May 2009 Brides (or any 2009!!)

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TigerBride515 Posts : 482 Registered: 10/15/08
Re: May 2009 Brides (or any 2009!!)
Posted: Dec 30, 2008 5:22 PM Go to message in response to: Charlotte09

I think you are justified in being angry they should not have lied to you about trying to get pregnant. But at this point you don't know for sure so I would wait before making any decisions about your wedding. And I certainly hope that if she is that she will reimburse you for her gown that most likely will not fit, since she was not forthright about her potential pregnancy.

Whatever the outcome I hope that your family will not let her pregnancy overshadow your wedding afterall she will also get showers and she has nine months and all you're asking for are a few days!


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Brooke051609 Posts : 723 Registered: 12/31/07
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Posted: Dec 30, 2008 5:53 PM Go to message in response to: TigerBride515

Charlotte, like Tiger said, definatly hold off on making any changes to your wedding. If you're not 100% sure of what's going on yet, I wouldn't make any big decisions. Yes it's horrible that they lied to you, I'm sure you wouldn't have cared if they were pregnant so I wonder why they weren't forthcoming, but that's neither here nor there, what's done is done. In the meantime, I would continue with your wedding plans that YOU want! Have your big wedding! Don't cancel it because of this, you would regret it and feel even more anger towards both of them because you would feel cheated out of the wedding you want.
If you do find out that she IS in fact pregnant, then I would talk to her. Ask her if she would still want to even be in the wedding (if you even still want her to be). If so, both of you go to the dress shop and see what options you have. If not, ask her if she'd be willing to pay you back for the dress since you were not aware of these happenings and would've gladly paid for a maternity dress had you had all the information. Since it is family, she's going to be a part of your life in some way, so while you have every right to be angry, you need to find the best way for both of you to resolve this so you won't have ill feelings for the rest of your life.
But right now, vent it all out!!! :) But don't make any big decisions yet. Think of what you truly want and go from there. Bets of luck, I hope things get better for you!!!

 

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Charlotte09 Posts : 1,021 Registered: 2/22/08
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Posted: Dec 31, 2008 12:10 AM Go to message in response to: Brooke051609

Thanks for the kind words ladies. Sadly FH is really angry by this and got into a fight with his mom along about it, which led to arguing about other things. We are pretty sure that since the newly wed attention has fadded away from them they have decided to get pregnant mostly for attention, which is sad. I just cannot understand the lies. Of corse FHs mom was mean to FH and said/did some things that just proves some of his family members (including her) are not going to care one bit about FH getting married now that there is a baby on the way. Brian has always been favored over FH anyway. I feel so bad for him.
He is so angry he was saying how we should just get married on on honeymoon. I explained to him that it isnt fair to not have the wedding we wanted because two people decided to be shady and some other people are going to act like that is okay and then praise them for it and making bad decisions. I want to celebrate with my family and friends who have nothign to do with this. I would hate to get married without my grand parents and parents being there along with my good friends. Fh also has some family and a lot of friends who would be thrilled for us and not obsessing about a baby. It will be okay, but something is just shady about the situation to me.
I wish I could be happy for them but I just cannot be right now. They are going to marriage counsiling and have been talking about divorce, yet they were trying to have a baby. Plus I just cannot be happy for someone when they have been lying to me.

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mobride09 Posts : 519 Registered: 3/5/08
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Posted: Jan 1, 2009 2:14 AM Go to message in response to: Charlotte09

Congratulations Ladies!!! It's officially our year!!

Charlotte~ I actually know exactly what you are going through because FH's SIL is pregnant and dute about a month and a half after our wedding, and since they announced it, not one person in that family has shown even the slightest interest in the wedding. Now, when these people got married last May, it was all anyone in the family could talk about at all of the holidays and whatnot. At Christmas I basically sat there and listened to baby talk for 2 days straight. Not a mention of our wedding. I know it sounds selfish, but it sucks!



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Brooke051609 Posts : 723 Registered: 12/31/07
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Posted: Jan 1, 2009 8:19 AM Go to message in response to: mobride09

HAPPY 2009 LADIES!!!! We are FINALLY going to get married this year!!!!! YAY!!!!!

 

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Charlotte09 Posts : 1,021 Registered: 2/22/08
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Posted: Jan 1, 2009 4:46 PM Go to message in response to: mobride09

Mobride, you are right we are basically in the same situation. Right now FH wont even talk about it because he is so mad that they are having a kid with no money or insurance and at a young age, and around our wedding after lying about trying for one. Long list of reasons there haha. So I am just going to wait for them to officially announce it to the family and me. And I am going to see if they are cosiderate enough to apologize about lying and taking the attention off our wedding. However, I think the family members who will ignore our wedding are to blame too. I am also going to just wait and see how long it takes them to be considerate enough to ask about what her pregnancy means as far as her dress for the wedding. I understand that despite how stupid it is for them to have a child right now, this is a big thing for them, but I would appreciate some consideration since they flat out lied to FH and I many times, and because their decision does effect some aspects of our wedding.

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CyndixRichie Posts : 70 Registered: 10/22/07
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Posted: Jan 1, 2009 9:03 PM Go to message in response to: Charlotte09

Hey Everyone,
Been super busy with the holidays Hope everyones where great! Merry Christmas and Happy New Year It's OUR Year!!! YAY Oh so our engagement photo's are finally up, not a ton of them but we are overall satisfied just annoyed it took over a month for the proofs although the promise "it won't happen for our wedding" we won't hold our breath...
So go to http://web.sendtoprint.net/proofbook/galleries.asp?CouponID=tellier and to Richard and Cynthia engagement, the password is park2008
let me know what you think!


"Reach out and open the door that no one thought could be opened. Life is behind it! We don't have an eternity to realize our dreams only the time we are here. If you risk nothing then you risk everything"

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mobride09 Posts : 519 Registered: 3/5/08
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Posted: Jan 1, 2009 9:36 PM Go to message in response to: CyndixRichie

Your pictures turned out great!


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MichelleandRob Posts : 194 Registered: 5/12/08
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Posted: Jan 2, 2009 10:56 AM Go to message in response to: CyndixRichie

Really nice pictures. You two look very happy together.

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Charlotte09 Posts : 1,021 Registered: 2/22/08
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Posted: Jan 4, 2009 1:16 AM Go to message in response to: MichelleandRob

I am so mad at my work! Some of you might know I work at David's Bridal. Well, we just came out with a flower girl dress that comes in a ton of colors. My colors are clover green and light pink. I had my heart set on my flower girl in a pink dress with a clover sash. So I get my flowergirl sized and go to order the dress I want and although the internet and catalog say it is available in sizes 2t to 14 the computer will only let us order 2t-6, and my flower girl needs a 12.
So I call the warehouse and they tell me they are not coming larger than a 6 at all. None of our bridesmaids do that first of all. And they were confused as well because they had the information that said it came in 2t-14. They e-mail someone higher up and they send our store a text message letting us know that we cannot get that flowergirl dress larger than a 6 in any of the colors besides white.
Now I am sad because all of the flower girl dresses are only white or ivory and I get a discount so I am not going to make my flowergirls mom buy a dress somewhere else for more. Do any of you think that having my flower girl in a white dress with pink sash would look dumb if all the flowers are pink and the jr. bridesmaid has a clover dress with pink sash. My only problem with that idea is that the bridesmaid dresses would not have a sash because it wouldnt look right with the dress style we have already purchased.

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mobride09 Posts : 519 Registered: 3/5/08
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Posted: Jan 4, 2009 8:31 PM Go to message in response to: Charlotte09

I think a white dress with pink sash would look great! My bridesmaids are wearing navy, the junior bridesmaids are wearing pink, and the flower girl is wearing ivory with a pink sash. I think it'll look really pretty. However, if money is the only issue as to why you are sticking with Davids, check out this site: www.butterflyxc.com It's where I found my flower girl's dress, and it only cost $30. They have stuff in many colors because they do children's pageant dresses. I have already gotten the FG dress and it is really nice. Just an idea.

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Charlotte09 Posts : 1,021 Registered: 2/22/08
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Posted: Jan 5, 2009 1:31 AM Go to message in response to: mobride09

That website is amazing! $30 for a flower girl dress is great. I want to stick with David's because I work there and get a discount. Mostly I feel better ordering things for my party from there because I can control it all. My new idea is to get her this dress:
<img src="http://www.davidsbridal.com/images/fashions/thumb/s09_h1173.jpg">

Doing all white, and then one of my alterations friends is going to replace the ribbon and bow around the dress (which would also come in white) with a pink one. So it wouldnt be a fully pink dress like I wanted but I think it would still be adorable. Then my junior bridesmaid can still wear her clover green dress with a pink sash without looking silly.

My bridesmaid finally told me she was pregnant and she is going to come look at the bridesmaid dress within at least two weeks so we can figure out a size. I am really happy she told me and is ready to get the dress fixed. I was worried she would wait too late but I did not want to force her to say anything. She even told me she wouldnt feel offended if I didnt want her in the wedding. But I think it is AWFUL to boot a bridesmaid just because they will be pregnant. I just want to get the dress exchanged and get it bigger so we can alter it into a cute maternity dress for her.

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MichelleandRob Posts : 194 Registered: 5/12/08
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Posted: Jan 5, 2009 11:44 AM Go to message in response to: Charlotte09

I think the difference in the dresses will still look very nice and it gives each girl a chance to stand out on their own.

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DAS824 Posts : 509 Registered: 8/24/07
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Posted: Jan 5, 2009 12:38 PM Go to message in response to: MichelleandRob

I think having a different dress will be nice too! She'll have her own style and she'll still look great :)

Happy late holidays and new year everyone!! I'm so glad it's 2009!!! But now I'm stressing about EVERYTHING we/I have left to do...like find an officiant...yikes!! We still don't have someone to marry us and that's kind of a big deal. I'm on the prowl. Any of you ladies still need the person to make it official? That would ease my stress a little to know I'm not alone, lol. My other big thing right now though is to get bridesmaid dresses ordered. I only have 2 (even though FH will probably have 4-5 groomsmen). Having 2 girls will be much less of a hassle than 5...that would be overkill for me. Not that it's a lot but because having to find 3 other girls would just be no fun. So I'm sticking with 2, no problems with a lop-sided party here :) But we realllly need to get some dresses. I'm going to try to get the girls out this weekend and make them choose, haha! It shouldn't really be too difficult, I hope. We're going with Alfred Angelo dresses in charcoal and they can just pick whichever dress they want in that color. So whatever they feel best in and what they can afford. I think that'll work out well for everyone.
In all honesty, I would like to ask 2 more friends to be bridesmaids, but it would just cause way too much drama. I've only known them for about a year, much less than other friends, but I'm closer to them. I wish I wasn't so worried about hurting feelings! Grr! Oh well...we'll see what happens. Anywho, as I said, we're gonna try to focus on dresses and finding an officiant. I see on all the checklists that we should be ordering our invitations already, have you guys done so? Does it seem early or is it just me?

Shauna C...I can't wait!!

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Brooke051609 Posts : 723 Registered: 12/31/07
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Posted: Jan 5, 2009 9:39 PM Go to message in response to: DAS824

Charlotte- glad things are working out for you!! My MOH is pregnant, and due a week after the wedding, we found some REALLY cute maternity dresses!!

DAS- I know how you feel, it's getting to be crunch time again! I feel like I haven't done anything in months and now it's back to the grind!! But isn't it exciting to say we're getting married THIS YEAR!!!

So today we booked our flights for our cruise!!! And we found pretty good deals through Southwest, we really like flying them. So that's REALLY exciting!! Just had to share. Think I'm going to try to get my passport this week, get that out of the way!

 

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