PICKING YOUR OWN ENGAGEMENT RING?

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WAITING4MRWRIGHT Posts : 3 Registered: 9/11/07
PICKING YOUR OWN ENGAGEMENT RING?
Posted: Feb 8, 2008 6:01 PM

HI, LADIES MY NAME IS KENYA AND THE LOVE OF LIFE ERIC WANTS A BIG RING I DON'T WANT A BIG RING I WANT TO PICK OUT MY RING, I KNOW ME AND I MAY CHANGE MY MIND BUT I DON'T KNOW TO TELL HIM IF HE PICKS ONE OUT AND I DON'T LIKE IT I DON'T WANT TO HURT HIS FEELINGS. SO HAVE ANYONE OF YOU PICKED YOUR OWN RING OR WISH YOU HAVE? PEACE, KENYASmile
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DocsGyrl402 Posts : 10 Registered: 2/2/08
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Posted: Feb 9, 2008 3:27 AM Go to message in response to: WAITING4MRWRIGHT

I am not engaged yet but it is coming( hopefully).My boyfriend knows that I have preferences so he had me pick out rings I like, I have like 5 or 6 I like so he has his picks. To some this may take the thrill out of everything, but in the end he still gets to make the final choice. But everyone has a preference and its nothing wrong with that. So I'd say just be honest with him. But whatever you do don't get too worked up over it because the most important thing is you and him.

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Posted: Feb 9, 2008 9:14 AM Go to message in response to: WAITING4MRWRIGHT

We went ring shopping & picked out a few different styles. It is very common for the salesperson to give your fiance the store business card with the style # of the ring you looked at written on the back. This is what we did & FH picked out my ring from the group we had originally looked at. It worked for us! It was still a surprise, but I got the guarantee of liking the ring he choose.

 ~ STEPHEN & MELISSA - DECEMBER 27, 2008 ~

 When is my wedding

 

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Kat78 Posts : 189 Registered: 2/9/08
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Posted: Feb 9, 2008 9:40 AM Go to message in response to: WAITING4MRWRIGHT

i was looking online one day and i saw this most beautiful ring i have ever seen in my life and i said to Jon my fiancé omg its this beautiful and he said yea its ok.. well 4 months later he asked me to marry with the ring i sa online... i almost died.. so i think i picked out my own ring

 When is my wedding

"say i love you today cuz tomorrow you may not have the chance"

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Posted: Feb 9, 2008 10:54 AM Go to message in response to: WAITING4MRWRIGHT

Hi Kenya, I'm a Virgo too!  I think women should pick out their own ring, afterall it's piece of jewelry you plan on having the rest of your life.  I didn't want a big diamond, so instead I picked out a princess cut amethyst on ice.com.  I love it!  I married now and only wear my wedding band, but my engagement ring is the prettiest piece of jewelry that I own.

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TattooedStarlit Posts : 202 Registered: 12/18/07
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Posted: Feb 10, 2008 5:55 AM Go to message in response to: WAITING4MRWRIGHT

My FH and I went to look at rings on my birthday (a couple of weeks ago). He was  completely clueless as to what to get me.  The first ring i tried on in the style I wanted was nice but it was bigger than I wanted.  I also tried on a diamond wedding band.  He was going to get this all for me but I told him I wanted something smaller and I didn't want the band.  The moral to my story is, I think it's always nicer going to pick out your own ring, then you know you're getting what YOU want because you're the one who has to wear it on your finger, not him. 

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ebrown1 Posts : 63 Registered: 4/4/07
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Posted: Feb 10, 2008 8:45 AM Go to message in response to: WAITING4MRWRIGHT

I don't know if you're close to his family, but if you are maybe you could slip his family some suggestions.  My FH's mom was super excited about the engagement and wanted to be involved in picking out the ring.  She took me to a store to look a few months before he actually bought and she wrote down all the style numbers that I liked so she could make suggestions and kind of guide if he seemed to be going off track :-)  It turns out he picked one on the list all on his own!

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KatharineC Posts : 940 Registered: 2/6/08
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Posted: Feb 12, 2008 1:48 AM Go to message in response to: ebrown1

I'm SO glad I picked out my own ring! I love it to bits, and honestly, FH wouldn't have had a clue where to start! I mean, I could have told him "white gold and tanzanite", but there are some pretty ugly rings out there that match that criteria! When we first started talking about maybe getting engaged some time, I immediately told him that I would want to choose my own. He asked if that wouldn't take the romance out of it, but I said getting asked to be his wife was plenty romantic, and besides, I'd have to see what the ring looked like on my hand, and also I have to think it's perfect because it's me that everyone's going to ooh and aah to and go "let me see the ring!" So we went two days after we got engaged (we would have gone that day if it wasn't Christmas!) and chose the perfect one.

 

On October 31st 2008 I marry my One True Love!

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ImmortalWaste Posts : 22 Registered: 10/31/07
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Posted: Feb 12, 2008 10:19 AM Go to message in response to: WAITING4MRWRIGHT

I am very glad that I picked my own ring. I had always wanted one of the three stone engagement rings, because they look so beautiful. But because I have very small hands and short fingers, the three stones overwhelmed my hand and it looked very silly. Also, I found the look of diamonds contrasted with my skin colour. So when I found a black diamond ring with white diamonds going down each side, I knew it was the ring for me. We bought it that day, and I got it a few weeks after that.

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kwcmom03 Posts : 13 Registered: 1/23/08
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Posted: Feb 12, 2008 7:23 PM Go to message in response to: ImmortalWaste

I picked out my own engagement ring, and I'm glad I did.  I knew I wanted and opal (my birthstone) and since all opals look different in subtle ways i was able to find one that suited me perfectly.  FH and I went shopping together and he put a deposit on it that day. It was still a surprise when I got it because he waited 4 months to do it. Oh and my FH is a Virgo too.

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silverspiralsara Posts : 2 Registered: 2/16/08
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Posted: Feb 16, 2008 8:26 PM Go to message in response to: WAITING4MRWRIGHT

I picked out mine...with his help. We made it a joint effort. I had been telling him that I wanted my ring to be a dimond with peridot accents because those are our birthstones. So, we went to the jeweler and picked it out together. I think it was a bonding experience. It was really nice to have both of our input. That way, we got what we both wanted.

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KirklandSmith Posts : 9 Registered: 11/21/07
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Posted: Feb 18, 2008 12:11 AM Go to message in response to: silverspiralsara

i have picked both of my engagment rings.. the 1st one.. broke... now i got another i juss got friday :-) its gorgouse<a href="http://s247.photobucket.com/albums/gg156/1986maro/?action=view&current=newengagementring001.jpg" target="_blank"><img src="http://i247.photobucket.com/albums/gg156/1986maro/newengagementring001.jpg" border="0" alt="Photobucket"></a>
`*To be Mrs. Smith*`


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farre11kat Posts : 5 Registered: 2/12/08
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Posted: Feb 18, 2008 5:51 PM Go to message in response to: KirklandSmith

I orchastrated the entire purchase of my engagement ring. I called my aunt and told her I needed a diamond (she's the jeweler in the family) and she said she had a 1.08 karat that she'd sell us for less than wholesale. When she told me how much I almost fell over (I guess I didn't realize what diamonds actually cost.) But after some thought I had a girly moment and told her we'd take it. Out of guilt, I actually paid for half the rock - I knew he wouldn't understand, and I also knew he couldn't afford it. She gave me a full baguette band as a gift (nice gift, huh?) and we ended up with an engagement ring worth more than twice what we had paid. (he still thinks it's ridiculous.)

 So my point being, to hell with tradition. Get involved. Go shopping without him, and decide what cut you want, silver or gold, and give him a size limit. That way he can still feel like he picked it out, you can still be surprised, and chances are you'll love it.

good luck!  

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Belle1154 Posts : 235 Registered: 11/2/06
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Posted: Feb 18, 2008 6:00 PM Go to message in response to: farre11kat

I definitely wanted my FH to feel like he picked out the ring but he wanted my input...so we went ring shopping just once and I tried on ones I liked, and then he enlisted a mutual friend to get ideas from me and help him with his decision if he wanted it.  I like princess cut, white gold and something simple (like a solitaire.)  He found a unique store, picked out the setting, the exact diamond he wanted and engraved it.  So even though I had a say in it, I still feel like it was entirely from  him.

We picked out wedding bands together.  However, we each went with the band that the other liked the most.  Like if I was choosing between three bands, he picked out his favorite to give to me.  We both selected something together to have engraved on the inside.

Hope this helps!! Just be honest with him, but give him some say. 
 


"I am my beloved's and my beloved is mine..."

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Camrynsmom Posts : 158 Registered: 2/26/08
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Posted: Feb 27, 2008 11:20 PM Go to message in response to: WAITING4MRWRIGHT

This is a tough one, and I certainly understand where you are coming from.  If we are the ones to wear it, it should be something we at least think is nice right? 

Some guys get insulted about that, and if he is one of them, you really need to respect his wishes since essentially, it is a gift and you don't want to look a gift horse in the mouth.  I don't think there is an issue with dropping into the jewlery store while you are walking around the mall and saying "WOW this ring is gorgeous!" or "Something like this would be nice, but not so big"  Honestly, if he cares about you, he will take your suggestions seriously and get something close to what you like, with his own added flair.  While hand picking a ring  may be fun, getting it unexpectedly is fun too.

My FH took me to the jewlery store to look at settings and I gave him some suggestions.  We weren't exactly seeing eye to eye that day either. When he proposed, I thought the ring was NOTHING like I expected and EVERYTHING that I loved about him......IT WAS PERFECT and the proposal was what really mattered anyway.  I didn't even look at the ring until at least 10 minutes later when he asked "did you even look at the ring!?"

So I say, if you lead the horse to water (or your fiancee to the jewler), hopefully he will drink (preferably a smaller ammount of water than he wants to).  If not, there are always anniversary bands (snicker......just kidding)

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