Its been a long time since I've posted online but I really dont know where else to turn right now. You ladies have always been very supportive & honest with the members here & I am hoping you can shed some light for me.
My husband and I have been married since May. Roughly 2 months ago he had some medical problems which caused him to miss work and ultimately our very expense rental home as well. We are currently trying to save money therefore 3 weeks ago, we moved in with my in-laws. Well, I know that he has been on the internet quite a bit the last week and a half...supposedly just surfing and playing games...No biggie there. Well, his younger brother gets on this site called "My Space" alot & the other night (Thurs.) I was getting ready for bed & my hubby said he was going to play games online. I just happened to mention "My Space". It started out just kidding around by making a comment "I hope you arent on My Space talking to girls or anything". He laughed it off & told me that M.S. was for kids/teens and that he wasnt on there. Then he asked me what the big deal about talking to girls online was...I told him that because he is married, it was not necessary. To me, its just as bad as talking to women on the phone...if your married, you have no business talking to women (flirting) online. Well he promised me that he wasnt...I went to bed.
Well Friday night, he was shopping with his mom & I was at the house cleaning. I found a piece of paper with a M.S. screen name & password. Naturally, I got online & checked it out. His brother told me that he created the user name last (Tues. night) for him. When I looked at his profile he had "Single...looking for serious relationships, dating or friends" along with a picture of himself. His contacts were 3 REALLY pretty girls!! I checked all of his messages that he had sent & one was telling the person his name. & the others were between him & a girl that lives in TX (Small world b/c we knew her as kids and she is a lesbian..no biggie there). But what bothers me is that his brother said he put down that he was married in his profile originally & that my hubby mustve changed it. It also upsets me that he lied to my face about being on there!!!
I called him home & told him how it made me feel & of course he deleted his M.S. & when I asked him why he lied about it, he said it was because he knew I would get mad and freak out. That he doesnt understand what the big deal about "chatting" is. He said its not cheating or trying to cheat.
I dont talk to men online so why did he need to talk to women. Am I taking this too far? I dropped it & made him promise not to do it again...he said he was sorry & really didnt mean to upset me. I am extremely offended. Should I be? Should I be wanting to leave my husband? I wouldnt even have sex last night because it made me nautious just thinking about his talking to females while I am asleep at nite!! What should I do??
