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People Say the Darndest Things!

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nmtgirl Posts : 142 Registered: 2/12/07
People Say the Darndest Things!
Posted: May 12, 2008 2:42 AM

Okay! So I started this thread as kind of a vent about the RUDE or BIZARRE things people say when they find out that you are engaged! Man, I can't believe the things that have come out of people's mouths!!! Here are a few of the gems:

1. First of all, I am a young bride. I'll be 22, almost 23, when I get married. We are waiting until after we have our degrees to get married. I have had countless non-relatives and non-friends tell me, "You better be responsible and wait to have kids. Don't be stupid and have them right away." Who are they to tell me what to do? Shouldn't it be FH and I who decide???

2. "How much is your budget?" - Again, people who are barely aquaintances.

3. "That's the biggest ring he could afford?" - Excuse me, but he designed it himself and it is a TCW of over 1 ct (.77 center) certified! And I LOVE it!!! 

4. Okay, and here's the kicker and the reason I started this thread: "So how much weight are you going to try to lose before the wedding?" Well, ma'am, I'm going to lose a good 175 lbs right now by dumping your sorry butt in the river!!!! 

Where do people get their nerve? I maybe young but at least I was raised right!!! 


Ashley and Paul - June 19, 2010

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mobride09 Posts : 521 Registered: 3/5/08
Re: People Say the Darndest Things!
Posted: May 12, 2008 4:40 AM Go to message in response to: nmtgirl

I know how you feel!  It seems like people store up all the rude things they want to say to you until you get engaged and then they come spilling out.  Here are a few of mine:

1.  Well, its about time!  You've been living in sin for a full year now!  (FH was looking for a job and wanted to wait until he found one.)

2.  Well, just make sure you don't wear a strapless dress because you don't want to look like a ho in church (I am rather large-chested and thank you, I AM wearing a strapless dress that I think makes me look quite un-hoish)

3.  Make sure you start working out now and you could lose at least 30 pounds before the wedding! (bite me)

Who are these people and what makes them think that weddings give them the right to say things like that?


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nmtgirl Posts : 142 Registered: 2/12/07
Re: People Say the Darndest Things!
Posted: May 12, 2008 4:51 AM Go to message in response to: mobride09

I'm sorry people say these things but I have to admit that I'm a little relieved to find out that it isn't just me! What nerve people have! If anything, I would think that this would be a time to be extra nice! I know that I have always been extra nice and considerate to my friends who are engaged because I know that they are stressed enough with other things going on! Same for my friends that are pregnant! I mean, it's a big life change - there's enough to be worried about without rude people throwing extra into the mix!

Ashley and Paul - June 19, 2010

www.mywedding.com/reidmontgomery



 

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mobride09 Posts : 521 Registered: 3/5/08
Re: People Say the Darndest Things!
Posted: May 12, 2008 6:44 AM Go to message in response to: nmtgirl

If anything, I would think that this would be a time to be extra nice! 

Well, you would think that these people would be able to figure that out.  But for some reason they don't seem to get it, which just gives us more gossip material for the boards!!!


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bridesrocks Posts : 478 Registered: 9/25/07
Re: People Say the Darndest Things!
Posted: May 12, 2008 8:55 AM Go to message in response to: mobride09

I have heard them all as well.... but the one I hate the most is when you meet people that are divorce and they find out you are getting married they say " I would never do that again I don't know why you're doing it" or "Why have a big wedding it's too much money"  but then again they had a huge wedding...

What makes it ok for them to have a big wedding but not for me??  those are the ones that bother me the most.


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Love2u Posts : 1,661 Registered: 10/24/07
Re: People Say the Darndest Things!
Posted: May 12, 2008 9:13 AM Go to message in response to: nmtgirl

My FH & I were shopping and ran into one of his HS friends.  In general conversation, Pat mentioned we were getting married and the guy stopped all conversation and said "I'll give you 100 reasons why you shouldn't get married." and then started rattling off all these horrible things.  Pat said "NAME, my FUTURE WIFE is standing right here.  I know your marriage didn't work out, but give me some credit for marrying the RIGHT woman."  Then the guy said, oh well, as long as she doesn't interfere with "our" Vegas bachelor party, I guess it's not that big of a deal. 

As we walked away, Pat said what an @ss.  Don't worry sweetie, there's no way he's getting invited to the wedding.


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NJ4Life Posts : 3,358 Registered: 8/10/07
Re: People Say the Darndest Things!
Posted: May 12, 2008 9:29 AM Go to message in response to: nmtgirl

Wel last year DH's whole group of friends all got married including us. So it turned out that there were 5 weddings all from the same group of us. And I would tell my old co-workers about all the weddings and the stress and everything else.

And this one girl actually said to me "well you're probably all gunna get divorced anyway". And I Was like excuse me?! And shes like "well you're ALL really young and rushing into it!" Meanwhile the shortest amount of time any of us were dating was 2.5 yrs AND the youngest (me) was 26!

I know it was b/c she was just jealous b/c she was dating her bf for 4 yrs, living together for 3, and he hadn't proposed, and spent all his money on Xbox games and PS3. But it was really uncalled for!!


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EveT2007 Posts : 1,947 Registered: 8/31/06
Re: People Say the Darndest Things!
Posted: May 12, 2008 9:58 AM Go to message in response to: NJ4Life

I'm still LOL at Ashley's comeback: "I'm going to lose a good 175 lbs right now by dumping your sorry butt in the river!!!!"     I'm sipping tea and it's coming out my nose.

"When Women Vote, We All Win!"

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butterflybride08 Posts : 70 Registered: 1/19/08
Re: People Say the Darndest Things!
Posted: May 12, 2008 10:12 AM Go to message in response to: EveT2007

Wow I'm glad its just not me, for a while I almost hated telling people I got engaged because inevitably, from relatives down to regular customers at the store I work in, to the lady at my apt leasing office, the response was...."How old are you? 21? dang, you are too young to be tying yourself down this way, but I guess I will wish you good luck that it will last." !!!!!! One guy went into a sermon on how his children aren't allowed to THINK of marriage until 32 because that when he got married and had "lived life to its fullest." I just hate how close minded people can be!
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Mushaboo Posts : 2,166 Registered: 3/22/08
Re: People Say the Darndest Things!
Posted: May 12, 2008 11:10 AM Go to message in response to: butterflybride08

I'm sorry you guys have had to go through it.  Honestly, it's just so annoying.  Here are some of my faves:

1. "OH, that's nice."  Swear to God, that was it.  This was from a person who was supposed to be a close friend of mine.

2. "Now don't get married and get fat."

3. "It's not like anything will change."  Really?  I thought I'd change how I file taxes, where I live, my last name, my credit score, the list goes on.....lol


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40somethingbride Posts : 240 Registered: 3/28/06
Re: People Say the Darndest Things!
Posted: May 12, 2008 11:17 AM Go to message in response to: nmtgirl

No one really said anything during the engagement BUT: a friend is having a wine/couples shower for us as we do not want to register and this is our second marriage. It is an elegant brunch, and the guests are helping stock our wine cellar.I did not want ANY type of shower but my friends insisted. My mother referred to this the other day as your "wino party". Geezzz great way to insult my friends. I told her to not say that in front of them and she sounded surpirsed that might be offensive. Um yes, someone throws an elegant brunch and you call it a "wino party"???
 

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auntofthebride Posts : 9,357 Registered: 4/2/06
Re: People Say the Darndest Things!
Posted: May 12, 2008 11:24 AM Go to message in response to: nmtgirl

Ladies,

This will not stop with your wedding. This will go on and on and on into the future.

When you have a baby:

"You're too young!"

"You're too old!"

"Twins? Oh my gosh, how will you deal with that?"

When you get a new job:

"Uncle Fred worked for that company and hated it."

"You don't really want to commute that far!"

When you buy a house:

"It's too much house."

"It's too small."

"You won't be able to make the payments."

When you take an airplane trip:

"Do you know how many planes crash?"

"You don't want to deal with the TSA Nazis."

Get used to it.

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Ashleyanne2010 Posts : 447 Registered: 5/3/08
Re: People Say the Darndest Things!
Posted: May 12, 2008 11:26 AM Go to message in response to: Mushaboo

I LOVE this thread... again, so glad I'm not the only one...

We've been engaged for about a week and I can already make a list.  Thank goodness our families have been really good with it and nothing inappropriate has come from them.  My favorite though is my ex-boyfriends mother calling and rattling of days when NOT to have my wedding because she doesn't want to miss it. I can't believe all the people that have invited themselves to my wedding that isn't even happening until 2010... oh! and the bridal shower and bachelorette- girls I haven't spoken to since middle school are inviting themselves to that stuff! I love how people come out of the woodwork for a party and free dinner at the wedding.

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BreAnn Posts : 600 Registered: 11/28/07
Re: People Say the Darndest Things!
Posted: May 12, 2008 11:48 AM Go to message in response to: Ashleyanne2010

The only thing said to me during the engagement was a guy I work with had just recently went through a bitter divorce. When they all found out I was getting married he told me to "set aside x amount of dollars." I asked why, and he said that is how much it costs around here to file for divorce.

Now that didn't bother me. What bothered me was what was said at the wedding!

My Mom's mother ( I do not consider her my grandmother) came up to me after the wedding and said "You are the prettiest bride I've seen since I got married." Later I found out she got ticked off at me because I didn't find that funny. Well excuse me, but who wants to be compared to a woman with two failed marriages (both were because she is CRAZY), two adult children through her first marriage who want nothing really to do with her, three grandchildren from that marriage who couldn't care less if they never saw her again, and a daughter from her second marriage who only puts up with her because she takes care of her kids. Yeah, I find it real funny to be compared to that!


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dewdropinn Posts : 156 Registered: 2/27/07
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Posted: May 12, 2008 11:56 AM Go to message in response to: BreAnn

Those of you who don't have kids yet, just wait.

I have gotten a lot of stupid remarks, but none of them compare to the things people do when you are pregnant. In addition to strange remarks, people keep grabbing your belly and rubbing at you. I was fairly young being pregnant at 21, so somebody actually stopped me in Babies 'r' us to ask me if I knew the father. WTF? 


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