Sooo my FH and I have a son together. My father isnt in my life so I was thinking having my son walk me down the aisle. He will be close to 3 at that time. (obviously this would be scrapped if he throws a tantrum) Our colors will be black and silver, and I wanted to get him a tux that matched his daddy's. My FH is getting an all white tux and the GM will be wearing black tuxes with silver vests. Do I have our son wear a silver vest to match them, or do an all white like dad?
Also, do I have him stand by us, or by daddy during the actual wedding (again granted no tantrums) or sit off with his mom or my mom?
Now for the ring bearer there are 4 nephews to choose from. They can't all do it obviously. Do we pick a name out of a hat, or choose someone different all together? I dont really want my son to do it b/c I want him to walk down the aisle with me.
My bridesmaids dresses will be black possibly with a silver sash, but that's up for debate. Should the flower girl wear a black dress that matches? My dress will probably be a light gold or ivory. So if i put her in white she would be totally standing out. I dont want the wedding to look like a funeral but i want it to match.
Any advice would be greatly appreicated! (I know i asked about a zillion questions!)
I think that it's a great idea to have him walk you down the aisle, as long as he doesn't freak. :-) I would think whatever tux would be fine, but I love the idea of him being in the same tux as his Dad. He would probably be more comfortable sitting with one of the grandmoms during the ceremony. He'll probably get fidgety.
You could choose the RB by pulling out a name. I'm not sure. Maybe you could involve the other nephews in another way.
You could put the FG in a black dress with white sash - similar to the BMs but not all black.
I read something in RealSimple Weddings that s the suggested having some small toys, coloring books or something at the front seating area for the little ones just incase they get bored or out of hand standing up front.
I think it might be nice to have him do the white tux with a silver vest so that he stands out from everyone (the groomsmen are in black and silver right?)
I think def. not all black for the FG, but black with silver accents could be good. Or maybe you could have her in while with silver accents like your son.
An idea for the RB... say you have on nephew be the ring bearer, one escort the flower girl, and perhaps (depending on age) the other two could be "ushers assistants" and have them help the ushers seat people. I am sure they would feel important and it could be cute/fun for the guests. Maybe they could be in black and silver like the GM...
For more help to avoid temper tantrums... here's an exceprt from RealSimple Weddings:
If she's (could probably also work for RB/FG escort) on the younger side, around 3 yrs. old, have a friend greet her at the altar with a small gift, then wisk her back to her parents for the duration of the ceremony"
Hope this helps! Best of Luck making your decisions:)