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MrsMaldonado Posts : 2,852 Registered: 3/7/07
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Posted: Nov 13, 2008 1:36 PM Go to message in response to: MrsPJM3

LOL.....yup, sometimes it's multiple times a day for us, too. I think the most we went without it was 1 day.
Yes, I know...I'm a horny, lil, bi-otch!
& PROUD!!!!Laughing


♥Just married!♥


September 27, 2008

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RanAway2Maine Posts : 2,359 Registered: 1/27/08
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Posted: Nov 13, 2008 1:55 PM Go to message in response to: cyadi83

cyadi-Your question-

"But I have a question for you ladies that say that you are ok with having sex once or twice a week because there are other things in the relationship that compensate for it or are more important than sex....

Do you really think your husbands feel the same way? Or do you think they just go along because they're tired of asking for it and getting rejected?"

I'm with you-I can't imagine only making love to my husband once a week-I can't imagine going a day without!

Ashley-Ha-You're too funny!

Bird-I didn't know that you started the old thread...It was just old! I wonder why it is that women lose their sex drive after they get pregnant? It happened with my ex's girlfriend, too-she wanted no part of sex.

MrsWilliams-Yes I really feel strongly that marriage without sex would be dull.

"My biggest turn on is KISSING. LOVE some good kissing!"

OH my God-I LOVE kissing my husband-we can just kiss forever. It's a real turn-on for me too!  

I have a question to throw in the mix: what do you (or your spouse/boyfriend) do when you want some action?

Haha-I have an answer for that one. All I have to say is "I want two"-meaning I want my butt on TWO pillows when he's on top. I love it! That's my favorite.

Ariana-Do you think the frequency will change after you've married? Maybe you'll have more time for each other...

DAS-I remember those days of living at home with the folks and having my boyfriend sneak out at 2 a.m.! My Dad wasn't too happy when he caught them! So I hear ya there!

High point? I assume you mean orgasm. LET'S TALK ORGASM! Haha. I have a few with Dean during intercourse but it's awesome that I have one every time he gives me "kisses. I really feel for the women who've never had one! I do hope there are no problems, physically, with you and the Cancer scare.

MrsWilliams-I wouldn't be OK with not getting that "high". Have you talked to your husband about it? Dean won't stop until he knows I'm satisfied. It's very important to him that I enjoy myself as much as he does.

FutureMrsSchultz-Dean never "begs" for kisses. I love it and I love making him feel good. Kinda gives me that security that he'll never have to go and get it elsewhere. (I have my own insecurity issues...) 

Drm-Ironic, isn't it? That you made love so much before you moved in together! One would think the opposite! I think sex 5 times a week is a good average being that you're both so busy...

sjhc-I totally understand. When things are bothering me to the point of depression, it's hard for me to get in the mood. Stress can really be a killer...I'm glad this thread helped!

Hilly-I wonder if that was my problem with my ex-besides the fact that I hated him. I thought it was psychological because I hated him but the pain was so real. I couldn't have sex at all. Then I though it was endometriosis. It eventually ended up going away and I never had it checked out so I'll never know.

Ashley-I can just touch his crotch with jeans on. He LOVES that I'm interested enough to constantly want to touch him everywhere!

Bride2Be-Kudos to you for waiting! If I had to wait until I got married, I'd be waiting until 41! And I want to be one of those couples whose sex doesn't fizzle. So far so good!

mrspinky-I HATE it when I trying to get changed! He can't keep his hands off me! NO! WAIT! I Like it!

MrsPJM-31 is a great age, but wait til you get into your 40's. My Mom always said that her 40's were the best years of her life and I now know why. 

Linda Jo and Dean-July 19, 2008


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kennysoldwife Posts : 3,862 Registered: 4/28/07
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Posted: Nov 13, 2008 3:11 PM Go to message in response to: RanAway2Maine

But I have a question for you ladies that say that you are ok with having sex once or twice a week because there are other things in the relationship that compensate for it or are more important than sex....

Do you really think your husbands feel the same way? Or do you think they just go along because they're tired of asking for it and getting rejected?"

Sometimes it is the husband that has placed the limit on sex.  All men do not need it all day everyday.

I have never stated how often we indulge, I just said it was not a major aspect in our marriage.   I don't feel it is  necessary to discuss the details of my love life.  Just know that after all these years Kenny is a very happy man.  People ask him all the time what keeps that smile on his face and he will tell them it is the thought of his wife that does that.  Something is going on in our house to do that for him. 

Linda Jo.  an orgasm it not the only way to have satisfying sex.  It can be very enjoyable without it. 

For those of you that find sex so necessary in your lives I do hope you never come to a time when it is not.  It will happen I do hope you have other things in your lives that will take its place. 


Kenny and Me Perfect Together,  10 years and counting.



 

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RanAway2Maine Posts : 2,359 Registered: 1/27/08
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Posted: Nov 13, 2008 3:30 PM Go to message in response to: kennysoldwife

"Linda Jo.  an orgasm it not the only way to have satisfying sex.  It can be very enjoyable without it." 

I certainly don't disagree. I don't have them all the time. I love just being in his arms and that alone is very satisfying.

Linda Jo and Dean-July 19, 2008


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ryanne Posts : 1,042 Registered: 4/27/06
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Posted: Nov 13, 2008 4:09 PM Go to message in response to: RanAway2Maine

hehe! This thread is fun. :)

Sex is not all that important to my husband and I. Before we even started having sex we set a firm rule that our relationship was not going to be centered around it. He's known a lot of people in relationships like that, and he didn't want ours to turn out like those relationships did. We've had a couple of sex fights, but they've turned out to be about something else. lol.

The amount per week really depends on our schedules. If we're really busy, sometimes we don't do anything for a week. Other weeks we'll have it 3-4 times. lol. We don't have a set number. lol.

Turn offs...being awakened in the middle of the night to do it. lol. I don't mind it...I just can't wake myself up enough to really enjoy it and get into it. I am a really heavy sleeper!

Turn ons...when hubby comes onto me and can't keep his hands off me. It makes me feel unbelievably sexy!

I'm actually really happy. For quite awhile after the wedding we couldn't have sex because I'd gotten a bacterial infection that took forever to clear up. So now that it has we've been doing it a lot more. lol.


 

 

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tessandnate09 Posts : 136 Registered: 4/21/08
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Posted: Nov 13, 2008 4:10 PM Go to message in response to: RanAway2Maine

I feel like I used to be in the mood much more than I am now, but i'm sure that my BC Mirena has a lot to do with that. However when I want it, I want it bad. Nathan never really bugs me for "kisses", he actually always bugs me to give me "kisses". He gets turned on by anything really, I think it was Pinky who was saying her man always gets her when shes changing clothes, FH does that to me too.

I think I am one of those women who doesn't have orgasams all the time. I have them very rarely, but i'm young, and that can be characteristic for younger women to have less orgasams so i'm not to bugged about it. I am satisfied most everytime so as long as that keeps up i'm ok.

Lately i've been having some problems with pain during sex, but I talked to my gyno about my IUC and she thinks its from that because it only happens in specific positions. It still bugs me every once in a while, but its really annoying because it happens in my favortie positions which i guess we can't really do now because the thing is in the way.

Do any other ladies have problems with being really small? I guess I just have a really shallow vagina and that can make sex kind of hard sometimes.


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NJ4Life Posts : 3,358 Registered: 8/10/07
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Posted: Nov 13, 2008 4:27 PM Go to message in response to: kennysoldwife

But I have a question for you ladies that say that you are ok with having sex once or twice a week because there are other things in the relationship that compensate for it or are more important than sex....

Do you really think your husbands feel the same way? Or do you think they just go along because they're tired of asking for it and getting rejected?"

I was going to reply to this earlier and I forgot. I agree with Kennys. Dont assume the man must WANT IT ALL THE TIME because he is a man. And just because some couples may only do it once or twice a week does not mean anyone is being rejected by anyone else.


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Ashleyanne2010 Posts : 447 Registered: 5/3/08
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Posted: Nov 13, 2008 4:31 PM Go to message in response to: NJ4Life

So I sucked it up yesterday and went for it!  It's so weird to me that I am not interested in sex and yet when it actually gets started I totally enjoy it.  Now today I'm trying to remember how happy I was about it yesterday...

And as for FH... he loves "outfits"
 

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FinallyMrsF Posts : 285 Registered: 10/24/07
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Posted: Nov 13, 2008 4:49 PM Go to message in response to: Ashleyanne2010

I wasn't going to reply to this but Kennyoldwife gave me motivation. We have sex maybe once a week. DH is on antidepressants and has little sex drive. It has gotten to the point that he is going to talk to his Doc about it. That being said, our relationship is built on love and friendship not sex. I know our lives will be full, because it is not built on sex.

Kerri and Michael 10/25/08



 

 

 

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MrsWilliams2008 Posts : 1,431 Registered: 7/19/07
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Posted: Nov 13, 2008 7:16 PM Go to message in response to: FinallyMrsF

Linda Jo, I don't fake the funk. DH knows when I do or when I don't and he's more than happy to oblige with "extra kisses". But sometimes, I've had enough, i've gotten tired, and i'm quite sensitive in that area. Like someone else said the sex can be quite enjoyable without an orgasm. Other times, I'm like "go for it!"

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goldenLOVE Posts : 44 Registered: 9/8/06
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Posted: Nov 13, 2008 9:12 PM Go to message in response to: RanAway2Maine

First:Nanette-- we call it kisses too...lol I thought we were the only ones that did that...lol 

Ok... here are my answers to the questions that started this forum:

How important is sex in your relationship?

Sex is very important in our relationship. Now, it appears to be some confusion within the thread as to why sex should or shouldnt be important. For my FH and I it is important (not because we dont really love each other or because we are making up for whatever is lacking) because we enjoy those moments of intimacy, and true "unity" if you get my drift. I agree with whoever says is also a stress reliever. Im all for sex! whoo hoo!

How often do you find time to make love to your husband/future husband? Do you have set night(s) of the week?

Right now my FH and I do not live together. Plus, we have 2 babies... (2 and 1) so sex is NEVER SCHEDULED! We have to just get it as it comes...lol We do have this place we go now ( its new... and spontaneous) once the kids go to bed, I leave with him (my grandmother watches them til I return) and we get a room at this new, comfy little motel about 20 minutes away. Its $25 for 2 hours and those are the best 2 hours of my life...lol It has a cheesy mirror above the bed that adds extra spice... he loves to watch me through the mirror when I ride him. We've only been twice... but now we say little things like "Damn I need 25 right now" no one has a clue! 

What are your biggest turn-ons?

Im a porn girl. I admit... I love it. All kinds except male on male. That turns me on... my FH talking dirty also does the trick.... and making out is a big turn on. There is a special way he kisses me when he wants it... and knowing he wants it turns me on big time! My back is one of my spots so if I want it I kinda just let him know to give me a back massage and he already knows whats up fromt there.

Turn-offs?  

Male on male. Ugh. Other than that.... nothing really...lol I know it sounds kinda bad but its true. Im 22... sex drive high... waited until I was 18 to actually have sex... only been with my FH sexually... so Im making up for lost time, I guess....lmao.


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Ariana1228 Posts : 281 Registered: 3/2/08
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Posted: Nov 13, 2008 10:12 PM Go to message in response to: RanAway2Maine

Linda Jo - It will change when we get a break from school and work ... in the summer we always have more sex because we are just working, not going to school and working full time.

We are both in the process of applying to schools and graduating this year (me to graduate him to law) and we work 40 hours a week plus our normal school work has increased a lot because it is our last year.  Also FH works 7 days a week from end of November to mid-March which sucks.

But we try to have sex whenever we can b/c we both enjoy it so much, it's just hard when we don't/can't find the time.


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Lagunabride09 Posts : 2 Registered: 5/5/07
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Posted: Nov 14, 2008 1:08 AM Go to message in response to: RanAway2Maine

So I'm quite new to this whole thing.  I've read a few threads, hung out on a couple pages, but I've just now had something important enough to write.  So this post, like my wedding night, will be my first time.  Any advice for the night of?  I've heard some things and I know that we shouldn't expect things to be technically perfect.  But does anyone have so much needed practical advice?  Thanks!

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cyadi83 Posts : 68 Registered: 7/18/08
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Posted: Nov 14, 2008 2:09 AM Go to message in response to: Lagunabride09

Yeah. I'm also not the type of girl that orgasms every time. But who cares...sex is fun and can be extremely satisfying without an orgasm.

I can't remember who said it but my FH doesn't have to beg for "kisses" (BJ's) either. I love to satisfy him. Actually, seing his face when he's getting a BJ is a super turn on for me. I love to see that satisfaction in his face.

Laguna Bride....

I started having sex at 16 years old. I am now 25. So I started pretty young. I honestly admire you for waiting.

My advice would simply be to relax. Savor the moment. Make sure you get lots of foreplay! I don't know if your FH is also saving himself....if he's not, then you can trust that he will guide you through it. I'm sure he'll be gentle and go slow so simply let yourself go and enjoy the moment. If he is a virgin, then you can definately expect it to not be perfect. Just make sure to take your time and really enjoy it...I can't stress that enough. It's a moment you'll remember for the rest of your life.

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cyadi83 Posts : 68 Registered: 7/18/08
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Posted: Nov 14, 2008 2:22 AM Go to message in response to: cyadi83

Laguna Bride...

I was just reading back at my post and realized that I didn't give you any "practical" advice. I'm sure you know you should relax and enjoy.

Well, other than that I have a few other suggestions. Buy some lingerie that's not too difficult to put on or remove. I recently bought a nice corsetted type lingerie and it took me like an 30 minutes to get into it by myself (My BFF helped me put it on when I bought it).

I also have to remind you to think about the BC. I don't know if you want to get preggers on your wedding night, but if you don't it's something you should start thinking about.  Condoms, pills, etc. I know of a couple of girls who started taking pills a few months before the wedding even though they werent having sex just so that their bodies would get used to them.

Ummm....if it's your first time then don't do it on white sheets. Unless you like that sort of stuff lol.

I'm sure youre worried about pain. Well this varies among girls. To tell you the truth, I had no pain at all my first time. I had pain the second time, which was really really weird and doesn't make any sense, right. Also, bled very very little.

Maybe I'm getting too technical here. I hope you girls don't mind.

Oh! Another thing to remember. THE BUSH. lol....I mean, this is a matter of personal preference but many women preffer to look nice and neat down there for their men. This all depends on what you and your FH like of course. However, if you're going to be weraring a sexy little thong I don't think you would want the bush spilling out on the sides. I should shut up. It's all personal preference.

 

 

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