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CaribbeanBride08 Posts : 1,474 Registered: 6/13/07
Re: scared bride 2 be
Posted: Apr 14, 2008 1:04 PM Go to message in response to: BoysMissLady

I couldn't agree more about getting tested.  Although that should be the case for EVERYONE who has unprotected sex; not just those who sleep with the same gender. 

And I'm sorry, but I don't believe in the "confused about your own sexuality" thing.  Why does love have to be gender-based?  Love is love, no matter who it is you're loving.  That doesn't have to mean that someone's confused.

And that's my two cents.


 

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YoungNInLove21 Posts : 85 Registered: 1/24/08
Re: scared bride 2 be
Posted: Apr 14, 2008 1:55 PM Go to message in response to: CaribbeanBride08

well there are women who have experimented with each other (not myself) and  were not necessarily gay, just curious. But I have never heard of a guy, just accidentily experimenting out of curiosity unless he really is gay, or at least Bi. Not trying to put your guy in box, but realistically speaking, most guys are just to homophobic for that. notice i said "most".

that being, please DO NOT marry him if u are not totally sure, u don't want to end up regretting this decision. i would also suggest u wait another yr or so, because u really don't know know somebody within 6 months. think really hard about this, and your children


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allbusiness Posts : 106 Registered: 7/17/07
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Posted: Apr 14, 2008 2:08 PM Go to message in response to: CaribbeanBride08

i think it's fine advice to tell her to let go of the gay thing, but for other reasons, i'm not so sure she should. 

Nor, women have very strong intuition.  i'm glad you're listening to it with regard to post-poning things, but you should also listen to your gut questioning his sexuality for no other reason than your own health.  statistically, (and i'm certainly not trying to come off as a gay basher--i'm the farthest thing from it) gay men have higher rates of STDs, including HIV.  if you're not currently, please start wearing a condom while you continue to sort things out. 

Best of luck!

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mandynos Posts : 36 Registered: 3/25/08
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Posted: Apr 14, 2008 2:31 PM Go to message in response to: YoungNInLove21

well there are women who have experimented with each other (not myself) and  were not necessarily gay, just curious. But I have never heard of a guy, just accidentily experimenting out of curiosity unless he really is gay, or at least Bi. Not trying to put your guy in box, but realistically speaking, most guys are just to homophobic for that. notice i said "most".

 

Just because you've never "heard" of it, doesn't mean it doesn't happen. Just because men come off of being Homophobic doesn't mean that they are any less curious than women are. How does anyone know what type of -front- other people put on so they don't look any less manly to their friends? Being gay isn't something that is widely accepted and if you are a man, and are curious, the reprocussions are far worse for them as it is for a women. Just reading some replys shows this.
I knew a guy who was extreamly "Masculine" get shit faced drunk, make out with another friend of mine who is gay...and be so ashamed of it that he never wanted to see any of the people who were there that night ever again.

 

 


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BoysMissLady Posts : 933 Registered: 1/18/07
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Posted: Apr 14, 2008 3:05 PM Go to message in response to: CaribbeanBride08

Caribbean, to each his/her own...however they love.  But she said he told her that he was questioning his sexuality.  And if...big IF...he is interested in having relationships with men, but wants to have a lady on the side, that is just plain dangerous.  At least he has let her know, but too many women have died b/c their DH's were confused, experimenting, whatever with their sexuality.
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YoungNInLove21 Posts : 85 Registered: 1/24/08
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Posted: Apr 15, 2008 10:51 AM Go to message in response to: mandynos

well that's my opinion

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