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jameza40 Posts : 29 Registered: 7/16/07
mom AND dad walk down aisle? what about unity candle???
Posted: Nov 26, 2007 9:01 PM

Quick question:

Originally, I wanted both my mom and dad to walk me down the aisle. I am close to both of my parents and thought it would be a nice way to honor both of them. Theeeeeeeeeeeeen, this past weekend when I bought my wedding dress (YEH!) the consultant made a good point, she said - if you're doing the unity candle... that's mom's job before the bridal party walks down the aisle.... She asked "are you going to have her walk up, do the candle, then walk back to walk you down again?"

Any suggestions? Or should I just go back to the traditional dad and daughter walking down the aisle?

Thanks,
Jess

www.jessandvinny888.ourweddingday.com

northeast_pennsylvania , august_2008
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Re: mom AND dad walk down aisle? what about unity candle???
Posted: Nov 27, 2007 11:57 AM Go to message in response to: jameza40

rather than light the individual mother candles before the ceremony - your moms (or have both sets of parents - that's what we did) can be invited up at the beginning of the unity candle ceremony and then you and FH take the candles they just lit and combine them in the unity candle.

 

After my husband and I lit the candles, we got to hug our parents who stayed up by the altar with us while we lit our candle.

Ask your priest - I bet he can suggest the best way for you.


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Posted: Nov 27, 2007 12:36 PM Go to message in response to: jameza40

My dad is not in the picture, so at my sisters wedding this past August and at my wedding in March, my mom went up to light the unity candle escorted be her brother and then she came back up the aisle to escort my sister down.  The unity candle was one of the first things done, so it wasn't like she walked down, up, and then down again right away.  Anyway you do it, will be fine.  If you really want both of your parents to walk you down the aisle, you should!  Not everyone is that lucky!  Best Wishes!

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DoubleGreen Posts : 285 Registered: 8/12/07
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Posted: Nov 30, 2007 8:14 PM Go to message in response to: Guest

I'm skipping the unity candle, but it's nice to see someone else who would like to walk down the aisle with both of their parents.

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ArtBride Posts : 4,841 Registered: 5/9/07
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Posted: Nov 30, 2007 11:39 PM Go to message in response to: jameza40

Seriously...who CARES when the unity candle is technically SUPPOSED to be lit? I think it's a lovely idea to walk with both your parents...and I also think it's a lovely idea to have BOTH your parents light the unity candle, if you choose to have one. Why not just incorporate it into the ceremony, instead of doing it the way your coordinator thinks it is 'supposed' to be done? 


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Retired Posts : 808 Registered: 4/17/06
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Posted: Dec 1, 2007 7:58 AM Go to message in response to: jameza40

We're not doing a unity candle ceremony. I'm having both parents walk me down.

I say do what another poster suggested - ask your officiant. They can work around anything. I mean, tell me this - which is more important, your mother walking you down the aisle, or the unity candle being lit the traditional way? Sounds a little silly put side-by-side to me.

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jameza40 Posts : 29 Registered: 7/16/07
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Posted: Dec 1, 2007 9:05 AM Go to message in response to: Retired

thanks for everyone's suggestions thus far.

although i agree that it might sound silly to be concerned with such a small part of the ceremony, i like the way it is usually done. so not necessarily for "tradition" sake - but when else would it really fit?

i will continue to brainstorm ideas! thanks for your imput!! :)


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thebigcheese Posts : 155 Registered: 4/2/07
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Posted: Dec 1, 2007 10:59 PM Go to message in response to: jameza40

My friends did it sort of the way you suggested- both of their moms walked up to the front together to light the unity candle, before the official processions started.  Then they walked to the back again, and the bride's mother was escorted to her seat in the traditional matter.  The groom walked down the aisle with both of his parents, and then the bride's father walked her down the aisle.

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66nova Posts : 346 Registered: 3/28/06
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Posted: Dec 4, 2007 11:20 PM Go to message in response to: thebigcheese

Both my husband and I had both of our parents walk down the aisle with us.  When the unity candle thing was going to start, the moms were invited to the altar and then lit the candles.  It worked out fine.

At another wedding that I've been to, the best man escorted both moms down the aisle first to light the candles, and then escorted them back.  Then the rest of the procession went as usual.  That was nice as well.


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