I have a best friend who has been very jealous of me for absolutely no reason our entire friendship. In High School it was the track team..."your better than me, thats not fair, they give you all the good races" early 20s it was guys.."not fair why do you get all the good ones....and I only get the a-holes (because she didn't keep any of the good ones around) and now....
I have been with my FH 6 yrs, we have survived 1 major break-up, family drama and child birth. I was waiting for the day we got engaged for like EVER!!! She has been dating her guy 2 yrs, she is previously married and has a very on again off again relationship with him. It seemed that whenever a friend of ours would get engaged, she would sulk and cry and say its not fair. She wants to get married, why is everyone else getting engaged?
We got engaged July 29th 2007 and she was the first one I called. I ended up leaving her a message and she didn't call me back for 2 days! I even sent her a picture text of my hand with the engagement ring on it! And from the day I told her, she has not only been overly pressuring her BF to propose, she has been PHYSICALLY planning her own non existant wedding! I mean, going dress shopping, she is pulling out dresses she likes for herself for me to try on so she can see how it looks. And making it verbal too. My mother even had to say something to her "we are trying on dresses for her, one day you will have your turn but for now, please let her have her moment" Every time I book something and we talk about it, she starts talking about the theme of her wedding. Even right down to one of the venues I visited, she called there to see if they had her NON EXISTENT wedding date available in 2009.
She promised me that the day I got engaged she would not sulk like she does for everyone else, but I am pretty sure she lied about that. I am not one of those MY WEDDING MUST BE ON EVERYONE'S MIND 24-7 Brides, but DAMMIT when is enough enough? She does not seem happy for me at all, and my other BM's have noticed as well "I didn't know blah blah blah is engaged?" SHE'S NOT!!!!!
I am all for her getting married if that is what she wants, who I am I to say what's best for her, but how do I tell her she is insulting me and upsetting me? Not that I don't want her to have dreams, and one day when she is planning her wedding I will Jump right in and be super excited for her! I love her to death, but her antics are not annoying....they are down right UPSETTING. She is supposed to be my best friend. Am I overreacting?
