done. I'm just wanting to kick myself for waiting so damn long! We've been engaged for over 2 years and we're just now getting into the swing of things. I'm trying not to stress too much, but it definitely would've been much easier to have this done say 4-5 months ago!!

How long have you ladies been engaged?...out of curiousity...

I also need to call around for an officiant. We should definitely meet with a few people soon! Oh, my sister and I went to like a hobby/crafts/specialty store this weekend to look for invitations and bridal shower stuff. They have tons of invitations to choose from. Do you guys know anything about seal-n-send invites? They're just folded up onto each other, like postcard size, and the RSVP is detachable from the bottom of the invite. Thoughts, suggestions, reviews?

Not sure if this has been talked about before either, but are you all having rehearsal dinners? If not a dinner, what other options or ideas have you had...just trying to figure out how we might save some money!

Shauna C...I can't wait!!

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