My husband was recently invited to his female cousin "Lisa's" wedding. Here is the thing: I myself (even though not part of my husband's family) had asked her 3 years ago to be part of our wedding party and she accepted. My husband had asked his other cousin, a male, to be a groomsman. They were both single, so i had arranged them to be partners in the party.. they had no problem with that.
Now it has come the time where "Lisa" is getting married and she had called my husband asking him to be a part of the wedding party and did not invite me along. I am confused and hurt because i would think if you ask a person who is married, along with being a family member, not a friend, you should also invite the spouse along to. Especially being that I had asked his cousin directly to be part of ours.
Please can someone or more give me your opinion(s) on this situation.
I'm a little confused - were you not invited to the wedding AT ALL, or just not asked to be in the wedding party? You really can't expect anyone to reciprocate with asking you to be a BM, since they may have family members or old friends that they "must" ask, but if you are not invited to the wedding, that's just weird.
Yea I pretty much agree, people are not obligated to have you in their wedding just because you asked her to be in yours. If you're still invited to the wedding, then I wouldn't sweat it. You have to think about people that have been in her life longer than you have. I wouldn't take it personal, she may ask you to do something else.
I agree with the other ladies here. If she didn't invite you to actually go to the wedding, then that is just plain rude and I think your husband should speak with his family. But, if she just didn't invite you to be IN the wedding, then too bad. It's her wedding, not yours. Just because you asked her doesn't mean she has to return the favor. No one is EVER obligated to ask anyone for anything.
There's absolutely no reason to include people in the bridal party just because they are part of a couple. As long as you're invited to the wedding, she has acted correctly. Each bride gets to choose those who are closest to her as her attendants, so your inviting her to be in your party does not obligate her to invite you to be in hers.
Man, my BP would be HUGE if I included everyone's spouses. My chance we have one whole couple in our party because we're close to both of them. But I already have 6BM's and 6 GM's.... and out of those I have 3 married people who's spouses won't be in the wedding party.... I don't believe anyone is offended. It's actually more fun to go to a wedding as just a guest (imo) because you get to just go and enjoy... so go and enjoy :-)
Just jumping in to say that everyone is right here, she is not obligated to invite you to become a bridesmaid. She may have other people she feels obligated to ask (and wants, of course) like sisters and close friends and just can't have a ton of bridesmaids. It doesn't sound as if you are too upset about it, just flustered. Just enjoy yourself at the wedding and be happy that you didn't have to shell out for the shower, bachelorette, and potentially ugly and expensive dress and shoes! I'm telling you, I can't WAIT to go to someone else's wedding as I haven't been to one since I have been married and I can't wait to sit back and just enjoy things without wondering if the party was going well!