I have two middle names, so I don't want to hypenate mine, but I don't really want to change it either. It's the one link that I feel I have to my paternal grandparents (not blood related, cos dad is adopted)
My plan is to legally keep my name, but socially go by my fh's. That way, we can still be 'Mr and Mrs X". My cousin's wife kept her maiden name and my family complains at having to write "Mr. X and Ms. v" on letters...big deal rolls eyes, but this is my plan anyway just to make it easier.
Posted: Apr 28, 2006 9:27 PMGo to messagein response to: BirdLover
That's what I did. I may eventually change it--but I'm not into it right now. I like my name--and getting married didn't mean I had to change it. Simple as it may sound, figuring out that last part was a real epiphany for me.
Posted: May 1, 2006 3:01 PMGo to messagein response to: MrsDupont
My FH's mom kept her maiden name, and his ( and his brothers) middle name is her last name. I actaully really like it this way, because FH's grandmother was remarried after her 1st husband, FH's grandfather, died, so I will be the first Mrs. F in the family for about 40 years :) Also, calling me Mrs. F won't be as weird, since that isn't his mom. My parents (especially my mom) were really sad that i wasn't keeping my name, but I love his last name, and I will be so happy to be Mr. and Mrs F :)
Wow! That's so sweet of your FH to want to take your name!
I really need to talk to mine about this. At first I thought I would just change to his, no big deal, but now I'm not so sure about it. I'm thinking I might just add his name to the end of mine, making my current last name into a second middle name. I don't know what I'll do though. Because of my job it might be a real pain to change it at all, but its been done before.
I don't want to change my last name but fh is insisting on it. I love my last name it's special to me. My dad adopted me when I was five and gave me his last name, I don't want to give that up, I would even be willing to hyphenate but he wants nothing of it. So I may have to make my last name my second middle name. I didn't think of that before but that would work. I'll run it by him.
That is so awsome of your FH! I haven't wanted to change my name either...it is a simple name, easy to pronounce and spell...and it's me. I grew up with it and it's my name. FH has a wierd name that is always mispronounced, but he is so proud of it. He is really connected with his dad, and apperently the name is passed down from some ancient viking line or smth...anyway it's really important to him that his wife have his name, but I am still unsure .