Wow, Im sorry to hear that ur relationship isnt going all that well right now. I have been engaged for 4 months now, and we dated for almost 6 years prior to that.
I have to agree with you on the "2 year mark" at about 2 years I was questioning whether he was what I wanted for the rest of my life, seeing my friends constantly switch from guy to guy, and going on all girls spring breaks and girls trips, I thought I wanted that again. I tried everything I could and he would not let me end the relationship because like you, he had already realized we were meant to be together.
At first I was really put off by this, and wanted space, I started trying to hang out with friends, and do girls events, but all I did was watch other couples and by the end of the night I would end up in tears, all I could think about was him, and how much I wanted to be at home in his arms.
After a short while we got back together and we have had our share of fights and dissagrements, but we just learn from them and our relationship continues to grow stronger...
I think you should stick with your plan, just don't give her too much space you don't want her to feel like you really could care less. You want to make her understand that you care about her more than anything or anyone else, if you can show her this and keep some distance, I am pretty sure she will come back to you. Just remember to keep a level head, us girls can get emotional, and do things we don't mean, so just let it roll and keep on loving her... It will work out in the end however it was meant to work out!
Hope this helps some, GOOD LUCK!
Message was edited by Stargrl1185 on Mar 9, 2007 8:30 AM
. She may be working on something like this as well and hopefully doesn't feel she's already lost you. I agree with the last poster not to give her too much distance, make sure to call or email her once a week before May so she knows you are still a part of her life....a consistant that isn't going anywhere just because it's a little hard (hypocritical I know since she ran, but trust me on this one) and I honestly believe you'll get your happily ever after. Good luck with it all as you sound like a good, decent and deserving guy.
I think the only step left to take is to grieve, and thats completely normal! Lick your wounds right now, and in time, move on with your head held high! Youll make a deserving girl very very happy.
