There is nothing wrong with wanting to get married and neither of you is wrong. I think if you didn't want to get married after 5 years then I would be questioning what is wrong.
Your situtation sounds exactly like mine and the poisition that I was in a year 1/2 ago. My FI and I had been dating exclusively for 5 years as well. We had a very loving, trusting relationship, people would always tell us we were the best couple they knew and we should get married. My family was wondering after 2 years why we hadn't considered marriage yet and after 5 they were actually starting to look down on my FI. I was also wondering where our relationship was going and how much longer I was going to let things continue.
My breaking point finally came right after Christmas of 05, his older brother ended up getting engaged to his girlfriend. This really upset me, because they had been going out for alot less time and they have a very unstable and unhealthy relationship. His girlfriend ended up getting pregnant 2-3 wks after dating, then he left for the military, they cheated on each other more than once, she spent 22,000 of his money and actually closed out his bank account while he was away. They sat around for 3 years and then finally got engaged. That was it for me, I was like they have done everything wrong under the sun but yet somehow they're engaged. What's wrong with me....
Even though I wanted to have a dream poprosal I was more worried about where my life was going. I took matters into my own hands and point blank asked him what we were doing? and where we were going? He told me the idea of marriage scared him and he didn't know if he was ready? It finally came down to a point where I said look you have to either p*** or get off the pot. It either happens soon or I may have to move on. As much as I loved him I had to face the fact that I could just be wasting my time.
This did spawn a agrument in which I went to my parents for three days (our only true arguement). He finally confessed that he had been thinking of marriage and had wanted to get me a ring for Christmas but wasn't able to afford it yet. He also wanted to surprise me and was a little upset that I had ruined it. He then promised me that we would be engaged by the summer and that he didn't want to hear anything more about it, because he still wanted to surprise me.
Thankfully we did get engaged July 6 last year. It wasn't exaclty the way I had always pictured it, but in hindsight who cares, its not the most important thing.
I would say if your truly worried about it, talk to your boyfriend and tell him your feelings. Then be patient. Sometimes men need a little push.
Jodi :0)
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