THANSK M2810
He gave me every single password to everything as part of his way to show me he wants to earn my trust back, and he was doing all of this mostly through Facebook, and instant messenging. He has also said he'll change his phone number to prove to me he wants only me and that none of "that" mattered to him..it was something stupid he did. I also had his phone with me this weekened, and nothing came through - you see one or two of them were texting him as well.
He also sent messages last week to them, informing that he had to end everything and he was sorry for what he had did, but that I mean the world to him and he made some stupid choices and was ending it all with them because he loved me too much and did not want to lose me. Some sent back some hateful messages to him.
We are aware that this is probably going to cause some issues in our relationship..I wanted to point that out to him, that because of this sin he has allowed - there is a price to pay, and it may be me not trusting him so easily anymore, until I can truly see he has changed. He said he understands, and loves me so much that he promises nothing like this will ever happen again.
There's a part of us that has seemed to bond closer in a different way through this painful incident. Could also be that he has seen the pain he caused in me, and he has also seen even more now, how much I do love him, and he is so sorry for hurting me like he has.
There are steps to take to come to a recovery, steps for both of us........and, all I can say is that I love him so much, and before this every came about, I had no doubt of his love for me. He has always adored me. And even though at times it may be hard, when bad thoughts come into my head..I'm just going to pray for God to help me...to help us.
This is something that is become more and more common, so women beware and have a watchful eye. As we have been told, men view sex differently from women, we go in with our hearts, unlike men. So, be more watchful and do not be decieved, and do not get caught up in this yourselves. One of the women chatting is getting married in July! And the women I saw he was talking to are women that seemed normal everyday women, one was a school teacher. Its sickening, but there are lots of lonely people out there, women...that are willing to play this little fantasy game.
My co-worker checked her boyfriends site and saw a message he sent to a lady - and found he was texting another - supposedly she was having marriage problems and needed advice.
We all need boundaries, and seems there are lots of men & women out there that don't realize this importance.
Thanks ladies..for all your input...and whether you are for or against..I appreciate everyones input, and am going to continue to let you know the results of all this.
Like I said..we can all learn from mistakes, even others....so what I am experiencing right now, hopefully someone out there will learn something from it...I'm in the beginning process of all this, so this can stil turn anyway..but I will keep posting so we can all see the outcome and how it was handled so should anyone need this help they can see what worked or didnt' work.
I sent a message to a few of my church friends, informing them my fiance was going to re-dedicate his life on Sunday, and join the church..I wanted them to be aware of this because they know us, and I wanted them to pray for my finance's new walk, and to pray for us. BUT I DID NOT TELL THEM ANYTHING OF THE PHONE SEX/INTERNET CRAP.
Well, Look at one of their replies (and without knowing what has happened)...what a message!
Praise God! May the Lord's blessings be upon you two as you join together in marriage and may the Lord open doors no man can shut as the both of you walk with Him. The Lord is good and faithful to bring us back to walking in His grace. See, what the enemy intendted for evil God has turned for the good and the comfort and grace that you all have received will now be poured out into others as you misinter by the Holy Spriit. The Lord has a path for the two of you to walk together on. It wlll be exciting to see all the fruit the Lord is getting ready to do in you all lives. .
1 Cor 15:57-58
But thanks be to God, who gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ.
Therefore, my beloved brethren, be steadfast, immovable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, knowing that your labor is not in vain in the Lord.
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