The UN-ROMANTIC HUSBAND CLUB

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kelleyiskelley Posts : 11,590 Registered: 7/2/06
The UN-ROMANTIC HUSBAND CLUB
Posted: Aug 4, 2008 12:28 PM

Here Ye, Here Ye...

Welcome to the first meeting of the UnRomantic Husband Club. This thread is purely for entertainment value and so wives such as myself can have a place to vent,bitch,and complain about our ever so UNromantic husbands;and also "gag" over the nauseating details of all the people we know who are always gushing about "the romantic thing" their DH did for them. BLEH.

You may become a Member of this Club if:

A. You are married (all who are engaged to be married can also join/post and become OFFICIALLY inducted once they marry.)

B. Your husband is not romantic at all.

C. You are jealous and/or envious of all other wives out there whose husbands apparently send them flowers at the drop of a hat "for no apparent reason" - buy them cards or leave cute little notes on the mirror or fridge - call during the day just to say how much they miss you - and other nauseating things to express their love.

4. You mock men who are romantic but in actuality - you are just a tad bitter about it because in theend - you realize that your nonromantic husband is probably never going to change.

All others who do not meet these requirements may post, lurk, or both - but you cannot receive official membership privaleges unless you meet all requirements of the Room.

Also - if you are a wife or fiance to a DH who is incredibly romantic - we do NOT want to hear about it in this room. YUCK!!!! lol.

So - a bit of background on my unromantic husband. I have known him for over 8years. In all that time, he has done ONE truly romantic thing. His marriage proposal was seriously amazing - under the Rockefeller Center Christmas Tree. Perfection. Since then he has done nada. Apparently he thinks that proposal gets him off the hook FOR LIFE!!!

I have to also say that in EVERY other aspect of life, my husband is a wonderful, caring, supportive, and beautiful person. He would do anything for me and he stands by me always. Obviously thats why I married him and I do of course realize that all those big life things are WAY more important than "romance." BUT - I honestly believe that romance and spontaneity are partly how you keep a marriage going strong - how you stay intrigued and interesting to each other. So I try to BE romantic myself, do nice things that he wont expect, get us tickets for things unannounced, make special dinners or plans, whatever I can do. He just simply DOESNT GET IT. The light is not on in this area. He just would never THINK to do something spontaneous or to make plans for us to get away together - nothing like that. Im often jealous of these wives who say "Oh my husbnad planned a weekend away at a romantic Inn for us for our Anniversary" and things like that. DH would never do that. Just wouldnt cross his mind. Im one of those wives thats always hinting around - or coming right out and saying "You know, we never do anything romantic. Lets go somewhere for our Anniversary." Or when my bday is coming up he will say "what do you want?" and tend to get me unromantic things like Cds,dvds,etc as gifts. My reply is always "Id love it if you would plan something for us -surprise me." He KNOWS I want this more than anything, yet he never does it. He says hes bad at surprises. But why doesnt he get that WHATEVER he did would be awesome beause right now he does NOTHING? And anything is better than nothing.

Okay whose next? Any other complainers? LOL. Feel free to vent about coworkers,friends,family members etc who have those incredibly annoying super romantic husbands who are CONSTANTLY surprising them with little trinkets,jewelry,etc.

I want to kill them all.


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kelleyiskelley Posts : 11,590 Registered: 7/2/06
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Posted: Aug 4, 2008 1:15 PM Go to message in response to: kelleyiskelley

Really? Noone? Well now my DH isnt romantic, AND Im a dumbass. SWEET!

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Iheartweddings Posts : 645 Registered: 7/23/07
Re: The UN-ROMANTIC HUSBAND CLUB
Posted: Aug 4, 2008 1:49 PM Go to message in response to: kelleyiskelley

I would join except I have the opposite problem... I'm almost annoyed at how romantic my DH is sometimes... I'm just like, "come ON! just be normal and sarcastic with me!!!" Maybe he can rub some romantic-ness onto your DH! (that sounds creepy now that I just typed that...) oh well :) I'll lurk here though!

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Beachwed Posts : 782 Registered: 9/19/06
Re: The UN-ROMANTIC HUSBAND CLUB
Posted: Aug 4, 2008 1:56 PM Go to message in response to: kelleyiskelley

How's this. I am married, have known husband for 8 years (dated most of that time) and I think he got me flowers 2 times. Our Saturday mornings, which could be spent cuddling and being all romantic with him making me breakfast, are instead spent with him farting because he thinks the dog's reaction to it is funny.  Rather than smother me with kisses and hugs, he likes to see if he can dead-lift me. Hmm... he often says "lets go out for a nice dinner and movie afterwards" but then often gets distracted by whatever sporting event is on tv and I end up on the couch with my books.

I love the guy. Whenever he is romantic, I get worried and tell him to snap out of it. He quickly does.

Can I join?

(And I really do love my husband, he would do anything for me. He's just naturally not a romantic guy, but there's so many extra perks to him that I love. But when I hear about the things my BIL does for his girlfriend, which are over-the-top romantic, I want to gag.) 

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kelleyiskelley Posts : 11,590 Registered: 7/2/06
Re: The UN-ROMANTIC HUSBAND CLUB
Posted: Aug 4, 2008 1:59 PM Go to message in response to: Beachwed

Beachwed - consider yourself a Member! You sound like the perfect candidate!!! LOL.

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TheNewMrsJ Posts : 754 Registered: 1/6/08
Re: The UN-ROMANTIC HUSBAND CLUB
Posted: Aug 4, 2008 2:21 PM Go to message in response to: kelleyiskelley

i woulda thought FH was romantic, based off the cute mushy poems he wrote me back in 8th grade... but he hasn't written any poems in a long time, let alone do something really romantic to sweep me off my feet or take my breath away... his idea of a romantic proposal apparently was us going to lunch at chili's with his bro and his gf (that ive never been fond of) and the giftcard they gave us for christmas and proposing in the loud noisy restaurant... i would have loved something much more romantic and special, but i can't let him know that... it's not even like we ever go to chili's - it was the only restaurant on the giftcard that FBIL and gf gave us that was near where we lived, lol... i don't even think we've been there since he proposed 8 months ago...

and he's not very romantic about 'nookie' either... he'll just come up behind me while im sitting at the computer and whip it out - he thinks it's funny, i think it's annoying, lol... 

and omg, his farting is getting ridiculous! esp if we're snuggling in bed, with the fan blowing in the room... the worst is when he rips one, right in the direction of the fan and it blows it all right back at us... i wanna smack him so much everytime he does that, cuz i have to bury my head in the pillows for a minute just to breath! since when did passing gas in front of a girl become perfectly acceptable and okay to do all the time? it'd be nice if the man had a little bit manners, lol...


 

 

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Mrslinnben Posts : 2,285 Registered: 6/4/07
Re: The UN-ROMANTIC HUSBAND CLUB
Posted: Aug 4, 2008 2:24 PM Go to message in response to: kelleyiskelley

Kelley, You know that I'm already in the daclub, right.  I've vented about his unromatic-ness before (yes, unromantic-ness is being added the Oxford dictionary)....

I've gotten flowers on a handful occasions outside a holiday, bday, anniversary.  I was so mad once I told him to buy me something...anything...I ended up with a small bag of jelly beans.  I'm always buying him little things, so the bag of jelly beans meant a lot to me.  He did just buy me flowers a few weeks ago out of guilt.  Yeah sometimes the guilt trip works.  Because I'm always telling him "what are you buying me today".

Enough of bashing him, he does things around the house to help me out, we do a ton of cuddling, but wish he would take it a step further.   

I guess really you can't teach an old dog a new trick.

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soontobemrsnye Posts : 240 Registered: 3/2/08
Re: The UN-ROMANTIC HUSBAND CLUB
Posted: Aug 4, 2008 2:38 PM Go to message in response to: kelleyiskelley

-raises hand- To be married in a month and not a bone of romance in my man. For the first year he was and then it was all down hill.  I agree, romance is to hold a relationship together, keep the sparks. My man refuses to change. But then again I don't want no sappy man 24/7. Just once in a blue moon would be nice. MEN!



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futuremrsperry Posts : 1,904 Registered: 4/23/06
Re: The UN-ROMANTIC HUSBAND CLUB
Posted: Aug 4, 2008 2:44 PM Go to message in response to: kelleyiskelley

Yup DH is right up there.  The only time I get flowers or anything like that is on our anniversary.  That's it!

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soontobemrsnye Posts : 240 Registered: 3/2/08
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Posted: Aug 4, 2008 2:45 PM Go to message in response to: futuremrsperry

I don't even get them then! Lucky!


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Kayla04 Posts : 72 Registered: 11/15/06
Re: The UN-ROMANTIC HUSBAND CLUB
Posted: Aug 4, 2008 3:01 PM Go to message in response to: kelleyiskelley

I am pretty sure that I would be a great member of this club. For our one year anniversry he did not even get me anything.  The proposal was not even romantic just like a spur of the moment thing. Like all of you I love my husband but come on already you can be romantic atleast maybe once in a while.

 

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TheNewMrsJ Posts : 754 Registered: 1/6/08
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Posted: Aug 4, 2008 3:25 PM Go to message in response to: futuremrsperry

he got me a few of those 'wooden roses' that they sell at the fair last summer... he said that way they won't ever die, as my ex would get me roses every once in awhile and they'd die and id save the petals and greenry... 

sure it's nice they don't die and i appreciate he thought of me and bought them for me, as i couldn't go since i had work that night his family was going, but it'd be nice if he bought me some real ones once in awhile... LOL...

he's not an engineer - he's a supervisor for UPS, currently in charge of an outbound belt, who plays WoW (like me) and writes sci-fi stories in his free time... i guess that would explain the logic...  


 

 

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kennysoldwife Posts : 3,859 Registered: 4/28/07
Re: The UN-ROMANTIC HUSBAND CLUB
Posted: Aug 4, 2008 3:50 PM Go to message in response to: TheNewMrsJ

So very sorry you ladies have to live like this.  I will just be a lurker on this thread.  My husband is slightly romantic.

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We2Heart Posts : 452 Registered: 10/11/07
Re: The UN-ROMANTIC HUSBAND CLUB
Posted: Aug 4, 2008 4:01 PM Go to message in response to: TheNewMrsJ

I don't fit the requirements to join the club, but I wanted to laugh about the engineer comment.  FH and I are both engineers (and my dad, so I see it with my mom too)...it's funny because it does come down to logic.

The hopeless romantic in me wants FH to bring me flowers just because.  The engineer in me says "And the flowers would sit there and do what exaclty...? Other than DIE..."  Then the hopeless romantic comes back and says "it looks pretty!!"

But even though FH is an engineer and very logical, he still is actually very romantic.  Er, romantic to me at least.  So I shall lurk also, pretending like I'm part of the club but not.  :-P


 

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ginmal Posts : 396 Registered: 1/11/08
Re: The UN-ROMANTIC HUSBAND CLUB
Posted: Aug 4, 2008 4:05 PM Go to message in response to: We2Heart

My Dh is VERY un-romantic. But, and now Kel brace yourself for this one.

LAST friday DH came home with a card for me....a BIRTHDAY card, in which he crossed off "Happy Birthday" and wrote "Sorry babe no good love cards love J" under it. LOL. Which I was just stunned he thought of me...........

and THEN.......

The friday that just passed I came home to a dozen roses!

I told my Ma and sis that there is something terribly wrong with my husband because he hasn't done two nice gestures for me in the same YEAR, let alone two weeks IN A ROW!!

(But I did give him alot of shit for forgetting our anniversary -even though we did go away for a night over the weekend - but he didn't get me a card or flowers or anything....and I let him know that hurt me big-time)

So maybe he is getting it after all. Hell, it's only taken 8 years...but who's counting! LOL


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