NWR: Help... cousin needs advice.

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tweatie2 Posts : 286 Registered: 10/25/07
Re: NWR: Help... cousin needs advice.
Posted: Nov 15, 2007 1:11 PM Go to message in response to: 66nova

I don't think he should tell.  It doesn't directly affect him or his job so he should just stay out of it.  I would give the Bluetooth back though.  He doesn't want to be put in the mess later on if they get caught again.


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newsjunkie Posts : 3,417 Registered: 3/30/06
Re: NWR: Help... cousin needs advice.
Posted: Nov 15, 2007 3:55 PM Go to message in response to: 66nova

Are you kidding???  I would TOTALLY keep the bluetooth and shut up!  So he walked into something awkward, I just don't see it as a big deal, it's more funny than anything and one of the best "first day on the job" stories ever.  I'm sure there are all sorts of HR/company rules they are breaking along with possible marriage vows but, really, that is none of his concern.  The two getting it on sound like idiots for doing it in a place where they could so easily be discovered and, frankly, they were lucky to have been discovered by someone new and able to be bought off by a shut up gift.  However, while they may be idiots in their personal life, as long as they are OK professionally he has no reason to leave his job unless it has made him feel so uncomfortable he can't work there.  Since it doesn't sound like the case I would tell him to have fun with his new job and his new bluetooth.

Re: NWR: Help... cousin needs advice.
Posted: Nov 15, 2007 5:37 PM Go to message in response to: 66nova

Ok. Advise him to return the gift and ignore the sex. It shoudnt stop him from working there if he likes the job.Wow, bet he didnt expect that first thing in the morning!


bostonterrierbr... Posts : 129 Registered: 11/8/06
Re: NWR: Help... cousin needs advice.
Posted: Nov 15, 2007 8:28 PM Go to message in response to: auntofthebride

I just wanted to throw in to the people who said that this is not a case of sexual harassment, this absolutely IS. As a woman in a professional setting of mostly men, I can tell you my office does a lot to clarify what is/isn't sexual harassment, we JUST had a meeting on it last week.

These people were in the workplace and were caught having sex by another employee. This is sexual harassment of the person who caught them, in this case the OPs cousin. Anything, absolutely anything, of that nature is sexual harassment from a legal standpoint. Two employees slapping each other, touching, or making sexual comments to each other within reasonable vicinity of others is sexually harassing anyone who can hear them. Having sex in your office, whether the door is locked or closed, whether they are consenting adults, is absolutely sexual harassment of the person who walks in. It can make him or her very uncomfortable, upset, offended, angry, and most importantly it can compromise that person's work environment and his or her ability to do a good job. In the literature from my company's lawfirm this type of incident is classified as 'one time qualifying' meaning an employee only has to experience this happening ONCE to be credible to a lawfirm and sue. This also means my company would very likely fire anyone who engaged in this type of behavior immediately because they would be a huge legal liability, and frankly not the type of person they would want in a position of authority or representing our products.

No wonder this couple is afraid of the cousin snitching, they would be in HUGE trouble whether or not the company has a policy for employee dating. I'm not saying he should tell on them, but I just wanted to give you some solid facts that my company uses to evaluate situations like this one. It's really unfortunate this happened to your cousin because now he either has to ruin two other peoples jobs, reputations, and possible relationships, wait and hope that they don't can him, or get himself the hell out of there and leave his job. But the fact is his supervisors should have thought of that before they did what they did and put him in this terrible position. Anyway, I'm not saying he should tell or not, I just wanted to say, as someone in the corporate world, that this is something your cousin can control if he's fearing the loss of his job because he caught them. If not, it's probably ok to let it go.


66nova Posts : 346 Registered: 3/28/06
Re: NWR: Help... cousin needs advice.
Posted: Nov 17, 2007 5:54 PM Go to message in response to: bostonterrierbr...

Sorry it took a while for me to come back.  He's decided that he's not going to say anything, but he's still unsure about the Bluetooth... although he's leaning towards giving it back.  To answer a PP, no, he did NOT go sneaking around the office or anything.  The way it's set up is there's a waiting room, and through the door is another lobby-type area with the office doors around that room.  He came in only about 20 minutes early, and when he walked into the lobby-room, the boss' door was wide open, and there they were.  According to my cousin, it was as if they weren't even TRYING to hide it.  Anyway, he feels better now, and that initial shock has gone away.  Thank you so much for all of your input.

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