Hey.

I thought everyone who is already married could post things that went wrong at their wedding, and how they handled them.  That was, the ladies on here whose weddings are coming up can see how to fix problems that arise, and also see that not everything will go perfect, but that weddings can be fabulous anyway.

I'll start:
I got laryngitis and couldn't talk.  I was really worried about everyone thinking I was an idiot for not speaking up during our vows, so I had the minister make an announcement about it.  He joked around, saying " Don't worry Brenna, whispers are still legal".  And that way,  people know why I couldn't really talk to them at the reception.

Also, it rained a bit during our photos.  I suggest buying a big black umbrella is your picture location is outside, because those big umbrellas can look neat in pictures.

Oh, also...ha ha ha...I was really hot at my house, so my sister was holding a small fan against my face...but then she stopped paying attention, and got the blades caught in my wedding hair.  So...don't do that :P

Anyone else?

I love this thread!  I just spent several days being bummed out because of things that went wrong at my wedding and it was the ladies on this site who made me feel all better by telling their own stories!  So this thread is awesome because it will only help everyone who reads it!!!

So on my day...

1) I had custom made jewely done by Everything Angelic ($200) and I lost it.  I had it for the portraits, but by the day before the wedding it had diappeared.  I ended up buying a $4 necklace at a cheap jewelry store to replace it.  It looked cute but it wasn't what I wanted!

2) I did all my flowers myself.  They turnned out beautifully if I do say so!  Unfortunately I left ALL of the refrigerated personal flowers at home.  Every boutonniere and corsage...still in my fridge today!  I discovered this 45 min before the ceremony and was too far from home to get them.  Had to get grocery store flowers and remake them.  Thank god for helpful family!

3) Minister forgot our names, despite the fact that I sent him a pronounciation key a month, and then again a week before the wedding!

4) As the minister pronounced us husband and wife, I cried, we kissed, it was beautiful.  Then my MOH whispers loudly..."what about the rings?"  He had to go back and do the ring ceremony then pronounce us husband and wife...for the 2nd time.

5) Videographer was late and missed the processional.  He did however, capture the embarrasing #6...

6) My new hubby and I are announced for the first time in public as Mr. and Mrs.  Unfortunately as I make my grand entrance down the splendid antique staircase, my  heel caught the carpet and I slipped down 2 stairs.

7) My cake was the wrong color. I ordered champagne buttercream with ivory decoration...and it showed up in brown, decorated with darker brown (i.e. poo).  It would have been ok for a fall wedding, but for a light, airy summer wedding with ivory and tiffany blue color scheme it looked ugly.

As the girls in my "bummed out" thread said, "the worse the wedding the better the marriage".  I REALLY HOPE THAT'S TRUE!!!

Here are mine wedding oops...The short version of all of course

1) My MOH had to find a seamstress the morming of the wedding as her gown was not properly altered.

(2) I locked myself out of the house as I was getting ready to go to my parents (I had my hair & make up done...MOH was there w/me & she had the key to my house

 (3) I left the marriage certificate @ home, had to have my sister go to my parents house to find it for me, as it had to be signed that day because the BM was leaving the next day to go home out of state.

(4) The BM 10 minute toast that everyone was getting annoyed at.

(5) I fell on the dance floor!  My shoe slipped on the netting of my gown.

(6) Forgot to talk to my family all night!  I was so busy talking to everyone else. 

I'm so glad that I can laugh now!

Good luck, happy planning & happy wedding day

Let's see if this works...fan caught in the hair:

1)  The place where we rented the chocolate fountain from couldn't find the cord to it.  My mom was freaking out and the lady out the counter was in tears!  Luckily, my mothers friend had one we could use.

2)  The flower shop forgot the grooms flowers and the petals for the flower girls to throw.

3)  I forgot to put on my garter.

4)  I forgot to spit out my gum before walking down the aisle. (the more nervous I got the harder I chewed!! lol)

5)  The officiant did the exact opposite of what we asked for.

All in all it was a beautiful day!

We had a DW and got into town a couple of days before the wedding.  Thank goodness I went to the florist the day before because it was COMPLETELY wrong.  Even better, my parents were in town the day before we were and they went to the florist, too, so I wasn't completely caught off guard.  I had sent her pictures of EXACTLY what I wanted which were some dark pink roses and some light pink roses.  For some reason she ordered light pink roses with dark edges (not at all what I wanted) and the all over light pink ones looked more peach.  Ugh.  My dad suggested painting them as it was too late to order new ones and, incredibly, they came out really good, it was great.  To this day I do not know what happened- did she decide that this would look better?  Did the place she ordered them from screw up?  It was too hectic at the time to find out why and it doesn't matter anymore but I still wonder...

The DJ.  Oh my.  Worst DJ EVER.  My mom insists that I was the only one who thought he was SO bad because I used to be a DJ so I was paying closer attention but I'm not convinced.  This man loved the sound of his voice and ground the party to a halt many, many times, to the point that there wasn't that much dancing and we ended things an hour earlier than we had planned (though it was a 4 hour reception as it was, we just thought it would be 5).  He came recommended from our venue and I wrote him and them a letter afterwards telling them how disappointed I was.  I never heard from him but the venue apologized very nicely and said they would no longer recommend him.  Watching our wedding video makes me cringe a bit, though, as it brings the awkwardness back- standing in front of everyone and waiting for him to shut and play the music for our first dance, again for the father/daughter dance, and again for the mother/son dance.  I could go on but I won't. 

The food was really good but the presentation of one thing was so bad I almost asked them to remove it.  We decided to do stations of things- a premium pasta station, chef attended prime rib and Maine lobster tails (we kept our guest list small so we could splurge on food), premium mashed potato bar (served in martini glasses, a big hit!).  For the vegetables we ordered what they called a "Tuscan display" of marinated veggies, cold pasta salad, and Italian meats and cheeses.  Well, it was basically a plate of deli meats.  I have nothing against deli meats but it looked horrible sitting next to the lobster tails and mashed potatoes in martini glasses, so out of place!

Overall, though, it was wonderful.  My favorite part of the weekend was actually the night before.  We organized a pub crawl for after the RD and it was so much fun.  The first time that my whole family- parents, aunts, uncles, cousins- and close family friends went out drinking together and it was a BLAST.  I had more fun there than at the actual wedding because it was much less stressful, so glad we did it!  :)

With all the things that went wrong for me during planning, I knew that things were going to go wrong for the wedding.  Here is my list of events.

1.) The lady that did my makeup made me look like a cheap hooker..  It took 3 babywipes to get it all off my face.

2.) My florist didn't have any of our flowers ready..  NONE....  As a result the wedding ended up being over an hour late because my mil was waiting for our flowers without her cell phone, so we couldn't get ahold of her to tell her just to forget it.   All our bouts were wrong, they didn't make the corsages we had ordered for mothers, grandmothers, and readers.  My bouquet pretty much consisted of brown flowers... Yep they were pretty much all dying or dead.  I was suppose to have stems and didn't, the flowers were completely wrong.   My Jr BM bouquets were wrong to. 

3.)  The florist showed up late to my reception hall (was supose to be there for 9 am, and didn't show up till 12pm)  12 pm was the start of my reception, and I was told after by a few guests that they were asked to wait outside while the florist finished setting up....  Which apparently didn't take long, but still pissed me off...  Luckily our flowers were right for the reception.

4.) My dress wasn't hemmed enough apparently because when I went to walk, I tripped..... So when I walked down the aisle I had to drag my feet so I didn't fall on my face. 

5.)  The sole fell off my youngest nephews shoe(RB).

6.) My oldest nephew got car sick on the way to the church because the guys didn't give him his motion sickness meds enough in advance.

7.)  Someone let our dog out, and all the groomsmen were chasing her around the neighborhood in their tuxes, thinking that they were gonna have to tell me that my dog got killed.

8.)  My cake was wrong on the outside.. The inside was right.  But it was suppose to be White, with red ribbon, red rose petals, and red roses on top.   It was a mocha color, so the red ribbon we had sent looked almost brown.  So the red roses on top looked grosse in contrast, and they didn't put the rose petals on the cake.

9.)  Due to the florist causing our wedding to be so delayed, we missed out on ALOT of pictures we wanted to have done with the photographer that we paid $4000 for.  We also had to pay more for our party bus.   We didn't get any of the hors d'oerves that we had paid for, for the cocktail hour.  Because we were late we had to be introduced right away.

10.)  When they were doing the intro's they sent my parents in before the DJ had actually announced them.. So by the time they were announced they were already seated..

HOWEVER   I wouldn't change a single thing about any of it.. To be completely honest the flower thing didn't piss me off until afterward when I saw the pictures and saw how ugly my bouquet was, and how wrong everything else was.  Other than that I'm completely satisfied with my reception facility they did the most amazing job... The ceremony was amazing.... Infact we were just told that our reception hall has used our wedding pictures in their wedding brochure. 

I wouldn't change a damn thing about my wedding...   If everything had gone wrong, I'd still be happy because the most important thing is that I married the man I adore. 

Thank you Jedigurl.. The reality of it is that yes it does suck.. We all spend months, and months planning our weddings and investing lots of money into it.  You can't predict if it's going to go off problem free, so that's why you sometimes just have to take the bad with the good, and leave it at that.  I guess what I'm trying to say is that although we all have a right to be angry or upset when things go wrong at our wedding... Is it worth it?   You can't change any of it now.  What's done is done.  Personally I think remembering the good things is what's important....  Because if you dwell on all the bad.  Eventually the only memories will be bad ones, and that's not how you should remember your wedding.