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RanAway2Maine Posts : 2,359 Registered: 1/27/08
NWR-The New SEX Thread!
Posted: Nov 12, 2008 11:10 AM

Ok, Girls!

The last-created sex thread is old and outdated. Plus there's a whole new crowd of you ladies here now! So, spill it all and don't be ashamed!

My husband and I are crazy about each other and make love as often as possible. Sometimes I really feel for the ladies here who say that they have sex with their significant other only once or twice a week! I can only hope that our sex life doesn't dwindle down to that!

I'll start off with a few questions.

How important is sex in your relationship? After all, sex is central to a wonderful marriage. 

How often do you find time to make love to your husband/future husband? Do you have set night(s) of the week? 

Perhaps you're waiting until after your marriage for that big night!  What are you anticipating? Do you really want it now and don't want to wait?

What are your biggest turn-ons? Turn-offs?  

These are just some ideas to get started! Everyone is welcome to share! 

Linda Jo and Dean-July 19, 2008


new_hampshire , july_2008
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kennysoldwife Posts : 3,862 Registered: 4/28/07
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Posted: Nov 12, 2008 11:25 AM Go to message in response to: RanAway2Maine

Sex is not important at all.  It does not have any real importance in our marriage at all.  We have sex but we have made our lives and our marriage about more than that.  Our marriage is about the things we find interesting and enjoyable about each other out of bed.  We found it was more important to have a relationship outside of the bedroom that is what makes what goes on in our bedroom so much more important.

Kenny and Me Perfect Together,  10 years and counting.



 

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MrsMaldonado Posts : 2,852 Registered: 3/7/07
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Posted: Nov 12, 2008 11:33 AM Go to message in response to: RanAway2Maine

Well, right now, as most of you know, hubby & I are trying to have a baby, so we are doing it all the time! But, even before we were trying, we were still always on top of one another...LOL, we just can't keep our hands off each other. It's fucking great, LOL, excuse my language, but it's just awesome! LOL


♥Just married!♥


September 27, 2008

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tessandnate09 Posts : 136 Registered: 4/21/08
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Posted: Nov 12, 2008 11:36 AM Go to message in response to: RanAway2Maine

Nathan and I love our sex life. We try and make love as often as possible! However, he is gone for 24 hours every three days, so sometimes things get in the way of our plans. We really try not to plan things or have set days most because, for us, it takes away from the mood and often ruins things because it is expected. We have sex on average 4 times a week, sometimes a little less when busy and sometimes more when we have the extra timeWink

We both really love to be spontanious and take risks in the bedroom and we are definetly not afraid to try anything once.

Happy Hump Day everyone....

Wednesday that is... Wink


The day he becomes my husband and I become his wife...September 5th 2009

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MrsPJM3 Posts : 129 Registered: 9/23/08
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Posted: Nov 12, 2008 11:46 AM Go to message in response to: RanAway2Maine

Having come from a 13 year marriage where I can say I was lucky to have it a couple of times a year.  And I didn't really think it was any different for anyone else. My ex wasn't intrested.. well not in me anyway.. But now at 33 I'm loving it with my FH I honestly didn't know it could be so awesome. It is what keeps us  glued together. We sit in the tub together for some us time to just talk and chill, we love to shower together we love to lay in bed and just feel being next to each other. For the first time in my life I sleep nude. I think about making love to him and can't wait to get home to him. It is so wonderful to feel loved and wanted. The look in his eyes always makes me want more. I love my FH dearly and I love our sex life.. on another note we call it playtime alot in front of people it's our own secret we'll saythings like want to go swing at the playground or I need someone to come share my toys with I'll say these things while cooking and he'll come help me cook but he always knows what's really cooking.

My biggest turn on is the neck and ears hands down and the way FH looks at me. 

 

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soontobemrsnye Posts : 240 Registered: 3/2/08
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Posted: Nov 12, 2008 11:50 AM Go to message in response to: MrsMaldonado

Hey did you know online you can find out when your ovulating? Also my doctor said start trying after 6 days of my period and continuously after that every other day. It worked for me. We hardly have sex cause we both work hard! My job is mentally straining and his is physically. Plus, I don't have much of a sex drive since being pregnant. It is not the most important part of our relationship either.


Just Married and loving it!

 

 

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MrsMaldonado Posts : 2,852 Registered: 3/7/07
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Posted: Nov 12, 2008 12:00 PM Go to message in response to: soontobemrsnye

Thanks for the info, soontobemrsnye! I will definitely try that, too!!! I hope it works! Congrats on your pregnancy!!!


♥Just married!♥


September 27, 2008

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tessandnate09 Posts : 136 Registered: 4/21/08
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Posted: Nov 12, 2008 12:01 PM Go to message in response to: MrsPJM3

I agree that sex shouldn't be the mot important part of a relationship, I guess my post came off a little "horny teenager". I think whats interesting is that I just love being close to him, and that closeness and time that we spend together is what leads to those romantic interludes. We also shower together and love to take baths together, and cooking is one of our main passions and it really helps us have some bonding time even on a busy day. On days like today when its 50 degrees out, raining, and winds gusting up to 40mph it would be nice to just stay in bed with him and fool around and snuggle all day.  

The day he becomes my husband and I become his wife...September 5th 2009

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sk127 Posts : 326 Registered: 5/13/08
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Posted: Nov 12, 2008 1:06 PM Go to message in response to: RanAway2Maine

we used to have a really good sex life..but now its whenever we can..its not that we dont want to..its more like his work schedule sucks..that or when there actually is time..mother nature hates me..dam her! lol.

we typically do 1-2 times a week..we were almost dailyt sometimes more months ago..yea it kinda stinks.but we enjoy our time when we do have sex. that and im not too fond of quickies..yeea at times there not bad..but not all the time.


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HillyBride92008 Posts : 207 Registered: 3/28/06
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Posted: Nov 12, 2008 1:30 PM Go to message in response to: RanAway2Maine

I actually have a mild form of Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder (HSDD). Basically, in lamens terms, I tend to not want to have sex. No desire, I think of dozens of other things I'd rather be doing. HSDD can be increased or start because of stress, emotional/physical abuse, lack of sleep and bunch of other reasons. Stress is my trigger.

Here's a great link that describes this disorder:

http://www.psychnet-uk.com/dsm_iv/hypoactive_sexual_desire_disorder.htm

Now, I am VERY attracted to DH physically. When we do have sex, I LOVE it. HSDD, however, can lead to painful sex in women, which I have endured before. If it gets painful, we stop. DH has been such a champ about it.

I'm very happy to say that my HSDD has decreased DRAMATICALLY since my wedding. I think that for years, I was so stressed about becoming pregnant (we've been together since high school...8.5yrs) that it triggered HSDD. We didn't have sex for almost a year during high school. It was 1-2 times per month at best for most of college and 1-2 times every ten days or so from the end of college till the wedding. Since the wedding, we probably average 3-4 times per week and this is only b/c DH works so early that he goes to bed early and is tired.

But, like I said, I LOVE our sex, its great!!! But we've definately learned that it is not the basis of our love b/c of my HSDD!


~ Formerly CCFPrincessBride~

Hillary & Sean~ September 20, 2008 Laughing

 


 

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NJ4Life Posts : 3,358 Registered: 8/10/07
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Posted: Nov 12, 2008 1:34 PM Go to message in response to: sk127

We average abuot 2-3 times a week. Sometimes more (rarely) sometimes less.

I dont get home sometimes til almost 7, then I have to make dinner and all that fun stuff. And by the time I sit down, there is a show on I (or he) wanna see, or I'm just pooped out.

It didnt used to be this way, but as the years and months go by, we just get comfortable in our ways. I also don't think it's uber important to a relationship to do it ALL the time. I think it's important to have a good sex life, but a good sex life doesn't equal quantity, just quality.

Of course if it were up to DH, he'd be doing it everyday! But we're both satisfied with the situation the way it is.


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sjhc132 Posts : 164 Registered: 3/18/08
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Posted: Nov 12, 2008 1:37 PM Go to message in response to: RanAway2Maine

well i guess im going to be the first oddball again...i have an extremely low sex drive while my EH is the complete polar opposite...and that fact alone is very hard on our relationship...its one of the only things we really agrue about...i really hate that i am this way... if it was up to me we would hardly ever have sex but a lot of times i give in... and its not that my eh doesnt "do it" for me...hes great...hes an awesome lover... my body just never wants too... and i cant go very long either...i swear if i had the money i would buy stock in KY since we buy enough of it.... the doctors dont know what it is... ive gone of bc totally and there's still nothing...i might get an actual urge like every 3to4 months...well if ya'll have any advice for me or if anyone else experinces this how do u get past it...

 

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sjhc132 Posts : 164 Registered: 3/18/08
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Posted: Nov 12, 2008 1:40 PM Go to message in response to: HillyBride92008

hilly bride we must of been responding at the same time:)

 

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Megan0071234 Posts : 71 Registered: 8/24/08
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Posted: Nov 12, 2008 2:05 PM Go to message in response to: RanAway2Maine

Sex is important to me in this relationship- as I had a bad sexual relationship with my ex, and that played a part in our divorce. Our relationship is way more than that of course, but we do love our sex. Embarassed I do have a 4 month old daughter - so we are focusing on quality vs. quantity at this time I suppose. When we do get the time & energy, its usually really good.

 My biggest turn off is bad breath or when FH has not shaved because his stubble isnt comfortable.

We dont schedule sex time though because I can't get into it if it is scheduled like laundry day. I love spontanaity!  

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RanAway2Maine Posts : 2,359 Registered: 1/27/08
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Posted: Nov 12, 2008 2:16 PM Go to message in response to: kennysoldwife

kenneys-Yea we were talking about sex and marriage last night and we both know there is SO much more to it than that. But I've never had it so good-I've been with all the wrong men-and most were long term relationships.

MrsMaldonado-It'll be such a nice surprise when you announce to us all that you ARE pregnant! It must be nice "trying" to get pregnant. i have never experienced that. I've spent my whole life trying NOT to get pregnant! And I hear ya on not being able to keep your hands off each other! I hope this feeling never goes away. I love being and feeling wanted by him.

tess-That's how it pretty much is with us-we make love whenever we get a chance. I work out of home. We are up at 4 am every morning and that's always the first time. Then he gets home around 3:30 pm. If we have time and there's nothing pressing, then again. Or anytime before or after supper. Then almost always before we snuggle up to sleep!

MrsPJM-Sorry your first marriage didn't work. :-(. This one sounds SO much better, though. It's weird how everything changes when you know you've got the right one. And I know that look in the eyes. I've never in my 41 years experienced that "look". It's almost like a googly-eyed-look! (If you know what I mean!) We also like to just lay in bed nude and talk for hours about anything and everything.

soon-Congrats on your pregnancy! I didn't even know! Not much of a sex drive since being pregnant? Hopefully that will change for you after the baby, if you want it to. 

tess-I didn't think you came off as a horny teenager! It's just you! I love those snowy or rainy days too to just spend the whole day in bed.

ski-We both love quickies if we don't have much time. Nothing wrong with it as long as you get good quality time, I think.

Hilly-Wow, I'm sorry about your disorder. Does it get better? It's a good thing you have a patient husband who understands...

NJ-That's what I'm afraid of happening as the years go by. The complacency. The being so used to each other that sex becomes almost non-existent. I can't even imagine not making love to my husband at least once a day. I've heard this so many times.

sjhc-Oh I feel for you? I wonder why the doctors can't diagnose you. I hope it gets better... 

Linda Jo and Dean-July 19, 2008


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