Totallly Creeped out! nwr but please help sorry its kinda long too!

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Re: Totallly Creeped out! nwr but please help sorry its kinda long too!
Posted: Jul 7, 2006 11:48 AM Go to message in response to: Guest

I'm a dog person.  But where I live, my current lifestyle and my love of big dogs doesn't allow for me to have a dog.  :(  But DH and I have three cats.   You guys should have never taken this dog in.  BUT that's not the advice you want right now.

The best way to deal with your neighbor is to close the blinds.  Go to a room on the other side of the house, where she can't see you.  Since a fence won't work, buy privacy bushs and trees.  Plant them.  It helps. 


Michele and Kyle

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Posted: Jul 7, 2006 12:28 PM Go to message in response to: Guest

As far as the neighbor, you all need a fence pronto, and not just for the dog.  Also if you have a neighborhood association take up the light and her telling you she's always watching to them.  If you don't I'd consider the police.  I'd also plant privacy bushs and such.

 

As far as the dog, ditto fritz, how did you end up with such a large dog if you don't like dogs?  It doesn't sound like you H has time for this dog and it's not ok that you have gotten stuck with this large dog.  Overall, I think this is a big learning experience on standing your ground, once the dog moved in you H had 'won' and that dog wasn't going anywhere no matter what you said.  This is crazy,  also if you have a neighborhood association, do they know this dog that is on a chain is a pit-bull mix (that can make waves too)?

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Posted: Jul 7, 2006 12:43 PM Go to message in response to: Guest

 I know i learned the Dog lesson the hard way. On me the Dog and my Husband.  unfortuaintly  i had to learn the hard way. I just thought it was for a week... Never again.
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Posted: Jul 7, 2006 12:43 PM Go to message in response to: Guest

 I know i learned the Dog lesson the hard way. On me the Dog and my Husband.  unfortuaintly  i had to learn the hard way. I just thought it was for a week... Never again.
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Allie Posts : 20 Registered: 3/30/06
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Posted: Jul 7, 2006 1:07 PM Go to message in response to: tanalynn

I think it is a little cruel to have your dog tied up all day and all night.  My way of thinking is - if you wouldn't like it, they probably don't either.  Dogs are emotional, they need love and caring, not just food and shelter.  Even when you get a fence, if all you are going to do is let it run around your yard and feed it, it's still not good for a dog.  Why even have it then?  What good is having the dog doing you if you can't enjoy it by playing with it or taking it for walks, etc?  I'd consider trying to find a new home for it, someone who will take some time to train it and pay attention to it.

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littlefirefli Posts : 259 Registered: 3/30/06
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Posted: Jul 7, 2006 1:51 PM Go to message in response to: Allie

Well, it seems your still getting info an the dog, and al you really want is info on the neighbor, so here's what I got. First, like the others said put up and fence. Second, have some privacy bushes planted. Third, see if she b!tches now that ypu had the dog away from her for a day, if she still have something to complain about she is going to be a major problem. Have you ever watched that 80's show "Small Wonder"? There was a nosey neighbor in it, that is just what you may have. This is person with no life of their own so they watch yours. This may back fire, but you could start making friends with the other neighbors around you and see what she's been doing to them. (Though it could make you look like the noisey one.)

Other then that you may be stuck. You can put up no trespassing signs and call on her when you have proff that she did trespass. You could make a journal, stated earlier in the thered, and when she does something illeagle you have proof to take to the cops. Other than that, I'm sorry to say that your screwed. You can't pick who moves into your neighborhood, and good neighbors a hard to come by sometimes.   


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Posted: Jul 7, 2006 2:11 PM Go to message in response to: Guest

Misty, I just wanted to say I sympathize with you.  I am not a big dog person.  I don't hate them, but not a big fan.  I would never have a dog in the house, let alone a big dog.  Not only is it just a disaster in terms of the dog chewing things up (my friend had a dog who chewed almost everything she owned), but I think it is very unkind to the dog, especially a large dog, to keep it in the house.  Dogs are animals, not people, and need to be outside with room to roam.  I think if a person does not have a big yard, they shouldn't have a large dog, because it is mean to keep the poor animal cooped up in the house.

My advice would be to, as others have suggested, build a fence.  Then the dog can be free to roam the back yard.  If it gets very cold in the winter such that it is dangerous for the dog to be outside, you can bring him into the garage or basement until it warms up again.  My FH kind of wants a dog, and I have said we can have one when we get a house if we have a big enough fenced-in yard that he will be free to roam.  I don't think a dog belongs inside.

I do not think keeping him on a chain is necessarily cruel.  My neighbor had a dog who was almost always on a dog run when I was growing up, and he seemed like a perfectly happy dog.  However, if it were my preference, I would not have him chained, but, rather, simply fence in the yard.

One additional thing I am concerned about is that you said the dog is part Pit Bull.  In my opinion, Pit Bulls are too dangerous to live amongs humans, and it should not be legal to own one.  Every story I've heard of a person being mauled to death by a dog involved a Pit Bull.  Perhaps it would be best to give the dog away to a wildlife preserve or something and get a less dangerous dog, maybe a nice Great Dane if your FH really wants a big dog.

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Posted: Jul 7, 2006 3:31 PM Go to message in response to: Guest

Pitbulls are not inherently dangerous dogs.  Yet people continue to say that they are (their agression is the result of abuse, same as any other dog).  However, if the dog's past is not known extra caution should be taken.  Further, pitts are very smart and very strong and very ACTIVE - in other words NOT the kind of dog that should be tied up all day.  That leads to a bored dog which leads to a distructive dog.  Essentially, ignoring a smart strong dog b/c you think it will be distructive is actually what CAUSES the dog's bad behavior in the first place.  

 

And a staggering number of really good dogs die at high kill shelters every year because people believe these myths and 1. don't adopt them or 2. treat them as described above and then get rid of them with the dog behaves badly.  Let's not perpetuate such terrible myths.

 

Info on Pitts:

http://www.austinlostpets.com/kidskorner/2October/pitbull.htm

http://www.dogbreedinfo.com/americanpitbull.htm

http://www.nyx.net/~mbur/apbtfaqfaq.html#q2 

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Posted: Jul 7, 2006 3:37 PM Go to message in response to: Guest

And to the OP -if you decide to give up the dog, I suggest going through www.petfinder.com or a similar organization which helps ensure the dog is placed in a good home and does not end up in a high kill shelter.

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Posted: Jul 7, 2006 7:18 PM Go to message in response to: tanalynn

This is what I would do if I were you.

1) Put up a privacy fence. I hate the idea that people can pear through the fence, so I put up a double layer. I got the 4"wide fence boards, and put them up with a 2" space between them. Then I put another layer of 4" boards covering the spacing. It looks really attractive, and you can't see through.

2)  I don't know, but something seems wrong about her having a flood light on your house.  Maybe check the ordinances?  Otherwise, I'd get really good curtains.  Don't give her anything to look at.  

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Posted: Jul 7, 2006 7:40 PM Go to message in response to: Guest

I have heard that one of the reasons pit bulls are dangerous is that the signs that a dog is angry/about to attack are bred out of them so that they will be better fighting dogs.  I'm sure not all pit bulls are dangerous, but it's something to be aware of.

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Posted: Jul 7, 2006 7:51 PM Go to message in response to: Guest

Stare back. Seriously, when you catch her looking, stare her down. I'm not going to get involved in the dog situation, because all the other ladies offered really sound advice, and it sounds like it is your desire is to find a better home for the dog. I've let my FH let me  talk me into things I was against, and then I've ended up looking like the bad guy. So I understand about that. Anyway, I think if you do  find a better home for the dog, the situation may resolve itself, as this woman may have been trying to intimidate you as a way of gaining leverage to help the dog. If you get rid of the dog, and her watching continues walk up to the  end of you property, and watch her back. I know it's childish to get into a staring contest, but I really don't think it'll come to that if you resolve the situation with the dog.

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Posted: Jul 8, 2006 8:05 AM Go to message in response to: Guest

"He is in my opinion to big for the house, and doesn't hold it in.  one of the last days in the house was while i was moving in. he was laying down, stood up peed in his bed, walked around the room peeing in a big L. He never barkes, just goes when he wants, I couldn't take it after that! Not to mention that he broke his kennel the first day. Hes a big strong Dog and needs to be outdoors."


AND YOU ONLY TRIED HIM IN THE HOUSE FOR A WEEK??? I do not think you are being fair to the dog here. YOU NEED MORE THAN A WEEK TO GET A DOG TRAINED. A dog needs constant training, reenforcement of good behaviors, which is hard to accomplish when both you and your DH work all day. Don't blame FIDO here.

Pitts, Rottweilers, Shepards, all have bad raps for being mean dogs, ask your mail carrier which dog was listed as the top biter... the black lab took that honor.

I think you are being very selfish with chaining the dog outside, after only giving him a 1/2 assed chance for a week being in the house, an option is to build him an enclosure or get the invisible fence. I can fully appreciate feeling like the dog is a large piece of furry furniture with feet around the house, but if he was a house pet before you came, and now you banish him to the outside, YES YOU ARE BEING CRUEL.

 In some states like GA, you cannot chain a Pit either full or Mix. You may want to be honest with your vet with pics about the living conditions of your pet, I feel your neighbor has a legitimate gripe if he is a barker, there are ways to deal with this, GET A DOG TRAINER for not only your sanity but this way before you do decide to "give him away" you will know that you have tried everything, Pets are NOT disposable.

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Posted: Jul 8, 2006 8:15 AM Go to message in response to: Guest

"One additional thing I am concerned about is that you said the dog is part Pit Bull. In my opinion, Pit Bulls are too dangerous to live amongs humans, and it should not be legal to own one. Every story I've heard of a person being mauled to death by a dog involved a Pit Bull. Perhaps it would be best to give the dog away to a wildlife preserve or something and get a less dangerous dog, maybe a nice Great Dane if your FH really wants a big dog."

 Pits can be the most loveable cuddly large puppy types around if raised right, as for your friends chewing issue, TRAINING TRAINING TRAINING. If a dog is raised to fight, of course they don't make good pets. If a dog is raised to protect property it may not be the wisest choice for a housepet.

"One additional thing I am concerned about is that you said the dog is part Pit Bull.  In my opinion, Pit Bulls are too dangerous to live amongs humans, and it should not be legal to own one.  Every story I've heard of a person being mauled to death by a dog involved a Pit Bull.  Perhaps it would be best to give the dog away to a wildlife preserve or something and get a less dangerous dog, maybe a nice Great Dane if your FH really wants a big dog."

A wildlife preserve???? GET REAL. If you take a pitbull or a rotty to a shelter, the life expectancy is measured in hours, not days HOURS, they are hard to adopt. Why are pits dangerous? Their jaw strength, and they do not immedately release the jaw after they chomp. For people who expressly breed them and inbreed them too closely, yes this is a MAJOR issue with the breed. the pit bull is not the problem scarlett, irresponsible OWNERS are. FYI a great dane can kill a small just just as quick as any other breed, including a standard poodle based on size alone.

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Posted: Jul 8, 2006 10:51 AM Go to message in response to: Guest

Don't any of you people read the thread before continuing to post about the dog?? The OP already said she's giving the dog away, and that wasn't even what she wanted advice on. She wants to know what to do about her nosy b!tch of a neighbor.

Tell the nosy neighbor to mind her own damn business, or you're gonna call the cops on her a$$!

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