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deltagirl Posts : 516 Registered: 12/30/06
Re: Update ~ pregnancy not happening
Posted: Aug 3, 2008 12:42 AM Go to message in response to: nicolesybrant

I joined this site almost 2 years ago when I was first engaged. I recognize some of your names from your wedding planning days. How cool is it to see that you now have little ones. Congrats to you all!!!

I am trying hard to follow in your foot steps. I've been married for 1 month...but we have been TTC for about 2 years. I'm 37 and really don't feel the need to wait.

Meet with a fertility specialist who started me on clomid( drug to help you ovulate) so hopefully that will work!

DH and I both love kids ( he has 2 btw). He's an elementary school principal and I'm a pediatric RN..this house is ready for a baby!

hellokitty - general anesthesia is out of your system in a few hours up to a couple of days. You should be good to go by september. Also Folic acid does not prevent miscarriages...it helps prevent neurological disorders from occurring during fetal devlopment. ( such as spina bifida). The reason why it is soo important to take it BEFORE you are pregnant...is because the neurological system begins todevelop first, usually before a woman even knows she is pregnant.

Good luck to those who are trying...and Congrats to all of you with beautiful babies...I am sooo jealous!! LOL!


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deltagirl Posts : 516 Registered: 12/30/06
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Posted: Aug 3, 2008 12:48 AM Go to message in response to: deltagirl

Queenb - I am very sorry for your loss. I have no idea how it feels, but it most be heartbreaking...hang in there.

 


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kennysoldwife Posts : 3,862 Registered: 4/28/07
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Posted: Aug 3, 2008 8:24 AM Go to message in response to: hellokitty4ever

Hellokitty,

I was cut with my first child and tore with the second.  The difference with the two is when they cut the damage was controlled  When you tear naturally there is just no  telling where it will happen.  I tore in several places and they had to all be stitched. So personal preference would be to be cut.  If you have an epidural you will not feel them cutting you. 

I had my kids natural so I had a local before the cut that wasn't to painful as Nicole said there was already pain and discomfort down there from labor. 

Either way you will heal up quickly and be just fine.


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HooahBride Posts : 341 Registered: 9/19/07
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Posted: Aug 3, 2008 1:46 PM Go to message in response to: kennysoldwife

I will say...I am jealous!!!  I don't know if it is the fact that everyone around me is pregnant or what.  I want to be a mommy so bad!  But I do realize I should probably finish some things before the fact.  Any suggestions on avoid the wanting to be a mommy blues, until me and my hubby are financially ready for it???
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Celiny Posts : 285 Registered: 7/23/07
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Posted: Aug 3, 2008 6:43 PM Go to message in response to: HooahBride

So DH and I just started TTC this month. Is it ever stressful, waiting to test. Unfortunately, my cycles are irregular and VERY LONG (40-47 days), which makes the wait even longer.

Okay, so as I've said before, DH and I have a 3 yr old daughter. To answer some questions about labour, I can share you my experience. Beware, it's very disturbing. If you have a low squeamish tolerance, you may want to skip past my post.

I didn't have much nausea during my pregnancy, but I sure made up for it in labour. I was vomitting non-stop throughout the entire ordeal. I couldn't even keep water down. I had a high fever as well. I was in labour for 26 hours, but only pushed for 45 minutes. I had an episiotomy (vaginal incision) made by the doctor, but it didn't help, because I tore straight back to my anus anyway. Now mind you, my daughter was 10 lbs at birth, and apparently had a very large head. Of course, I got many stitches. It definitely made going to the bathroom afterwards rough. Because I was pushing so hard, I actually burst 4 blood vessels out of my anus (gross, I know). In other words, hemmorrhoids. They were so bad, that I had trouble sitting longer than 10 minutes for several months afterwards. They have never fully gone away (which no one warned me was possible). Did I mention I gave birth over 3 years ago???!!! I'm actually having a last attempt at having them frozen off, but if that doesn't work, I have an appointment with a specialist to have them surgically removed. And yes, I have tried prescriptions and such, and nothing has worked. Lastly, I had the strangest thing happen to me about a week after giving birth. I broke out in some sort of rash over my entire body. I have never seen anything like it before. It wasn't a red rash, but a white one. It looked almost like little worms under my skin. The skin was raised in the shape of a worm, and was completely white. They were EVERYWHERE. I'm talking my hands, my arms, my stomach, my bum, my legs, my feet, etc, etc. Not only was it gross looking, but it was ITCHY! I would lie in bed naked, with diaper rash cream slathered over my entire body, and I would be crying uncontrollably. Sometimes I would scratch until I would bleed. I had a nurse come to the house, and she couldn't explain it, and told me to go to the doctor's. The doctor didn't even know what it was, but he gave me antibiotics, and they did the trick. I can't believe I shared all of this with you, but it would have been nice if someone had warned me that these things were possible.

Bringing back all of these memories is making me wonder why I want to do it all over again. I guess having a child in your arms is all worth it in the end.

Oh yes, one last thing. I forgot to mention frequent urination and loss of bladder control. That's another good one. Let's just say I pee at least 20 times a day now (honestly not an exaggeration), and I can't hold it like I used to.

Happy pregnancies and life after to all! LOL

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RMB0414 Posts : 1,386 Registered: 8/2/06
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Posted: Aug 4, 2008 2:08 PM Go to message in response to: Celiny

Sorry, I don't have any suggestions on how to avoid those mommy blues!  We both wanted a baby very badly but knew we had to wait until after the wedding (o:  It'll get here quick, don't worry!

As of the whole being cut and tearing thing... luckily I didn't experience that as the only cut I got was a great big old one in my lower belly (o:  And I am going to say that I loved having a c-section and will never try a VBAC.  MIL gives me crap over this and says every baby is different.  I said well after 52 hours and only getting to 4 cms along with everything else that happened we're both traumitized enough - and why go through it again.  So she goes "Well I was in labor for 30hrs with Joe" WELL DOUBLE THAT ALMOST LADY!!!!!!  And still know you're not even halfway there to pushing!!  ARGH SHE MAKES ME CRAZY!!!  Who the hell cares how I get my baby out - as long as they are out and healthy.  And seriously, yes every baby is different but my pelvis sure for hell isn't changing!  And that was the whole problem he was stuck wayyyyy up top!  GEEZ GET OVER IT!!!!  deep breaths

The heme's - yes oh yes.  They sure did bless me too.  About the last 2 months.  Gosh I had to go home from work one day because I couldn't sit.  Every now and then if I haven't gone the bathroom in a couple of days, it will return.  And boy does it hurt!  Actually thought it ruptured in the hospital.  I went pee and the toilet was full of blood.  Come to find out it was just from the balloon cath in me.  Gosh the damn nurse had to check out my butt hole and I was mortified.  HAHA!  She was like um sweetie you didn't poop how would it rupture, but she checked anyways!  I didn't know hahaha!  Gotta love witch hazel!

The other fantastic thing about having a csection is because your intestines were like outside of you on the table, it is very important you pass gas in recovery.  So while people were visiting, I had to toot away and actually thought it was pretty funny. 

They also tell you if you pass anything bigger than a golf ball clot then to call ASAP.  Well as I was trying to pass gas, I was pushing and felt a big old something fall out of my twat.  I was like man I don't hink I just crapped myself because that wasn't my bum.  So I went into the bathroom and when I took my pants and undies down, a big old blood clot the size of a tennis ball rolled down my leg and landed in my slipper.  I started flipping out and was thinking I was dieing.  I was screaming to Joe to call a nurse.  Well it was nothing, and they've seen much bigger!  Holy shit, I thought I lost my liver or something!!

I will say during labor, I had the 6 rounds of the mesa something or other (the pill inserted into your cevix) - the balloon cath, my membranes stripped, my water broken that was full of meconium, my cervix had an iv in it, my baby had a heart monitor screwed into his head 3 times while inside, the epi had me close to passing out (they had to lay me down ASAP and start pumping my iv with the ephi stuff that makes blood pressure go up), the hand iv they could not get in (took a good half hour with a whole lot of blood all over the place), an emergency c-section, a big old poop all over the operating table because for one, i was nervous as can be, two i hadn't gone in days, and three i couldn't feel a damn thing.  so my gosh it must have been a good one!  (and the only reason i know is because the intern told me 3 times i made a big old mess as i felt them tip my body halfway over and clean.)  aww modesty is out the window!  and a newborn with a stupid iv sticking out of his head...

but I would do it a million times over.  because when you see that baby, and you hold that bay - the world is suddenly a million times better than it ever was.  he is my absolute world. 


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Kayla04 Posts : 72 Registered: 11/15/06
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Posted: Aug 4, 2008 3:05 PM Go to message in response to: RMB0414

hi ladies I have been following this thread because I love babies.  I want one so bad but my husband is not quite ready yet.  I thought maybe I was pregnant because I got a positive test last week then I did a couple of other tests and they were negative so I was a little depressed.  Is there anything that you can tell your Dh to hurry up and get ready or is that just a man thing?

 

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RMB0414 Posts : 1,386 Registered: 8/2/06
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Posted: Aug 4, 2008 4:58 PM Go to message in response to: Kayla04

Hi Kayla - welcome to the lovely baby thread (o:  I'm not sure about getting your hubby to hurry his butt up on this baby thing.  I think it may be a man thing, and it's def something you both want to be on the same page together.  Did he set up a time line or anything for you?  Does he give you reasons why he isn't ready yet? 

I just re-read my post, sorry it was a little nuts (o:  Kelley you must be out of your mind reading the last couple of posts lol.

Oh and I want to welcome my new neice into the world today at 1:00 (not sure the exact time - brother isn't 1oo% on top of these things lol) I'm so excited for her!!  I'm going to see her in about an hour wahoo!!

 


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ChicaChels Posts : 656 Registered: 10/12/06
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Posted: Aug 4, 2008 5:13 PM Go to message in response to: Kayla04

hey kayla if you had a positive pregnecy test you probably want to go to the doctor because there is no way to get a false positive. the only way the hormone the tests detect is in your body is if youre pregnant. it is however possible to get false negatives especially if you take the test when your urine is less concentrated :) i learned that much throughout all my ttc research!

 

 

 

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RMB0414 Posts : 1,386 Registered: 8/2/06
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Posted: Aug 4, 2008 8:48 PM Go to message in response to: ChicaChels

hey ladies - kayla and chelsea - it is possible to have a false positive,  it is VERY rare but it can happen.  hell it happened to me once right before my wedding and i panicked - but every now and then ther's a faulty test out there (o:

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Mrslinnben Posts : 2,286 Registered: 6/4/07
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Posted: Aug 4, 2008 9:29 PM Go to message in response to: RMB0414

RMB & Celiny,

Thanks for all the "gory" details, I'm scared now! 


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JosesGirl Posts : 582 Registered: 3/28/06
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Posted: Aug 4, 2008 10:09 PM Go to message in response to: RMB0414

I can offer a little help with the baby jealousy blues issue. I was so jealous of my friends before we got pregnant. My MOH was 5 months prego at my wedding, our BM's girlfriend was 4 months prego at our wedding, and I had about 6 other people that I knew that were pregnant. We had just gotten married and I was wanting to have a baby sooooo bad. The only thing that got me through it was the idea that we needed to spend time together as a MARRIED COUPLE...not just a couple of 3 years living together. And honestly, after having experienced parenthood, I can say you need to enjoy EVERY free second that you have with your spouse. It's amazing the things you take for granted when you don't have a child demanding your attention every waking second. I love my daughter and I wouldn't trade her for anything (hell, my mom was supposed to watch her overnight for us tonight but I can't stand the thought of giving her up for the night), but it's hard for me to do ANYTHING these days...that's why I don't frequent the boards very often anymore. She's usually up by 8 and since my hubby is back to work, I won't usually get to brush my teeth, get dressed or eat anything until she takes a nap around 12. I was watching a Baby Story on TLC the other day and this woman said something that is so true....Everyone always says the 1st year of marriage is the hardest thing to experience. But in actuality, pregnancy and the first few months of taking care of a newborn are the toughest and the truest test of a relationship." And that is SOOOOOO true!!! Jose' and I fought so much for the first month b/c it's such a big stressful change when the baby gets here. You're exhausted, stressed out, your hormones change (and if you get postpartum depression like I did, you cry over ANYTHING and EVERYTHING!!) but you have to take care of your baby no matter how bad things get. You have no clue how different life is after a baby is born until you experience it. I wouldn't give Aliyah up for ANYTHING but trust me, you need to enjoy your free time as a married couple before you get tied down with a baby.

 

I can't offer any advice on the cutting/tearing issue as I also ended up having a c-section, but I think if I would have had to choose one or the other, I would have rather been cut. They numb you and it's a clean cut and stitch up as opposed to a jagged tear. But honestly, at the time, I really don't think you'd care too much! Your mind is elsewhere and you have so much adrenaline going through your body and you just want that baby out!

 

 "aww modesty is out the window!"

Lol that was one thing I was going to say but Rena beat me to it. Seriously, after you have a baby, you have no modesty anymore!! Everyone on the maternity floor must have seen my naked ass at some point during my stay. When my Dr came in the next day to check my incision, he covered me with a pillow "to protect what little modesty I had left." I looked at him and said "I don't even care....I have no modesty anymore" lol.

And I'm with Rena about the c-section. I loved it and no VBAC for me either!!! I was also induced, but luckily I dilated completely (and actually before I was supposed to!) They inserted cervadil (a gel that softens your cervix) at 8 pm, and then they were going to start me on pitocin in the morning to bring on contractions. I was fully dilated and was starting to push by 6am without ever having even seen the pitocin, but she got stuck in my pelvis and wouldn't come out....so I ended up having a c-section. My Dr actually told me that most inductions end up being emergency c-sections b/c most women get stuck at 3-4 cms and won't dilate past that point. So I got lucky in that aspect....but my payback was when my epidural ran out and I was in agony trying not to push before they could get me into the OR for my spinal block so they could do my c-section.

But I would so do it again in a heartbeat...even if I had to experience the same exact labor. I still look at her sometimes and get choked up b/c I can't believe she's mine. It's such an amazing experience being a parent...just make sure you're ready to be completely selfless for at least the next 18 years.  You eventually get used to your new life and learn how to function normally with 4 hours of sleep, but it's very hard at first. But once you've adjusted, you can't picture your life any other way.  Smile 

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ChicaChels Posts : 656 Registered: 10/12/06
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Posted: Aug 4, 2008 10:35 PM Go to message in response to: RMB0414

thats so weird. my cousin who has been an OB nurse for 14 yrs said it doesnt happen and everything ive read online says it cant happen! sorry for giving faulty info!!

 

 

 

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RMB0414 Posts : 1,386 Registered: 8/2/06
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Posted: Aug 4, 2008 10:53 PM Go to message in response to: ChicaChels

haha that's okay - it def can happen that's for sure (o:  Different reasons can cause it, medication you're on is one of them, even something as simple as detergents or soaps can make it faulty!  My SIL was telling me off saying I must have been prego and my body rejected it, but I highly doubt that within a half hour my body rejected a pregnancy and I just happened to catch it.  I re-took a test a half hour afterwards because I was so stinkin nervous!  LOL!

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kelleyiskelley Posts : 11,593 Registered: 7/2/06
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Posted: Aug 5, 2008 12:04 AM Go to message in response to: RMB0414

Ummmm .... adoption is looking better and better. I think Im going to go lie down now. I feel ill. And frightened.

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