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HELP!!! Dropouts with Wedding Two Weeks Away

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HELP!!! Dropouts with Wedding Two Weeks Away
Posted: May 30, 2008 11:51 PM

Things are getting worse.  My sister died last week.  It was extremely sudden and not only is it hard to have a family celebration so close to this, but she was a hairdresser and was going to do me and my bridesmaids. But that is not the subject of this cry for help.  

My FH has had two groomsmen drop out.  One had a major conflict with leaving the county, and gave us a month's notice, and is a dear friend, and would have been sacrificing a major career opportunity, so it's unfortunate, but I'm not upset.  Though we just only got a replacement yesterday.  

Another groomsmen dropped out just tonight, and didn't bother letting us know till we called him telling him that he had to get his tux tomorrow or else.  Now we need to replace another one and feel like we've already exhausted all of our friends.  We would love for my brother to do it, but he has a four-month-old baby and is taking care of the arraignments for our sister.

It's really embarrassing to have your wedding party cancel on you. Other friends of ours are 1/2 of a couple and don't want to be apart for their significant other. It really makes you feel like you have so few friends, we only have 3 and 3 standing up anyway. I don't know how the people with 5, 6, or 7 do it. This wouldn't be an issue if all of my bridesmaids hadn't already purchased their dresses. I can't have one of them walk alone, can I? 

This is the problem with waiting so long to get married.  We're already been "married" so long we barely have any friends left. Grrrr 

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Re: HELP!!! Dropouts with Wedding Two Weeks Away
Posted: May 31, 2008 12:02 AM Go to message in response to: Guest

I guess we can just have one groomsmen walk to bridesmaids down and then the MOH and the best man walk together.  Well, I guess that won't take much time.  

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PharmToxGirl Posts : 5,462 Registered: 8/30/07
Re: HELP!!! Dropouts with Wedding Two Weeks Away
Posted: May 31, 2008 12:27 AM Go to message in response to: Guest

I'm sorry to hear about your sister, and shouldn't that somehow be the priority?

even, uneven bridal parties - NO ONE CARES.   


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ArtBride Posts : 4,841 Registered: 5/9/07
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Posted: Jun 1, 2008 11:32 AM Go to message in response to: Guest

Oh wow - I'm so sorry to hear about your sister! I couldn't imagine losing my sister, let alone so close to my wedding. Was she your MOH? 

Umm...I'm sorry, but NONE OF THIS would matter to me AT ALL if I had just lost my sister. I would be HEARTBROKEN, not worried over whether the number of attendants would be even or not.

Don't worry about the sides being even. I had one more BM than my DH had GM, as well, and I don't think anybody even noticed. The BMs processed IN by themselves, and when everyone processed out, the last GM escorted two BMs. No problem at all.

And I don't know what you're talking about...about waiting too long to get married and having 'no friends left.' We were together for 8 years before our wedding and we each have plenty of friends.  


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ginmal Posts : 396 Registered: 1/11/08
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Posted: Jun 5, 2008 1:38 PM Go to message in response to: ArtBride

I have to say if my sister died last week and I was planning a wedding my wedding would be post-poned INDEFINATLEY....I would be a mess! And you just come on and post on Bride about how she was supposed to do your wedding day hair and how GM are dropping out?? Are you SERIOUS?
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kelleyiskelley Posts : 11,593 Registered: 7/2/06
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Posted: Jun 5, 2008 1:57 PM Go to message in response to: ginmal

Wow. Yeah, this thread is really bizarre. Im a bit speechless actually. Maybe you are throwing yourself into wedding planning so you dont have to deal with the grief of losing your sister? Thats really the only logical reason I can come up with for why in the world you would even be thinking of these things right now. Im really sorry for your loss. That is so awful. I hope you find comfort in your family and talk about how to best move forward , or when, with the wedding. If you still have it on the day its planned, I actually think that having a very small or NO wedding party is a good thing. Make it small and intimate. Im just not sure how anyone; including YOU; would feel like celebrating so soon after such a huge loss though. Best of luck.

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luckykelleyk Posts : 113 Registered: 7/24/07
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Posted: Jun 5, 2008 1:59 PM Go to message in response to: ArtBride

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luckykelleyk Posts : 113 Registered: 7/24/07
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Posted: Jun 5, 2008 1:59 PM Go to message in response to: ArtBride

And I don't know what you're talking about...about waiting too long to get married and having 'no friends left.' We were together for 8 years before our wedding and we each have plenty of friends.  -

I have seen this before, and it is really sad. Sometimes when people get into serious relationships (or move in together) they go into their own little world and abandon their friends. Then, when they get married, or get pregnant, they all of a sudden get the urge to "reconnect" with their friends. It is very very sad!  

P.S. If my sister died 2 weeks before my wedding, there is no way that I could go ahead with it. However, my sister and I are very close, and not all families are.  

 


 


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crystalizeddreams Posts : 321 Registered: 10/18/07
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Posted: Jun 5, 2008 5:22 PM Go to message in response to: luckykelleyk

WOW!! Thats so awful I dont even know what yo say. Perhaps you should postpone the wedding to allow everyone to grieve?

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MrsMcCain Posts : 581 Registered: 10/24/07
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Posted: Jun 5, 2008 5:35 PM Go to message in response to: Guest

I am so sorry to hear about your sister. That is just such an aweful thing to have to go through.... and it makes matters even tougher around a time that you were so excited about. Just try to remember that everything happens for a reason...whether we realize it or not... and that things will get better. I hope everything goes well for you, good luck :)

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stillgroovin Posts : 238 Registered: 11/12/07
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Posted: Jun 7, 2008 11:16 AM Go to message in response to: MrsMcCain

You know guys, not everyone is super close to their family. 

A lot of my friends have brothers or sisters who are MUCH older than them and they just never were close. Hell, my own sister is two years older than me, but she's lived away for so long I don't think I would be devastated if she died all of the sudden - I think it would be really hard for me to comprehend. I mean, I love her and we get a long, but, it's not like my life has been disrupted.

That's not to say that I don't care - it's just that when you can actually feel a big change like that, it's more wrenching. Get it?

SO lay off the OP.  

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dewdropinn Posts : 156 Registered: 2/27/07
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Posted: Jun 8, 2008 1:08 AM Go to message in response to: stillgroovin

No kidding, some of these replies are so rude and heartless I'm sort of embarrassed that I like to come to this board.

Have the girls walk by themselves and nobody will think about the party being uneven. 

It is a fairly common issue for couples to grow apart from their friends. It always sucks, but eventually you usually start to meet other couples. 


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ginmal Posts : 396 Registered: 1/11/08
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Posted: Jun 9, 2008 11:53 AM Go to message in response to: stillgroovin

Um, sorry but just because the OP an dyou "stillgroovin" are not "close " to your sisters, does NOT mean anything. Think about your parents....How would they feel? I know I would be DEVISTATED if my daughter ever died before me, and can say that I would need more than 2 weeks to be there for my other child and her wedding.

It is NOT all about the bride all the time. And I find it VERY selfish to make a statement "my sister died last week and she was supposed to do our wedding hair"...I am sorry but that is  asick statement to make wether you are close to her or not!

Any parent loosing their child is wrenching. Get it?


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coastiebride Posts : 1,365 Registered: 3/26/07
Re: HELP!!! Dropouts with Wedding Two Weeks Away
Posted: Jun 9, 2008 12:03 PM Go to message in response to: Guest

Ok its taken me 10 days to get the balls to respond back to this. This hits way to close to home for me, and it making me sick just typing about it. I dont get this poster personally my sister did die the day before prom. needless to say i didn't go!! I think you are absorbing yourself into your wedding so you do not have to deal with the grief of loosing your sister. I understand wanting to go threw with it because i am sure that is what she would of wanted. but having an uneven bridal party should be the least of your worries let alone not having someone to do your hair, obviously you are on a one track mind set. Please take the time before your wedding and reflect on what happened with your sister and grief with your family, they need you also.

 Lets not all get caught up in our wedding. Remember we should not only be planning for a our wedding but more so we should be planning for  our marriage. More so then fighting over shades of peach, tuxs, cake flavors and only god knows what else. Because the next morning it is over, guests are gone the flowers have died the cake well lets face it 1/2 of it was tossed out. Cinderella is still a maid, the limo is now a pumpkin And there is life to face ok after wild crazy monkey sex for 7 nights straight, lets not kid out selfs there are priorities After its all gone there's still bills to pay and a job to go back to

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futuremrsperry Posts : 1,906 Registered: 4/23/06
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Posted: Jun 10, 2008 1:21 PM Go to message in response to: Guest

OMG I am sooo sorry to hear about your sister!!!  I personally would postpone the wedding.  You and your family need to grieve this horrible loss.  I know diving into wedding planning sounds like a good idea, but you are going to have to come to terms with it.  I know I throw myself into work when something bad happens but it never helps.

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