Ok so THIS week, I am planning a cross country move , during finals week, after I totaled my car and have to deal with the insurance company and rental cars and DMV, as well as plan this wedding in a three month time frame. Oh yeah...and work. FH says he was going to get fittited for his tux last thurs the 8th. I ask him last night, after he got home from 3 days worth of camping for the 2 weekend in a row. Did you get your tux? Dad is nuts to make sure you order his tux. Nope I didn't go. why not? well I had to get the stuff ready for this weekend. Babe, we are getting married on the most popular wedding day in 2008, in the most popular city to get married. Well I need you to pick the color!!! WE ARE NOT HAVING COLORS FOR THE 5000TH TIME!!!!! pick a freaking tux and run with it.
Is it too much to ask for him to do one thing for me? I have stress pouring out of my eyeballs, and he's at the lake!!!
It's kinda like the person at work, running around like a twit, at 2:00 on Friday and you're watching them franticly sort papers, bang their shin on an open drawer, maybe see them talk to themselves, and throw you a dirty look. Its then that you realize, you spent the past 15 minutes SITTING there, WATCHING that person run around like a twit, and you don't ask hey, need a hand?
I can understand your frustration! With my FH, I have to give him very specific deadlines. Such as - the tux has to be picked out and ordered by this Wednesday. Or I need you to call the minister by the end of this week. Even then, I have to keep checking back with him on it.
Maybe try making FH a list with specific deadlines? I know, making a list is more work for you, but at least then he has a list of what needs to be done and when it needs to be completed.
I think you should just tell him that you are very stressed right now and have way too much on your plate to double check on every thing that he is in charge of doing. You've asked him to do one thing, one thing that you would be incapable of performing on your own as you would need his body for sizes anyway. Tell him it will take him very little time and to PLEASE make this one tiny thing you're asking of him a priority.
Try to be nice about it (though I completely understand why you would want to pull your hair out) Good luck :-)
Oooor, you could do like me and say, "I throw up my hands! I would love to have a very nice wedding ceremony with you, but from now on you need to take the initiative I'm taking or I walk away from the planning and you'll be left scrambling. Good luck. :D "
It's amazing how he 'improved' and 'learned' so quickly on his own when he realized I was serious.
**********I don't know what I want for my wedding, I just know I want him for my marriage!************