Jul 25, 2007 7:32 PM in response to: BirdLover

 My sex drive has slowed down too since we've been together. My FH is the longest constant relationship, I've ever been in (3 years). With school, cooking, maintaining our home , hanging out w/ friends, & planning a wedding. Come night time I'm just too tired. 

What we've done now is have date night. One night out of the week we set a night just to ourselves. Either a Friday or Saturday. We do whatever we want. With our sex though, we started having it in different places. Like one night we waited until it was really late & we went out to our SUV and made love in the back seat. I had so much fun! Just the idea of being caught by our neighbors made it exciting!

Funniest Sex Moment- The first time my FH & I had sex. He ended up farting after we were done. I thought he had burped, so I asked if he burped. He said No that he had farted & he was trying to hold it but couldn't anymore.

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Jul 26, 2007 11:44 AM in response to: kelleyiskelley

Kelley,   Nope, I'm here and we had some amazing sex last night!  I guess it is very much appreciated by hubby when I initiate...so I'm gonna work on that!  Anyway, it was awesome!!!  Today is a good day also, I'm only at work until 2, then late afternoon we head to Todd's parents.  This weekend is a race, Fri and Sat nights, and I LOVE watching him...I know it'll be hot, dry, dusty there...like always in SW Kansas, but I always have a great time when we go back.  I've not been to Scott Cty Fair since high school days!  It is ALWAYS fun to people watch at those, and I'm sure this will be no exception.  But mainly, I love watching hubby race, as long as he stays safe, so I"m definitely looking forward to it.  It's also always fun hanging out with his parents.  I don't like racing other than watching him, but there's just something about watching him that is a HUGE turn on and great fun for me.

And, it will be just us on the drive there, so that'll be fun as well.  We've never made the drive yet alone.  Planning what I can do to keep things interesting, it's about a 5 hour trip.   

We will bring E back home with us on Sunday, then school starts in 2 weeks...so back to real life for us. 

anyway, hope everyone has a great week end!! 

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Jul 26, 2007 1:28 PM in response to: sstamper

Well, Moday was crap - and at the end of it al, I dented FH's truck with my butt - trying to bump the door closed. Whoops! It is an 84 and does not have the fiberglass pop-out body. - evidently it does, cause FH said he slammed the door in the morning and it popped out.

But boy was he mad - mostly cause the day had been so bad.

Tuesday was nice, my cousin came over - but while we were waiting on her I looked over at FHa d he looked so handsome lying htere - I jumped his bones - he was a happy man, fell asleep peacefully while I went and had a blast with Marie when she finally got there.

The goat got out - I told her 'go get your goat' - lol!  She is always late anyway - goat or no goat.

so, good sex tuesday night - last night was good - went to visit my dad - he had found some of my books from home so long ago (yeesh!) and I was happy to see my old friends - I love my books, really, I do. I love the characters and the plots, I love to revisit them. One of them was the secong in a series I have been trying to aquire again after loaning them out. I had the third and just bought the fourth at the foea market last week - then I brought home the second yesterday, in hardback, no less.

Tuesday, I had no internet access at work - our servers were down.

Birdie - perhaps one day whe he is no longer a stupid ass - perhaps then I will allow for some type of relationship - however, I am hightly doubtful of that ever happening, but I am not totally against it if he finds his way to being .... well, something much further evolved than what he is.

Cyndi - thanks you so much for your kind words - they help me to not feel so much like a big fat failure - this whole thing has been so disheartening. One of my main reasons for not having children is that I am afraid I would not be a good mom. this entire situation did nothing but set that thought deep into the concrete of my mind and now I am certain I don't want to be anyone's mother.

On the upside of all this - in exactly one week from right now - I will be standing on the deck of a huge cruise liner headed toward a blissful vacation - one I have been dreaming of for YEARS!

Kel - I hope your appt. goes off without a hitch ( nothin' worse than a hitch in your getalong) and your bride is happy with your vendor  :o)

Going to go get my Birth Certificate today - fuunnn - at least it won't cost freakin 50 bucks to get here like FH's did - dang it man -where DOESthe money go - nowthat I have a bank acct - I SEE exactly where it goes and I know I can do some adjusting to get the wedding savings going - we can't be having any hitches there either! I am not rescheduling AGAIN!

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Jul 26, 2007 2:48 PM in response to: LochNessie

Ok i'm not even sure if I'm doing this right but I need some opinions and have decided to turn to you girls. I've been a member of brides.com for a while now but haven't really posted much of anything although I do enjoy this thread immensely!! Gin and Lily make me laugh!

We were engaged in January of this year and haven't set a date because of all the major changes, no more college, moving in together, etc I didn't really see a need to rush into stuff since we were finally where we wanted to be and knew the other wasn't going anywhere so why put ourselves in a financial hole? We've been together for over 5 years but have never actually lived together because I was in school.

Now that I've moved in I've been noticing things. Our sex life hasn't really picked up it's actually went down to once or twice a week(!!!) which is Killing me since I'm a Scorpio and pretty much think with my genitals :) I know some of this has to do with the adjustments and stress But he can go a week without me and not more than a day or so without some form of porn. He loves porn and all that goes with it, which I can relate to because it's nice to spice things up with your lover or by yourself but there are some things that I'm uncomfortable with that I need some light shed on since I don't want to tell my girlfriends, might even be TMI for you guys....I'm usually the wild one and don't want to seem like a prude.

Anyway FH has an obsession with porn. He has multiple toys (to be fair I do too but they are for me and we use them together) and tons of DVDs and subscribes to many forums online, sometimes spending $40 a month on them (the online subscriptions) I've recently found that he saves them all to his computer but still wants more(seems like something a single guy would do not someone who can get it on the regular). His new thing is using his camera phone at work to capture co-worker's bottoms as they're turned around...a lot. I don't know much about voyeurs but do know that's a form of it. I don't know what to do, I've kind of offended because these are people that are Real, not people he doesn't know in a movie, there's a personality to go along with that badonkadonk so there's the what-if factor there but again paranoia should be my middle name 

I feel bad for finding the stuff and I know it's not right to snoop but now it's a compulsion of Mine to find out what he's doing and it's driving me crazy...but I did innocently stumble onto them(the 1st time), then I deleted the pics off the phone and now he just emails them to himself every morning before coming home from work (online cell phone bill account shows this) so it looks like he's not doing it anymore(he works 3rd shift in a warehouse) it's very frustrating.

It's a very sensitive topic to discuss with him since he's embarrassed about it and really I don't feel good about myself for snooping but I wonder if this has something to do with the drop of drive he's been having toward actual sex,he is head over heels in love with me and loves to cuddle but i wanna get naked! I deleted over 20 pictures from his phone and all he did was send me texts that night saying he loved me and I was his world, but didn't mention at all what I discovered. Now I kind of resent him and think he's doing messed up things behind my back, paranoid much....

What would you girls do in this situation, I'm at a loss. I want to just forget it and move on but now whenever he goes to the store or to work I wonder who he's taking pics of women without them knowing...it's kinda peeping tomish. Am I making a mountain out of a molehill? HELP!

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Jul 26, 2007 6:20 PM in response to: MrsShea

Thank you FMShea for your response, anything helps I just need different ideas on how to wrap my head around the idea. I can live with once or twice a week if I have to for a while, I mean I'm young (22) but I've gone through periods of high stress where I just wanted to be close but no sex so I understand that there's a lot going on with him and all. We're on different sleep schedules throughout the week also (he works swing shift as well as 3rd) so that isn't really helping either. I don't think that he'd rather watch porn than be with me but he definitely needs his weekly does of skin and I have a different idea in my head when I think of a weekly dose of skin :) We have talked about the porn, not so much the pictures yet but that's still a sensitive subject for me to bring up, I know I can get nasty so sometimes I wait until I roll an idea around in my head so I can talk about it without emotions getting in the way of progress. I'm just not sure if it's something that I should be worried about, I've searched it online and it seems to be a semi-popular thing but I just don't know how to shake the "he's a creep" feeling, I feel terrible thinking that about him. I don't know if I should accept it and get over it, hope he'll soon stop, or what because sometimes if you tell someone flat out they're not supposed to do something they want it even more. Maybe it's an ignorance is bliss situation? I don't work well with not knowing though 
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Jul 27, 2007 7:19 AM in response to: kelleyiskelley

see, kelley lynn, your advice was 10 times better than mine!!  maybe it's just my inability to write something like that.  anyway, you were saying the same things that I thought but forgot to put down :).

good morning!!!  well, no sex for me.  got some wednesday and was way too tired yesterday.  as you can see, i'm awake early and have lots of school work to do so I can play my computer games :).  I hope everybody has a great day and great weekend!!!

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Jul 27, 2007 8:44 AM in response to: 49ersfanatic

Happy Friday everyone!!!! I LOVE fridays, no more sitting at a desk for 8 hours!!!! Sort of resolved my car drama. It's not my tranny which is good, it's my speed sensor. At most 200.00 to fix and not 1200.00 -1500.00!!! And FH can fix the speed sensor. Hopefully this weekend. I have his car today since he's off work and doesn't have to drive much. And if he needs to go anywhere he can drive the Grand National today. (His baby!!!! Love that car!!! POWER, POWER, AND MORE POWER! lol) We had his little cousin over to play with X and the boys had tons of fun! Got to go swimming all day yesterday and play with the dog. Then made them dinner and took them to a local ice cream place. First time we tried it and it's great! After that we took them back to the house and let them have a small bonfire(supervised of course). Then put them to bed. Had sex TWICE last night! Guess not getting any for a week is ok when I get it twice in a night! Had a quickie while the boys were watching a movie downstairs. Thank god for surround sound! Locked the door to the guest bedroom and go it on. Only bad part is the rug burn and the fact that both my hip bones hurt. Not enough padding and they kept digging into the carpet. But oh well! Then once more before bed. So I'm on a WONDERFUL Mood today! Get to work at the bar all weekend, but really don't care. LOVE being there. If it paid enough I wouldn't do anything else at all. Tommorow night after I'm done we're going with FMIL and her boyfriend to a carnival. They said it's their treat, won't argue. X is excited to go, he loves that stuff! Anyways, sorry to ramble on, trying to get myself motivated for work today. Have a GREAT FRIDAY!!!!

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